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I went over there yesterday and was blown away with all the continued complications with the band. People just like our stories! Horror stories!

These complications weren't posted when I got my band years ago. :(

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Good heavens! You are definitely a trooper! Thank you for sharing your story. I hope things go better for you in the future.

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Thank you for sharing this story. I can imagine how awful all of that was, just so glad they were able to save you and leave you with some stomach.

I had a lapband for 10 years and I think the main misinformation out there is that it is 100% reversible. That implies, you can return back to normal if the whole band thing doesn't work out. While it is removable, it leaves scar tissue and does damage. Your story is the absolute extreme - I have never heard of anything that severe, and I think people need to know about this! The band isn't some harmless "lightweight" weight loss surgery. It has significant risks too, just like the other WLS options.

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Thank you do much for sharing! You know when I first started researching wls I was heading toward the band. Thank god I found this site! I resently went to me wls class and was surprised that they seemed to really downplay the risks. They also seemed to push for pts with more than 100 lbs to lose to get RNY. Scary to me and not an option. If I just went on their advise though I would have done it! Thank you for sharing. It makes a difference. I'm so glad you are doing better!

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So much to say. As it is, will just say, bsmith thank you so much for your honesty. You are brave and you have guts and that will take you a long way.

You too, Iggychic. I remember your story even if it has been removed. Think of us all here as little iClouds of storage. You can't remove my memories, doc!

Well anyways I am an ex-banded person with my own damage. And I am angry but more importantly, much more aware about alternative pathways to being happy and at peace. There was so much "hard sell" going on around the band a few years ago. I got caught up in that.

It's been said that in a few years no surgeons will be installing bands anymore. That's pretty fast for a medical cycle? Maybe it wasn't tested long enough?

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So glad you are okay and doing well! Thank you for posting your story and for not being afraid to post it and share it with all of us! God has def been on yourside and blessed you, you have lots of angels looking out for you :) xo

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What a horrific ordeal you had to endure. It is very good to hear that you are doing much better and I certainly hope that you will not have any more complications. Your words should not be taken lightly and should be to the wise. Any weight loss surgery should not be abused, the outcome, like yours can be devastating. To all who read your post please understand the severity that abuse can have: The following quote from OP.

"Unfortunately, I misused the band and ate whatever I wanted and then threw it up. I did this every day after almost every meal."

Best of travels to you

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I too would like to hear your other story...but not until you are ready to share it.

You said fever and I had a similar experience. I have been unbanded since April. For the last 2 years of having my band I too had fevers of over 102. Flu-like symptoms. Freezing cold, physically could not force myself to even get out of the bed. It would last no more than 36 hours. My primary doc had me tested for every auto-immune disease out there which scared me really badly since my mom and my cousin both have MS. They were thinking Lupus with the "unexplained fevers". I even went to the hospital during one episode to see if the bloodwork showed anything while it was active. NOTHING...They never found anything. My bariatric doctor believes that my body was probably fighting the foreign body (hence the fever) and rejecting the band. Then I also had a pouch dilation, I'm sure due to all the throwing up--I couldn't eat any bread, chicken, anything solid for a long time. The dilation fixed itself with a total unfil, but I was never able to start losing again. The last year and a half was pretty tortuous. I had my band placed November 13, 2008 at 254. Got down to 175 after 2.5 years, then slowly began creeping back up. I am now back at 235 (30 pounds has been since the removal)...looking for my sleeve approval any day now. Hoping for a mid-December surgery date.

I'm glad you shared your story in both places...kudos to us both. There were none of these stories on lapbandtalk.com when I researched for 8 months before getting it. Thank you.

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Hi everyone' date=' my name is Becky and I have been on this site for about a month now and I can't say enough good things about the people on this site. I have not shared my story yet because 1.) it's not the normal journey 2.) I never wanted to scare anyone who was preparing for surgery and 3) it's still very difficult to talk about. So here goes nothin!

