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Ok so im 2 1/2 months post op and have lost a decent amount of weight. Being a ticker woman ive never had a problem with my husband

"hurting" me when we intimate lol but ive noticed that as ive been losing weight its actually become alittle more uncomfortable. Has anyone else experienced this??

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There's a lot less padding down there now, meaning that he is able to go deeper. He's probably hitting your cervix, which can be quite uncomfortable! I've had this experience and it can hurt!

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this is one of those posts that I read and think "I wish I had that problem"...lol...j/k...I don't mean to undermine your concern...I just don't have any insight in this area

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I've noticed it as well. I'm almost 3 months out an I keep joking with my fiancé that he just keeps growing :). I'm not complaining- but I have noticed some positions are slightly more uncomfortable than they were pre-surgery

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So you KNOW the guys are reading and just not commenting! lol. I would say

"Less cushion for the pushin' " I don't think you have a medical issue.

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It is a change in how deep he can go now. Certain positions can get a little uncomfortable for me now. I have found a vibrator on my clit (can i SAY that??) will distract me from the discomfort & increase my pleasure. I know.....TMI! ????

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I told a guy I was mad at him for "punching my cervix!" LOL That was when I was down about 90. Now that I'm down 150 I can't imagine what it would be like to be with him again. But, yes, it's just an issue of going too deep. He might have to be a little slower and gentler now. Work with it and see what positions feel best... probably one where you can have more control.

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HAHAH thanks ladies!!! We've tried the ky jell and toys etc and haha i knew it wasnt him getting bigger lol. Thanks again girls:)

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I would say try taking it really slow with your man. Pretend like your dating again. I'm sure you'll learn how to "receive" him again once you adjust to your new sexy body :) good luck, have fun and enjoy ;)

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For me, I have noticed that my sex drive has dropped to zilch. As my weight decreases, my husband wants to intimate more and more-and I don't. He is frustrated and I don't know what to say.

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For me' date=' I have noticed that my sex drive has dropped to zilch. As my weight decreases, my husband wants to intimate more and more-and I don't. He is frustrated and I don't know what to say.[/quote']

I am the same way! Before surgery I was always ready to go but now I don't have much drive. I haven't said anything just let him but I wish I wanted it more because its not my boyfriend's fault. What is this?!! It sucks.

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Fat stores estrogen and as you lose fat you get a big influx of estrogen in your system. Having too much estrogen is a big cause of low libido- but so is having too little estrogen!

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OMG so feeling you I dont understand I dont want sex!!! I swear I need like female Viagra!! LOL I just feel bad for my hubby cuz before it was on like donkey con :D and now Im just like dont touch me I dont wanna :angry: !!!

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So you KNOW the guys are reading and just not commenting! lol. I would say

"Less cushion for the pushin' " I don't think you have a medical issue.

With "LADIES ONLY" in the title, you are correct. This is the first thread we all looked at.

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Not me! Lol

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