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Vanity to a very small degree. Here's what pushed me all the way over the edge. My mom, who was in perfect health and at a perfect weight, had a massive stroke on Dec. 22 of last year. Believe it or not, that's not what convinced me. She spent A LOT of time in rehab because of paralysis. Her roommate at one place was an obese woman, and it took 4 to 5 staff people to help her up and down. It was nearly impossible to bathe her, and the weight of her own body broke her leg during physical therapy. She probably only weighed 250 pounds. Obese, but not THAT big. I never ever want to be in that boat!! THAT'S what convinced me to be banded!

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In my case, at my age, it was all about health. I used to run, be active and had a good BMI but a series of events (and my own food issues) led me to gain a ton of weight and now I can't climb stairs without getting winded, I feel sluggish, no energy and have lots of wierd musculoskeletal pains. I HATE being like this. I also have hypertension, bad cholesterol and mild/moderate osteoporosis. Im staring at diabetes. So, it's definitely a health thing for me. I gotta get serious about my body at my age if I want to have any quality years left.:sick

Cheers,

Susan

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vanity? not exactly.

Once I was leaving on a camping trip and my husband rebuffed my attempt to give him a little hug and a peck. I was shocked and then realized that there were other moms there and he was embarrassed of me. Since then I've noticed he and my kids ignoring me frequently in public.

I am a civil engineer and I have to compete with other engineers to get good projects. I never get projects that haven't been passed up by all the other engineers. It has been suggested to me that it is the way I look.

I am an embarrassment to myself, my family, and my employer. I feel so exposed and mortified.

Is that vanity?

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All of the above. Vanity : because I was always one of those women who women hated and men loved because I was so pretty, I never lacked for male companionship, and I loved going out, I had a very active social life. Now, I spend a lot of time staying home because I refuse to buy any bigger clothes, and my self esteem is shot to hell. Health: because my right knee is beginning to ache, and my blood pressure is starting to edge up. Family: I have a family history of heart disease, diabetes, osteoarthritis, and of course, obesity. Career: Because as has already been stated, the world we live in is very image conscious, and if you do not look the part you are not going to get the job.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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