I was banded back in 2007 and had the typical problems with vomiting and terrible heartburn/reflux. I started my journey at 245 lbs and after my first year with the band I got down to 170...not bad! Unfortunately, I misused the band and ate whatever I wanted and then threw it up. I did this every day after almost every meal. Needless to say I ended up having a major slip in 2010 and had to have the band removed. I gained a lot of my weight back and was devastated! I was originally a self pay so my doctor told me to take a few months to heal and he would help me get the band put back in. A few months later, I saved up enough money to cover the discounted cost of having another band put back in. I was rebanded in October of 2010 and I really worked the band. I dropped 30 lbs (the right way) and then I got pregnant. I had a healthy pregnancy except that I had gallstones so I hardy ate anything and only gained 23 lbs during the pregnancy. I had to have my daughter a month early so they could remove my gallbladder and the operation went smoothly.

Life was good. I was back to my pre baby weight of 187 within 2 weeks of having my baby. I was working it! Slowly, I began to gain weight. Within a year of having my baby, I was back up to 223. I was doing everything right so what was wrong? I still don't understand but I every so often I would get the flu. Well, I thought it was the flu anyway. I got it about every 6 months until Feb of 2012 when i got it 3 times. I kept thinking, the flu must be rampant. My daughter even had it the first time I was sick in Feb so in my mind, I knew it was flu related. On March 8, 2012 I went to work and had a really back pain near my kidneys not near my stomach. I began vomiting uncontrollably and took myself to the urgent care. They sent me to the ER with kidney stones. Based on where the pain was located, it made sense. The hospital gave my a shot of pain med and sent me home. I went back 3 times over the next two days and they just kept sending me home. I was vomiting ever 3-4 minutes by the end of the second day. I couldn't even stand in my own. I remember thinking...I'm going to just kill myself. I'm dying and no one will help me. Finally I called my bariatric doctor to see if he could unfill my band because it hurt so bad to vomit. He got me right in, scolded me for not calling him first and unfilled me. I remember the feeling of instant relief after he unfilled me. I went home and slept for 6 hrs. I hadn't slept in days and I was so exhausted. I woke up at 6:30 that friday puking my guts out again. I was so sick that I broke the ceramic toilet seat with the sheer force of my chest hitting it whet I got sick. The vomiting was non stop now. I barely had time to take a breath between. My boyfriend had just walked in the door from work and I crawled to him, grabbed his leg and said, I'm dying! I knew something was terribly wrong and I knew I was dying. He rushed me to my bariatric doctors hospital and they rushed me in to surgery to unhook the band. It took close to 3 hours to get an IV in because my veins had collapsed. There were so many nurses around me trying to get IV's in me and I grabbed one and pulled him close to me and I told him to please "kill me now." That's all I remember really except for the fact that I died on the table. I saw the light. It's so vivid what I saw. I won't share that part with you because it's just for me to know and you'd probably think i was crazy. Anyway, I woke up 5 days later from my coma, hooked up to every machine you can imagine. Tubes down my throat, central IV line in my neck, arterial lines, pic lines, 16 different IV's, you name it I was hooked to it. Turns out my band had slipped. The sutures stayed in tact and as I vomited it ripped my stomach apart from top to bottom. They were only able to save about 10% of my stomach and pieced it together with mesh so that I wouldn't have to live with a feeding tube for the rest of my life. I'm categorized as a full gastrectomy which is usually done on patients suffering from stomach cancer. I don't have the typical sleeve but I do call myself a sleever.

My story isn't over yet, sorry it's so long!! Things were going as good as can be expected. A day after waking from my coma they pulled the tube from my throat and had me start walking a few hrs later. I spent 10 days in ICU unable to see my kids before they sent me home. I was home for 2 days before I got a fever. It spiked to 105.6 and I went back to the hospital. They ran tests and found that I had major abscesses in my abdomin. I got infections from all the stomach bacteria. I ended up having 2 JP drains put in and stayed in the hospital for another 3 weeks. When I finally got to go home, I had to have at home nursing care. I had to give myself IV antibiotics every 6 hrs. I also developed blood clots fromy pic line...which by the way sucks. Coumadin made my hair fall out (along with lack of protein). I was so sick that I refused to eat. My weight loss actually scared me. I was losing between 2-3 lbs a day. Granted I had gotten up to 233 from all the fluids but still, losing 3 lbs a day for weeks at a time is scary!!

