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I feel your pain. I have been on Effexor for almost 2 years now and thought that I had everything under control. About a week after surgery I felt like a switch had been flipped and all the sudden my world came crashing down around me. I have not been back to the clinic, I have not gone to any of my support group meetings. I finally went and saw my family doctor last week and got an increase of my medication but I still feel a bit hopeless.

I too have a daughter, she is 6 and she can see that I am not my normal self. I have heard from the doctor that sometimes after a sleeve that your body does not break down the anti-depressant the way it used to and there for needs to be adjusted. I hope that you find something that works for you.

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The worst part is the headache I have. I'm getting my fluids in and think its just from stress and crying.

Yes, crying causes headaches. I found that out at the end of Titanic when the old lady threw the diamond into the sea. Noooooo...!

That's why us guys hate to cry. It's not because we're tough, we hate pain.

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I just had my surgery on 10/2 and I've been doing great. But today I can't stop crying. I feel like my entire life is ruined. I hate watching tv because there is always commercials or people eating. I can't seem to get out of this funk now. I'm feeling like I made a really huge mistake. Maybe I could have done this entire thing with such drastic measures.

I hate crying I have a 7 year-old little girl that I won't let me see down. But I can't stop.

Sorry for such a pathetic post but no one else around me understands.

Ur having a normal reaction- its buyers remorse- in a few weeks u'll feel better n u'll see the weight fall off- u'll feel better about r decision.

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The night of my surgery,in the hospital where you get no sleep anyway, I lay awake and wondered, regretted and blamed myself for what I had done. I thought I was crazy to have done this and SO full of regret.

The next afternoon the dietician walked in and told me one thing I may feel in the first couple of weeks was depression and regret for the surgery and it was a perfectly normal reaction. I thought Thank God , I'm normal. Still "bluesy" as dietician called it, but it comes and goes.

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