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Almost three weeks out, lost 23lbs, but been a bit depressed. I thought i was ready for this :( been crying the past three days. I just want to scream!

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FOOD! Just having a hard time with it and on top of that i cant stand the indigestion after and while i eat

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It will get better. I am assuming cuz I wont know til after tomorrow but I think its normal. You are in mourning, its grief. We gave up something we loved and turned to in times of need. Itsonly temporary. You will get thru this and you will one day be able to eat yur faves but just in moderation. You will get better and maybe a good cry is all you need. If the feelings do not subside tho you may want to talkto youdoctor.

Be happy sweetie :)

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It's really normal what your going through! You are going through so many changes physically and emotionally.

The surgery really throws everything out of whack for a while. Give it time it will get better

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Just keep your mind on the prize:). Think of an event or plan something to look forward too, that you'll need a new sassy outfit for, say in six months. Keep yourself busy right now...get your mind off food.< /p>

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sorry to hear your a little depressed....try to focus on how great you'll look in a few months and how much healthier you'll be.

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Thanks for the encouragement

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I am feeling a bit of depression myself. I am not up to doing much yet so to much tv and time to think. I hope it gets better. It is such a big adjustment to our lives, I don't think I realized how much until now. I know its a positive change but all change can be hard.

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One thing my psych suggested is to keep an index card or photos of what my ultimate reason for the weight loss goal is in my purse or on me at all times so that if I think of food I'll remember that whatever it is I want right now is not as important as the long term goal which is to live for my kids and grandkids.

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I am 3 weeks Post Op also, and feel depressed. Have been crying for no reason. Went to the "shrink" she told me is was a normal way to feel, my body and mind have been through a lot of changes very quickly and it will take time to feel myself. Just remember why I had WLS and stay positive, she also incresed my aniti~depresenat for the next month.

Good Luck

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It took me about 3 months to be able to eat the foods I enjoy... life has become normal. I go out with friends...eat in restaurants ..... tiny portions of course. But, I am there and enjoying time with friends....I was really worried at the 6 week Mark....I felt so drained all the time..... sometime between the 8th and 10th week it all changed. I hope the same for you! Best Wishes Tina

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I am feeling a bit of depression myself. I am not up to doing much yet so to much tv and time to think. I hope it gets better. It is such a big adjustment to our lives' date=' I don't think I realized how much until now. I know its a positive change but all change can be hard.[/quote']

I am not up to doing much either.... I think going back to work even though i hate it may be a good idea... I know it will get better it is just taking forever

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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