I returned to the hospital 2 more times from abscesses and had to have another JP drain put in and have the Fluid around my lungs drained ( my total hospital stay was aprox 2.5 months total). I also became addicted to the painkillers and had to seek treatment to get off the percoset. I suffered severe dumping up until August and am still lactose intolerant! I can live with that though! The dumping...not so much! Dumping is terrible!!!!

To sum up my wls journey...it effin sucked! I love my "sleeve" now but my journey has been tough none the less. I was finally able to start moving and walking around in June and have since slowly picked up jogging. I love my new life and if I scared anyone I am truly sorry. My story is not the norm but it is my story. Had I known about the sleeve before I got my band, I would have chosen the sleeve. Hindsight is 20/20, right?

Thank you to all of you who have been my support and my inspiration. I love this site!!!!

Beginning stats- 5'6" 233 lbs after initial surgery

Current stats- 160lbs

Surgery date 3/11/12[/quote']

You must be so glad to be alive now! To be so ill that you want to die...that had to be the worst. We are all so glad you made it through.

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Also, I'd like to add...let yourself occasionally "forget" and take things for granted. Life SHOULD be good enough for us all to take for granted and by that I mean we should never have such terrible things happen to us. Now, you are well enough to actually be able to forget, you are healing emotionally. You don't have a constant reminder of your torment and that is reason for celebration. Thanks for your story.

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I am in awe of all you've been through! Thank God you're ok now. Wow. You have an amazing strong will. Good for you ...

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I'm sorry for your experience and happy you are doing better. What advice do you have for others to avoid similar experience with a band ? Do you think better counseling, Strict eating habits could prevent some from having same experience ?

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I'm sorry for your experience and happy you are doing better. What advice do you have for others to avoid similar experience with a band ? Do you think better counseling' date=' Strict eating habits could prevent some from having same experience ?[/quote']

Well, Mdbrowneyes, my advice to others with the band would be to really take this surgery seriously. Get your head in the right place to realize that it is only a tool and not a magic cure all. You have to follow your doctors eating plan and you have to be willing to see the doctor 15 or 16 times for the same thing if that's what it takes to get it fixed. Had I gone in for regular fills and called my doctor whenever I felt there was a problem I might not have been in the situation the first time. As for the second , replacememt band and what went wrong, I will never really know because I can say with all honesty that I followed the rules, I worked that band and it still went terribly wrong. Do I think it had something to do with the damage caused by the misuse of my first band? Without a doubt yes! All I can say to others is to follow the rules and learn to become tuned into what your body is telling you. Dont ignore severe refulx and abdominal pain and vomiting...these things are not normal.

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GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!

i had complications and drs used the word fatal too many times for my liking but honey, your story takes the cake! god bless

Hi everyone, my name is Becky and I have been on this site for about a month now and I can't say enough good things about the people on this site. I have not shared my story yet because 1.) it's not the normal journey 2.) I never wanted to scare anyone who was preparing for surgery and 3) it's still very difficult to talk about. So here goes nothin!

I was banded back in 2007 and had the typical problems with vomiting and terrible heartburn/reflux. I started my journey at 245 lbs and after my first year with the band I got down to 170...not bad! Unfortunately, I misused the band and ate whatever I wanted and then threw it up. I did this every day after almost every meal. Needless to say I ended up having a major slip in 2010 and had to have the band removed. I gained a lot of my weight back and was devastated! I was originally a self pay so my doctor told me to take a few months to heal and he would help me get the band put back in. A few months later, I saved up enough money to cover the discounted cost of having another band put back in. I was rebanded in October of 2010 and I really worked the band. I dropped 30 lbs (the right way) and then I got pregnant. I had a healthy pregnancy except that I had gallstones so I hardy ate anything and only gained 23 lbs during the pregnancy. I had to have my daughter a month early so they could remove my gallbladder and the operation went smoothly.

