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I was also struggling with this issue. In my case I am 39. I have a 2 yr old and would have like to be pregnant already but it hasn't happened yet. For all I know maybe i am not getting pregnant because of my weight. I decided to go ahead with my surgery on Dec 10th. My surgeon encouraged me to have the surgery first so I will have a healthier pregnancy. Optimally he would like me to wait at least a year to get pregnant but when I expressed my concerns about being 39 already, he said if all goes well I might be able to start trying after 6 months. I just hope I don't miss out on having another baby because I chose to do this surgery first.

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I have been told so many different things about what's the best decision: have sleeve first and lose weight then have my second child or visa Versa. At this point I have decided to have the surgery, lose the weight, then have a second baby. I am just very scared that I will gain back lots of weight during pregnancy. Does anyone have insight/been through this that can shed some light for me?! Thanks so much

They recommend baby first, but if you want the surgery you have to wait a minimum of 2 years for it to be "safe". My friend had bypass surgery and now has 3 children and is still in good shape so it depends on what you want to do. Everyone has a different body so it may respond different I would talk to your doctor. Good Luck

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They recommend baby first' date=' but if you want the surgery you have to wait a minimum of 2 years for it to be "safe". My friend had bypass surgery and now has 3 children and is still in good shape so it depends on what you want to do. Everyone has a different body so it may respond different I would talk to your doctor. Good Luck[/quote']

Just curious who is "they"? Your surgeon? I think it all depends on your own doctor and what they believe in. I've asked a few surgeons/doctors this question and every one of them suggested surgery first and then baby. All said your body is in so much stress being overweight and then toss a baby into it it can make it much worse.

But again each Dr has their own idea of what they think is right. But I had this conversation with my pcp, ob, and my surgeon. Also a couple different surgeons until I picked the one that I'm with now.

Good luck ladies.

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I can tell you from experience that being obese and pregnant is hard! With both pregnancies I had high blood pressure and got over 300 pounds I was extremely depressed after my first one because I wad so heavy and I decided to get the surgery 7 weeks after my second child and I feel amazing! Both of my sons were born early and were very small but healthy thank God! I'd recommend getting healthy first.

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I am a nurse & mother to a 1 yr old. I am having surgery first & fully intend to have more children but I cannot imagine running after my baby while pregnant w/another at this weight! I had a great pregnancy but Ive gained weight since then so no thank you! The weight loss surgery would just make you a high-risk pregnancy...my surgeon & OB are both supportive of the surgery then baby approach!

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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