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I am pre-op with a surgery date Easter week. I have only told a few people about this but it amazes me how many people have opinions about MY weight and knowing that I am going to lose it makes them more honest about it. I am overweight at 5'5 and 250 pounds, but I never realized the negativity extent about it until now. I guess I am bracing for the compliments that I will be receiving post surgery because it shows how I was looked at with the weight on. I will always be that girl that had the weight problem...and I want to protect her. Does that make sense? Maybe not!

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I totally understand! That's why I only told family....didn't want all the comments, looks & everyone watching my weight loss!

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Btw...my blood pressure and overall health is pushing me to do this...not looks (I am sure that was true of most of you)! I just want to be there for my family!

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I have only told a few people, mostly family. I guess I am just bracing myself for the comments after I lose the weight from people who don't know. I guess most compliments are meant to be nice, but they can hurt some.

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Oh my, now that my weight loss is so obvious, I am lying through my teeth to people when I get the question, "how did you do it?". I say I'm eating a lot of Protein and limited carbs and training for a 5k. That seems to satisfy people. I have only told my family and a couple of coworkers. I figure it's no one's business, and honestly, it makes me uncomfortable talking about my health history- too private!

-Kendra

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i was sleeved this past wednesday. i didn't tell many people and don't plan on it.

i just don't want to hear it. especially from the friends who say "no way, you aren't fat!!" when you mention gaining a few pounds or that your feet hurt because you're heavy. that's almost worse than someone saying "dang, you're fat!"

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I've been honest when people ask about my surgery so far but it is uncomfortable. Just trying to come up with a good way to explain it to a lay person. Most everyone has been very supportive though. I will continue to tell people because when I start to really look as though I've lost a lot of weight I will have to say something and I am a horrible liar. One way or the other it seems to be an uncomfortable moment either way...

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Oh my, now that my weight loss is so obvious, I am lying through my teeth to people when I get the question, "how did you do it?". I say I'm eating a lot of Protein and limited carbs and training for a 5k. That seems to satisfy people. I have only told my family and a couple of coworkers. I figure it's no one's business, and honestly, it makes me uncomfortable talking about my health history- too private!

-Kendra

Your not lying...you ARE concentrating on Protein & limiting carbs! Just leave it at that!

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I told my husband and 2 kids and they understood. I told one of my sisters and it's interesting how she tries to be understanding, but yet puts me down for no will power and she was the one I thought would not criticize and be supportive. On the other hand, I told my brother and thought he would criticize but he didnt and just said to let him know how it goes. You just never know with people. Only one person at work knows that I "may" need to have part of my stomach removed. Otherwise I'm just going to say dieting and watching what I eat. They've all seen me lose weight and gain it back. So hopefully the only difference will be that I am able to keep it of this time.

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i was sleeved this past wednesday. i didn't tell many people and don't plan on it.

i just don't want to hear it. especially from the friends who say "no way, you aren't fat!!" when you mention gaining a few pounds or that your feet hurt because you're heavy. that's almost worse than someone saying "dang, you're fat!"

Dust, I hope you do not mind my asking, my husband owns a Jui Jitsu school and while I and planning on a revision from band to sleeve, he is considering a sleeve. He is worried, what, if any impact it will have in practicing his art? I would love to hear what you think.

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Dust, I hope you do not mind my asking, my husband owns a Jui Jitsu school and while I and planning on a revision from band to sleeve, he is considering a sleeve. He is worried, what, if any impact it will have in practicing his art? I would love to hear what you think.

i'm only a few days out, so i don't speak from personal experience.

i'm 35 and, other than my weight, in very good health and decent shape. the doc told me i could go back to anything i want - jiu jitsu and judo included - after 4 weeks. it might be like 4-6 weeks instead, but regardless the message was that it will not impact my training at all once everything is healed up and good to go.

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I told everyone that I work with. They have all been very supportive. The only person in my family that knows I did this is my son. I'm not going to tell anyone else. It's interesting how many people don't understand what this surgery is. One of my friends that I told thought I was saying that I'm going to have lyposuction. LMAO! I'm did this to become a healthier person. I wasn't having any luck with losing weight on my own and knew that if I kept going down the path I was going, I would end up with health problems that I didn't want. My only issues that I have had before surgery was edema in my legs and because of that, was having a hard time doing any excersises. Now that I've had the surgery, the edema has been cut in half. I can't remember when my ankles last were so skinny, and I'm loving it!

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Btw...my blood pressure and overall health is pushing me to do this...not looks (I am sure that was true of most of you)! I just want to be there for my family!

Ditto!!! I was so sick before ugh my health was headed down hill only. Now that I'm at goal it's hard to look back and remember how much life was a struggle to live.

Saved my life!

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There are few PERSONAL things in our lives that are so visible to everyone we are know. I am an outgoing person, but like to leave certain things in my life private. I am glad I am not the only one who feels that way.

On the other hand, I am a great believer in the fact that what you go through can help someone else. I have already talked to one of my best friends about what I am doing and she is looking into it for herself. I am so happy that we have a forum in which what people share about their own lives helps others.

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