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Ugh. Why Do Females Have To Be So Mean To Each Other?

Susan 2.0

By Susan 2.0, in The Gals' Room

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abetterme4.2    268

abetterme4.2
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Insecure or just plain hateful. I don't get that nastiness.

Girl who works in the same building had a comment I overheard: "reeeaaalllyyyy nice girl with a pretty face. Too bad she's fat."

The man she said it to responded: ."I'd take her home ANY day of the week before you. At some point, there is going to have to be a conversation and she has you beat, hands down."

Although i was prepared to give her my own verbal abuse, I could have ran back and kissed him!

Don't let her nastiness get you down. :)

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rainbows    35

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Because she was stupid!! I dont like mean girls at all!!!! Congrats on the flirting tho!!!

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isajck    229

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Stopped by Panera bread for a takeout of their yummy chicken Soup broth & the guy behind the prep counter flirted with me so I flirted back. As I'm walking away I hear a female, practically yelling, say: "I knew it had to be a BIG girl" & then laugh.

Why do females have to be so mean to each other?

Call me crazy but this doesn't really sound like an insult towards you. It sounds like two co-workers that know each other really well, specifically his preferences in women. As stated previously, there are guys out there than like and/or prefer larger women and it sounds like he's one.

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Sansa    39

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Call me crazy but this doesn't really sound like an insult towards you. It sounds like two co-workers that know each other really well, specifically his preferences in women. As stated previously, there are guys out there than like and/or prefer larger women and it sounds like he's one.

so your theory supports my theory that the girl had her eye on the guy first...

...If you encroach on what a particular female deems to be her territory then she will often find any reason to attack you and will encourage others to do the same in an effort to convince you that you don't belong in her territory. Maybe she had her eye on the guy that flirted with you first.

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iggychic    1,405

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I don't know how others feel...but I don't find the word "big" to be a compliment...ever, well unless they are talking about my brain :P

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isajck    229

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so your theory supports my theory that the girl had her eye on the guy first...

No, I'm looking at this as two close co-workers having a laugh. For example, I have a gay friend that LOVES blondes to no end. We've been out, my back is turned and I will hear him flirting with someone. I already know, without looking, that the guy in question is blonde and we have joked about it before. This is what I feel the woman at Panera was doing. It had nothing to do with insulting Susan 2.0 and everything to do with having fun with her guy friend.

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