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My insurance requires me to enter their weightloss program 12mths before approving surgery. They give you a weightloss coach, and you have to be also enrolled in a weight program such as WW. Well, initially I joined the program not to have surgery, but to get the added benefit of having a weight coach and nutritionist to see if it would help me in my battle to lose weight.

I've been battling since I was 13 and I'm 34 now. I'm tired of dieting and can't seem to leave the carbs alone. Since joining this forum, I've seen successes and desire to also have that same success. I'm diabetic, have high blood pressure and cholesterol. I've had family members die young because of these diseases, and don't want to enter that fate. I've started thinking seriously about going through with the surgery and getting sleeved.. But, I'm having a hard time now getting my eating habits together, and don't know how things will turn out with the sleeve.

I don't want it to be a failure....

I'm just scared and don't know what I should do. I'm feeling upset with myself because I am having a hard time getting it together. :(

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I couldn't get it together presleeve either, but the sleeve has worked great!

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I can really identify, and I'm sure just about everyone else here also does. My whole life was just one long chain of "diet" failures that resulted in gaining more weight. At one point I got so sick of trying to lose weight, I stopped trying. You can imagine how that turned out. I didn't start taking anything seriously until I had to do my two week pre-surgery diet. Now, two weeks after surgery, I've had some pretty amazing results. Once I made the decision to give myself a pretty serious tool in my weight loss fight, I found that all that for the first time in years, I actually wanted to do the right things because my mindset has changed from "this will be great until it fails like everything else" to "I now feel like I can be in control".

The fear is normal. Sleeving is a huge step, but don't let that fear hold you back from doing what is best for you, no matter what that is. You're in the right place to talk to people about this kind of stuff, and you've got a weight loss coach who has probably heard anything you're going to say from other people just like you. Just know that in all this, you're not alone :)

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Thank you guys. Right now my biggest issue is meal planning. I'm wondering how i'm going to plan to eat if I decide to have the sleeve. I just don't want to do something drastic and not follow through with what it takes. This board has been very helpful to me.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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