Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

"wls Is Not What God Intended..."



Recommended Posts

I would tell her:

I THANK GOD everyday that I live in a world where I can have lasix surgery to improve my eyesight. (Permanent re-formation of cornea' date=' can't be reversed)

I have had a few teeth removed, several moles and a growth removed from my nether regions which was causing me issues. Don't want anything back.

I have had friends have their tonsils, appendix, spleens, ovaries (and associated parts) removed when they aren't working for them anymore, and they are better for it. (Permanent removal of organs, don't want them back)

I have also had 85% of my stomach removed so I can have a tool to restrict my intake and help me lead a healthier life and be there for my family and friends.

I know God intended babies to come out the way they went in, but it is good to know these smart men and women are there to help with surgeries.

I also know these same smart men and women do surgeries for vanity purposes, and I am glad God put them here to help those who feel they need it.

What class of people do you think God would look down on more, those getting surgeries for vanity or those trying to improve the quality of their lives?

My 2 cents[/quote']

Beautifully said. It brought tears to my eyes. I thank you, PDXMan, for taking the time to write this in support of someone you don't personally know. And a very good point is the LASIK surgery, because she had that one several years ago!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Susan 2.0' date='[/sub']

The best and most thought-provoking thing will be for her to hang in there and make the journey with you as a supportive friend. Seeing as she is your BFF, I can't imagine that she wouldn't come through when you needed her most. People often have a lot pf pre-concieved notions about things they have no personal experience with and form opinions based off of that. As she goes through this journey with you, maybe she will become a little better informed and her thoughts and opinions on the subject will change! You just never know! The important thing is that you have a good support system, and if you need the BFF to be a part of it then you will just have to come to an understanding on the subject. :)

Thank you, Liz. You are absolutely right that she will come through for me when I need her. I truly feel that it IS pre-conceived notions that are forming her words right now, which, again, proves my reason for asking for help with this situation. I once had pre-conceived notions as well, when I was in my mid-teens & heard of an older family friend having her stomach stapled back in the 80s. She, unfortunately, only lived a few years longer, if that long.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The moment I realized I needed WLS I was sitting in traffic, beating myself up over another failed diet (Medifast this time). It just hit me like a ton of bricks. It was never going to work. Has anyone read the studies about losing weight and keeping it off? The odds are not in our favor. You don't get here for lack of trying or being lazy. You get here because you have exhausted every option and you are an adult who wants to save their own life. My sister is

still against it even after I told her I was one point away from being considered pre-diabetic. You love your best friend and value her opinion but through much research and deliberation have concluded this is the best choice for YOU.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Ovaries, Uteris, gall bladder and apendix God gave as well and sometimes they make us sick and have to come out. By the way the breast sometimes have to be taken too. What God did not entend is for us to be sick.

This is the EXACT point I wanted to make. Good response.

If you had cancer, you'd get treatment, right? Being obese is like having a form of cancer. You have to get it treated if you want to live a longer life.

Good luck!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The moment I realized I needed WLS I was sitting in traffic' date=' beating myself up over another failed diet (Medifast this time). It just hit me like a ton of bricks. It was never going to work. Has anyone read the studies about losing weight and keeping it off? The odds are not in our favor. You don't get here for lack of trying or being lazy. You get here because you have exhausted every option and you are an adult who wants to save their own life. My sister is

still against it even after I told her I was one point away from being considered pre-diabetic. You love your best friend and value her opinion but through much research and deliberation have concluded this is the best choice for YOU.

[/quote']

Thank you, xmasbpig. Very well worded. I agree with this because I very well could have said it myself (but couldn't, hence this thread!).

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

This is the EXACT point I wanted to make. Good response.

If you had cancer' date=' you'd get treatment, right? Being obese is like having a form of cancer. You have to get it treated if you want to live a longer life.

Good luck![/quote']

Yes, you WOULD have cancer treated (or removed)!! Thank you, lsmargiassi!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

What on earth has god got to do with it? Find better friends I say.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Just quote her Matthew 5:20 and tell her God gave you his blessings. That should shut her up very quickly!

"And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell."

Only because I prayed about this, and this was given to me as an answer. Be at peace with your decision. It's right there in black and white.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

What on earth has god got to do with it? Find better friends I say.

