Who Are The Failures At This Surgery?

[mwrarr 244]

You'll do great!

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[CowgirlJane 14,261]

So, I am forever the realist. I think that people who don't know what they are getting into are most likely to "not do well"because they have unrealistic expectations and get upset with the reality. I have no research to back this up.

Personally, I am very unsure on all these other attributes. The "typical" WLS patient does pretty well at first - say the first 2-3 years. So all the responses you are seeing are from people who are still within that timeframe. Looking at the long view, why do some regain a lot - I am not sure. What I have been TOLD by the leader of a support group I attended (and this was for all WLS not just sleeve) is that exercise is one of the leading indicators of long term success. I theorize that it is because people who stick with exercise are also overall sticking with the whole "lifestyle changes". What I don't know is what personality traits are most likely to do that.

I "failed" with the lapband that i had done in 2001. AT that time we were told that "non compliant" people fail. Well, the lapband was hard for a lot of people to comply with for a lot of reasons, not the least of which I was till hungry alot! The sleeve severely reduces (or even eliminates) hunger in the shortterm - not convinced that is permanent myself.

There is not alot of long term data honestly.

[desertmom 297]

Ok,I'm going to say it!

I think that people that dont take responsibility for everything they put in their mouths might fail.By this I mean the making of umpteen excuses as to why they eg. Cant eat solid Protein or why they cannot say no to carbs when pms'sing ect ect!

This might sound very judgemental but I had to give myself a huge talking to when I stalled at 5 months.I felt like this was sooo unfair as I wasnt doing anything wrong.But my carbs were just too high.I resented the fact that I couldnt keep losing at 60 carbs a day,I was eating so little.Must be my messed up metabolism,I dont get that happy feeling if my carbs are lower...blablabla!

Potentially,I could have failed if I didnt start taking responsibility for my eating.Lightbulb moment!I eat what I CHOOSE to eat!It is always a choice!

We do not get hungry (or much reduced anyway) we have a teeny tiny stomach,what more do we need from "outside" to get thin?People that do not understand you have to want to be thin and work to stay thin,might fail.

I am preaching to myself on a forum,I've finally gone nuts...lol

[Sparky79 41]

I am actually quite aware of my "issues" which I think makes me so scared of going through with it...I have used food for everything under the sun! Boredom' date=' tired, hungry, lonely, blah blah blah.

I think this "tool" is my only chance though..as it will prevent me from doing any of the crazy eating patterns I get into. I am def going to work on my head issues regarding it. Thanks all. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />[/quote']

Hi Monica

I had the same fears. I was more nervous about how i would handle the restrictions after surgery than I was nervous about surgery. I would turn to food for everything! Even though I'm only 3 months post op I can honestly say food is not really an issue for me now. Sure I get some cravings here and there but it really doesn't bother me.

[DreamsOfSkinny 53]

food is/was my drug! I know my Dr. won't operate on people with Bipolar/manic - or at least that is what I heard. Not sure 100%.

I don't know any long term sleevers...but I know several bypass people that have put ALOT of their weight back on - so scary!

Good luck!

This is still the best thing I have ever done for myself!!

Hmm that's interesting. I'm bipolar and now after years of not being diagnosed, finally receives the right medical attention for it and am learning how to accept it. I asked my Psych evaluator why her forma and Dr. Forms asked if you are bipolar as i haven't seen that on any other Dr. Forma before--always depression, anxiety, etc. is all I ever see. She said that they look out for those who may be showing signs of mania and are not psychologically able to make a decision. My Dr. Didn't even make mention of it.

[MrsM 31]

Hi Monica

I had the same fears. I was more nervous about how i would handle the restrictions after surgery than I was nervous about surgery. I would turn to food for everything! Even though I'm only 3 months post op I can honestly say food is not really an issue for me now. Sure I get some cravings here and there but it really doesn't bother me.

You are my twin Sparky! It is def scary to think of...not having food for so many reasons. Makes tv shows better, makes me feel better about any problem going on, fun to go out to eat...It is SUCH a crutch!!! The thing is, I really really HATE how the weight makes me feel...I feel so much older than I am..and I avoid so many things I used to do when I was skinnier. I remember that saying "nothing tastes as good as thin feels" and I believe that is very true. I will focus on that saying!!

[bynny 6]

Instead of focusing on who the failures are, let's look at who succeeds.

My surgeon gave a list of traits that the most successful WLS folks had... things like eating three meals per day, staying high Protein, taking Vitamins daily, exercising daily, avoiding carbonated beverages, etc.

If you do the right things, you will avoid the wrong things.

[iggychic 1,405]

Monica' date=' There's definitely a requirement to do the head work that goes with this surgery. Addiction runs rampant in my family, me included. I just chose food instead of drugs or alcohol. I was told that I WOULD be an alcoholic by my psych evaluator, so I fight that prediction daily, although I've avoided it so far.

I think therapy and exercise are the two most important things to do for oneself both before and after WLS.

Good luck!! The fact that you're thinking this through tells me that you'll be successful. [/quote']

lissa...were you carrying a flask with you? for gads sake how unprofessional to say you will! how about...you might have a tendency due to family history, etc....sheesh id have been tempted to ask them out for a Breakfast cocktail after the eval lol

[Jesser 295]

http://m.obesityhelp.com/forums/any_wls_regrets/4392306/PLEASE-READ-BEFORE-YOU-HAVE-GB/

[Jesser 295]

That link is just a story I ran across about someone regretting bypass surgery, and he talks about how people with certain personality traits aren't good candidates for the surgery. It hasn't changed my mind at all, but just thought I would share since you were looking for similar stories

[MrsM 31]

Def what I am looking for....thank you Jesser!!