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You just touched on a subject I was going to bring up about "normal" or "skinny" or whatever we aren't and may get a chance to become.

My son has been very ill since birth. He has a rare blood disorder which has caused developmental delays due to his frequent and prolonged illnesses. He has a feeding disorder and prior to the last year I had to isolate him from other children (because they're all germ factories LOL) so he did so much better with adults than children. But now, as he gets healthier (he will grow out of his illness but the delays are still a challenge) I find I'm fine with being the skinny loud one It is who I am...was when I was fat too LOL but what I have trouble in life with is how to have a "normal" child.

We have our "normals" which aren't normal...my little guy and yours, as well as weight issues. We learn to adapt to our normal and then we get thrown back into the bigger (and different) normal and ummmm well it feels not so normal!

I haven't changed since I've lost weight, but then I've been thin in the last ten years so fat was not normal for me. This makes my transition easier, but honestly, I'm the same person I was fat or thin...I just wear smaller clothing. I have changed since my son was born. He is my only surviving child and I haven't done "normal". So I'm probably over protective, overly fearful, and have to talk myself out of being a helicopter mom on a regular basis. I'm also overly sensitive to his issues that remain because I'm his mom and I know he's got a soft heart that gets hurt easier than most....yet I know he has to experience that as it's part of growing up. I struggle with this stuff daily and much more so now that he's "normal" (he appears to be anyhoo and goes to a school without a special needs designation attached). It's hard to have your "normal" screwed with, even when the changes are good ones!

I think you're going to do just fine and yes you may fumble a bit, but remember WE ALL DO! Just keep smiling and you'll get through it. Tell me you haven't done that with your little guy's situation more than once???? You just kinda have to have it in you darling.

Wow! This has really touched me. I have smiled through so many struggles with my son I can't even count. But as you say I am a roll with the punches kind of girl. I fall and bounce back up. (Wow! just realized when I fall after I get skinny it is gonna hurt my bony ass without any cushion to bounce on.) You are right. I will find my "new normal".

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No one raises a special needs child without developing a thick skin and the ability to laugh a lot :) Well I suppose some do but they aren't much fun to be around a lot! This weight loss thing is easy in comparison :) And you KNOW it!

They make these cushions I see in the back of people mag when I'm traveling...they slip into your pants and give you a nice fat butt. Perhaps a pair might come in handy :P heh heh

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I needs a pair of those! I have noassatall disease at 245lbs! What's gonna happened 100lbs from now?

You'll have to just sit on the dog....

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Girl I could weigh 60 lbs and 50 of it would be ass.

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I would have that 50 on my gut! I look like a watermellom with toothpick arms and legs and big ole fat face! I hate the fat girls with skinny, pretty faces! LOL

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Girl I could weigh 60 lbs and 50 of it would be ass.

The other 10 would be in my boobs.... It's killing me!

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Ok ladies. I did it. I started a blog. "The Princess and the Sleeve" hope you will follow me.

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Ok ladies. I did it. I started a blog. "The Princess and the Sleeve" hope you will follow me.

How do we find it?

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I say embrace it. Shine with all your light, and whoever cant hadle it better get a pair of shades ;)

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Although, I haven't been sleeved yet. (I was approved today Yay!) I have lost all of my weight before and it was scary learning to be thin. I honestly, don't think I was emotionally prepared for it. Something that really bothered me was all of the positive attention from Men. It made me angry because to me I was the same person with the same personality. I almost became bitter and untrusting. Always thinking, would this person have liked the "fat" me. You will learn how to be the thinner version of yourself. Especially with such a strong personality. Now you'll just have a body to match the sassy-ness. ;)

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How do we find it?

I think by going to my profile. Not real sure.

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Here is link to my blog. Hope to see some of your comments there.

http://www.verticalsleevetalk.com/blog/2215-the-princess-and-the-sleeve/

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