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michelle38    23

michelle38
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Tomorrow is the big day. And this morning I'm a nerveous wreck. Thinking what if something happens to me and my babies lose their mom. I'm doing this for them. But scared they may lose you. Does anyone else feel this way?

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michelle38    23

michelle38
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Scared they will lose me

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cara    2

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I felt the same way, that something could happen. I was sleeved Jan 30 . Everything is going well. You will be fine I wish you good luck. Let me know how you are doing. God bless you. You will be fine .

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Kim Ster    111

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Its normal to be scared and nervous....complications are rare. The risk of complications outweigh the comorbities of being obese. Have faith in the Lord and your surgeon to get you thru....I was sleeved on Election day 2012 and its the best thing I could have ever done for myself. Wish I would have done it years ago. The weight is falling off and I feel amazing..........

Godspeed

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michelle38    23

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Thanks Kim. So glad u r doing well. I knew I could come here and people would understand.

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LovinCheryl    22

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Its normal to be scared and nervous....complications are rare. The risk of complications outweigh the comorbities of being obese. Have faith in the Lord and your surgeon to get you thru....I was sleeved on Election day 2012 and its the best thing I could have ever done for myself. Wish I would have done it years ago. The weight is falling off and I feel amazing..........

Godspeed

I am scared too but I am going to do it. You have lost a lot in three months. Inspiring!

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Delena2/11    59

Delena2/11
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Michelle, We are sleeve sisters! My big day is tomorrow too. Lets keep in touch and hopefully support each other. I am sure I will get more nervous as the day goes by. Right now I feel encouraged to know that I will never fight with food in quite the same way again. Does that make sense?

Best of luck and I will send you some positive energy and look forward to hearing about your experience when we are both on the other side! Dee

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NewKristen    356

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I will be praying for you guys for peace and courage!I had similar fear. I finally just realized that I wasn't sure how long I would be around if I didn't do this!

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KevLev12282012    25

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The fear it normal. I had to be in the hospital for two days before my surgery. When my kids left to go home the day before my surgery, I lost it. I didn't let them see me do that, but after they walked out of the room, I had an intense emotional moment. What if that was the last time they'd see me.

Surgery of any kind always carries that sort of fear and apprehension. Knowing we'll be put to sleep and not having control of what's being done to our bodies is a scary concept.

Rest assured, many of us have been there and it's perfectly normal.. and the best part, you'll be just fine and on your way to the new you!

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nyc8dove    40

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The fear it normal. I had to be in the hospital for two days before my surgery. When my kids left to go home the day before my surgery' date=' I lost it. I didn't let them see me do that, but after they walked out of the room, I had an intense emotional moment. What if that was the last time they'd see me.

Surgery of any kind always carries that sort of fear and apprehension. Knowing we'll be put to sleep and not having control of what's being done to our bodies is a scary concept.

Rest assured, many of us have been there and it's perfectly normal.. and the best part, you'll be just fine and on your way to the new you![/quote']

I must admit after reading this post I had to Google the mortality rate....and as of 2011 its 1 out of 800....which doesn't seem bad. Its still a little scary. best of luck to everyone!

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michelle38    23

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Thanks so much 40andsleeven. It would be great to stay contacted and support one another. I pray for us and all other sleevers tomorrow. What state are u in?

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michelle38    23

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Thanks kevlev. It's scary to think we doing this for our kids but something bad could go wrong. I know God will keep me safe.

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doreen70    268

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I felt the same way. Was the most nervous the night before and the morning of. I was lucky to be the first case, so once I got to the hospital I didn't have a lot if time to worry. And god bless them for giving me a hit of Versed once my nurse started my IV. I was nice and relaxed when I tooled into the OR. My CRNA was whispering in my ear as everyone bustled around "I had this surgery too. You are going to be so happy". All the RNs introduced themselves and were kind. As a nurse, I appreciated that they treated me like I was their family member.

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Mensch    150

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Fear is human. But we all had it and we all got through it. Remember WHY you are doing this....is it partially so that you can live a long life for your children? Focus there. If you have a religious/spiritual side, dwell there.

Just know that once you are off that operating table, a whole new life awaits and we are all here to support you as you integrate into it.

I'll see you when you cross the surgery finish line!

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doreen70    268

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I remembered this saying "worrying is like praying got something that you don't want". Instead, have a quiet conversation with God. It is what settled me down so I could sleep.< /p>

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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