Life was good. I was back to my pre baby weight of 187 within 2 weeks of having my baby. I was working it! Slowly, I began to gain weight. Within a year of having my baby, I was back up to 223. I was doing everything right so what was wrong? I still don't understand but I every so often I would get the flu. Well, I thought it was the flu anyway. I got it about every 6 months until Feb of 2012 when i got it 3 times. I kept thinking, the flu must be rampant. My daughter even had it the first time I was sick in Feb so in my mind, I knew it was flu related. On March 8, 2012 I went to work and had a really back pain near my kidneys not near my stomach. I began vomiting uncontrollably and took myself to the urgent care. They sent me to the ER with kidney stones. Based on where the pain was located, it made sense. The hospital gave my a shot of pain med and sent me home. I went back 3 times over the next two days and they just kept sending me home. I was vomiting ever 3-4 minutes by the end of the second day. I couldn't even stand in my own. I remember thinking...I'm going to just kill myself. I'm dying and no one will help me. Finally I called my bariatric doctor to see if he could unfill my band because it hurt so bad to vomit. He got me right in, scolded me for not calling him first and unfilled me. I remember the feeling of instant relief after he unfilled me. I went home and slept for 6 hrs. I hadn't slept in days and I was so exhausted. I woke up at 6:30 that friday puking my guts out again. I was so sick that I broke the ceramic toilet seat with the sheer force of my chest hitting it whet I got sick. The vomiting was non stop now. I barely had time to take a breath between. My boyfriend had just walked in the door from work and I crawled to him, grabbed his leg and said, I'm dying! I knew something was terribly wrong and I knew I was dying. He rushed me to my bariatric doctors hospital and they rushed me in to surgery to unhook the band. It took close to 3 hours to get an IV in because my veins had collapsed. There were so many nurses around me trying to get IV's in me and I grabbed one and pulled him close to me and I told him to please "kill me now." That's all I remember really except for the fact that I died on the table. I saw the light. It's so vivid what I saw. I won't share that part with you because it's just for me to know and you'd probably think i was crazy. Anyway, I woke up 5 days later from my coma, hooked up to every machine you can imagine. Tubes down my throat, central IV line in my neck, arterial lines, pic lines, 16 different IV's, you name it I was hooked to it. Turns out my band had slipped. The sutures stayed in tact and as I vomited it ripped my stomach apart from top to bottom. They were only able to save about 10% of my stomach and pieced it together with mesh so that I wouldn't have to live with a feeding tube for the rest of my life. I'm categorized as a full gastrectomy which is usually done on patients suffering from stomach cancer. I don't have the typical sleeve but I do call myself a sleever.

My story isn't over yet, sorry it's so long!! Things were going as good as can be expected. A day after waking from my coma they pulled the tube from my throat and had me start walking a few hrs later. I spent 10 days in ICU unable to see my kids before they sent me home. I was home for 2 days before I got a fever. It spiked to 105.6 and I went back to the hospital. They ran tests and found that I had major abscesses in my abdomin. I got infections from all the stomach bacteria. I ended up having 2 JP drains put in and stayed in the hospital for another 3 weeks. When I finally got to go home, I had to have at home nursing care. I had to give myself IV antibiotics every 6 hrs. I also developed blood clots fromy pic line...which by the way sucks. Coumadin made my hair fall out (along with lack of protein). I was so sick that I refused to eat. My weight loss actually scared me. I was losing between 2-3 lbs a day. Granted I had gotten up to 233 from all the fluids but still, losing 3 lbs a day for weeks at a time is scary!!

I returned to the hospital 2 more times from abscesses and had to have another JP drain put in and have the Fluid around my lungs drained ( my total hospital stay was aprox 2.5 months total). I also became addicted to the painkillers and had to seek treatment to get off the percoset. I suffered severe dumping up until August and am still lactose intolerant! I can live with that though! The dumping...not so much! Dumping is terrible!!!!

To sum up my wls journey...it effin sucked! I love my "sleeve" now but my journey has been tough none the less. I was finally able to start moving and walking around in June and have since slowly picked up jogging. I love my new life and if I scared anyone I am truly sorry. My story is not the norm but it is my story. Had I known about the sleeve before I got my band, I would have chosen the sleeve. Hindsight is 20/20, right?

Thank you to all of you who have been my support and my inspiration. I love this site!!!!

Beginning stats- 5'6" 233 lbs after initial surgery

Current stats- 160lbs

Surgery date 3/11/12

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God Bless you and us as we travel this journey. I am still nervous about my surgery 11/23. It is in Mexico adding to my anxiety.

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