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I am having major anxiety about my decision. My surgery date is March 12th. I cant stop reading and looking for information to help make the decision easier. I am worried about long term effects of the surgery. I don't want to end up with any new or worse problems. I already have low Vitamin D and iorn and am terrible abouy taking those supplements regularly and after surgery will have to take many more on a regular basis. My hair has thinned over yhe years and cant afford to get any thinner. I can already see my scalp now. I have tried and failed at evety diet and wouldn't be planning wls if I wasn't ready to make a lifelong change. I just cant stop worrying about the long term effects of the surgery itself and there isn't a lot of data on the sleeve since it is pretty new. Anyone else worried?

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A healthy dose of worry is normal when facing a major life-altering surgery. However, you're going to be responsible for your health post-op. If you have unresolved medical issues, what are you going to do so that you can stick with it? You've acknowledged that you're not good at taking required supplements, so what are you doing to correct it? You say you're ready to make the life long change, so what are you doing to back that statement up? It's normal to worry and nobody here is going to say they went in to surgery without any second thoughts (at least none that I've found). So, you've got to ask yourself if you've prepared for it.

There isn't a lot of long term data. We are the VSG guinea pigs now that VSG is being done as a stand alone procedure and not just step one of a RNY. For me, though, this was my last ditch effort. I had 36 years to be unhealthy and to subject myself to untold numbers of diets. I had to come to terms, though, with really being responsible for my own health. It's not easy. Some days I don't want to eat. Other days I don't want to eat what's right for me. My problems didn't magically disappear, and I don't know that they ever will. It gets easier, but it's not easy... yet.

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I am having major anxiety about my decision. My surgery date is March 12th. I cant stop reading and looking for information to help make the decision easier. I am worried about long term effects of the surgery. I don't want to end up with any new or worse problems. I already have low Vitamin D and iorn and am terrible abouy taking those supplements regularly and after surgery will have to take many more on a regular basis. My hair has thinned over yhe years and cant afford to get any thinner. I can already see my scalp now. I have tried and failed at evety diet and wouldn't be planning wls if I wasn't ready to make a lifelong change. I just cant stop worrying about the long term effects of the surgery itself and there isn't a lot of data on the sleeve since it is pretty new. Anyone else worried?

I think we all have been there. Try and think about the long term effects this way; would you be around long term without this surgery? My answer was no. Enough said...that's why I got this surgery. Good luck!

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I have had many days like this!! One day I looked at myself and told myself this is my time to change and get control of my life!! Sometimes I look wayyy to much in to things when really I shouldn't. Educating yourself is important... we all have our own journey!

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You are not alone. I think we all have (and should) spend time thinking about this surgery. You would be careless if you didn't think about all sides so its a good thing. But the important thing to remember is that it's a good start to gaining control of your life. If you are taking certain meds, you may find you don't need them anymore once the weight comes off. Wow what a plus! So many other good things will trickle down. We all have eachother on this site. I read all the posts and try to keep things in perspective. My experience won't be the same as someone else's. this helps to keep me from freaking out. Just keep posting. We will hold you up. You will hold us up when it's our turn! :). My date is march 20

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Sometimes I look wayyy to much in to things when really I shouldn't.

Amen to this! The more I go through all the what-if's, and the more I try to project into the future - the more freaked out I get about my upcoming surgery.

I think I just need to let go, trust in the process, and realize that there are always going to be some 'unknowns' when stepping into something new...and that I'm spinning my wheels trying to figure out the answers to the unknowns. (It's just my nature to analyze and look for logical answers, I think.)

But also the way I figure it....there are sooo many people out there that are glad they went through with it. That, and my doctor wouldn't be doing this procedure if she didn't believe in it, or it's long term success. For example, my surgeon told me she's cut waaay down on performing the lap band, because she no longer feels good about it....so I need to keep reminding myself that she's got my back!

Don't know if these thoughts help anyone, but it's what I'm going to use to get over my daily freakouts. :unsure:

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