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IM only 5 days post op... But when is a good time to just do it? I feel like we could but I'm scared, I'm not a good judge of that subject considering we didn't wait very long to do the deed after our daughter. I looked through all my paperwork, all the docs notes just say when you're ready, but... I'm ready! Just frightened. Still pretty sore!

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I wouldn't. Give yourself the 2 months healing! If he can't wait for your full healing...get a new guy.

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If you are ready, then do it.. just go slow. No acrobatic moves or bouncing too hard and you will be fine.

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Oh he could wait, I'm the one who can't! We've been together 7 years and we are still insanely crazy for each other! I guess it's true love! I'm thinking I'll wait a few more days.. Then I won't feel so crazy.

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My very conservative surgeon says 2 weeks.

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My surgeon said whenever I was ready and when it didn't hurt.

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I just left my surgeon and he laughed. He said it is a great way to burn calories. Whenever I am ready :P ! My husband was happy with that response.

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My doc said when ever i was ready. We tried at about a week out but it was just to painful. Tried again at 2 weeks and I was fine, still a little tender, but i just didn't want to wait any longer. And sex was always good but now after losing 96lbs It is GREAT!!

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You guys are awesome! Thanks. I can't wait for skinny sex! I down 30 including my pre op diet... So I'm getting there. I wish I could stop weighing myself! I've become obsessed!!

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I waited 5 days . Just be gentle

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If one of you slips and you get squished in the gut, it could do severe damage. What if you get pregnant now too, when you are supposed to be healing the next 2 months. I understand the urge, but mind over matter is probably wiser in this case.

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My surgeon said as soon as I was ready. Three days after surgery, and it wasn't an issue.

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Thanks, I'm not too worried about pregnancy, I have the mirena IUD, and a 1 year old.... That's enough birth control for me! Lol. And if I did get prego, I would take it as a beautiful and wonderful thing! People have gotten pregnant quickly, our bodies can do amazing things :)

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My doctor said when I felt comfortable. It was at 10 days because I was scared to try sooner.

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