Everyone's opinion is valid; however, I personally believe in God & pray continually that I am making the right decision & that he is walking beside me, or carrying me, through this. I requested KINDLY WORDED responses. If you do not believe in God or that this is not a God issue, then I kindly request that you not reply to this post. Thank you.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you! You do the same for people every day on here:)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Just quote her Matthew 5:20 and tell her God gave you his blessings. That should shut her up very quickly!

"And if your right hand causes you to sin' date=' cut it off and throw it away. It is better to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell."

[/quote']

THAT is perfect! It made me smile!!! Thanks, Piplula!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

No offence meant I just don't get why it's relevant to your decision and a true friend wouldn't be putting excuses in your way.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

No offence meant I just don't get why it's relevant to your decision and a true friend wouldn't be putting excuses in your way.

I feel it's because she's uninformed & scared for me.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

THAT is perfect! It made me smile!!! Thanks' date=' Piplula![/quote']

You are very welcome. Be at peace with your decision. I added to my post after you replied to it. You always have to fight with the word with people who want to use the word to prove their point. I am sure she loves you and is concerned. But..she simply, or more than likely doesn't have any education on the process. My perspective on it is, if God didn't want us to learn about this procedure, He would not allow man to learn about it. Therefore, I think He allowed us to learn about it. Hence the Matthew reference. I hope that helps!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You are very welcome. Be at peace with your decision. I added to my post after your replied to it. You always have to fight with the word with people who want to use the word to prove their point. I am sure she loves you and is concerned. But..she simply' date=' or more than likely doesn't have any education on the process. My perspective on it is, if God didn't want us to learn about this procedure, He would not allow man to learn about it. Therefore, I think He allowed us to learn about it. Hence the Matthew reference. I hope that helps![/quote']

It most absolutely helps! Thank you! I agree with you whole heartedly. And just for the record, I am at peace with my decision. I would just like her to be at peace with it as well. I am just not quick-witted or "fast on my feet" so I have a hard time coming up with good retorts when needed. I definitely wouldn't have been the star on the debate team!!! ;-)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • vsg.with.sharon

      Hey everyone!
      I’m new here! Looking for some friends! 🥰
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LeighaTR

      Four days post surgery. I am sipping as fast as I can and getting NO WHERE near the goal of 60 - 80 grams of protein or the 64 oz of liquids. I just feel FULL. I don't know if it can still be the gas build up (I would think by now that would be gone) but it is a struggle to drink. And so far I have not had the nausea or spasms and don't want to wander into that territory by pushing too hard with liquids. I about passed out today as it was my most "strenuous" day. Went from second story to basement for shower and I was sure I was going to pass out. Looking back on my last few days I have had a total of less than 1000 calories. Am I just not getting enough nourishment in me? Once again a friday where I can't get ahold of the doc until Monday rolls back around so I am hoping maybe someone here has some experience on how to keep energy going. I do have fibromyalgia too and that may be where some added fatigue comes into play. How did you all fair with the goals the week after surgery?
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      2 days until I fly out to San Diego to have my Bypass Surg. in Tiajuana Mexico. Not gonna lie, the nerves are starting to surface. I don't fear the surgery itself, or the fact that I'm traveling alone, but its the aftermath that I'm stressing about the most, after this 8 week wait. I'm excited to finally be here, but I am really dreading the post surgical chapter. I know its going to be tough, real tough and I think I'm just in my head to much now that the day i here. Wish me luck, Hopefully I'm one of the lucky ones, and everything goes smoothly. Cant wait to give an exciting update,. If there is anyone else have a June bypass or even a recent one, Id love to have someone to compare war stories with. Also, anyone near San Antonio Tx? See ya soon with the future me. 💜
      · 3 replies
      1. Phil Penn

        Good Luck this procedure is well worth it I am down to 249.6 lb please continue with the process..

      2. Selina333

        I'm in Houston so kind of near you and had the sleeve in Dec. Down 61 lbs. Feeling better. Was definitely worth it. I hope the everything is going well for you. Update us when you can!

      3. Doughgurl

        I am back home after my bypass surgery in Tiajuana. I'm post op day 4. Everything went great! I guess I'm one of the lucky ones who have not encountered much pain at all, no nausea thus far and I'm having no problem keeping down broths and water. Thank you for your well wishes. I cant wait to keep up this journey and have a chance at better health and simply better quality of life. I know there will be bumps in the road ahead, and everything won't be peaches and cream, but at least I have a great start so far. 😍

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×