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Eating At A Bbq With People Who Don't Know

Carrie's Journey

By Carrie's Journey, in Food and Nutrition

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Carrie's Journey    130

Carrie's Journey
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I'm about 5 weeks out and eating solids. Not very many people know, and I'm finding it harder and harder to figure out social situations where food is involved. We're going to a BBQ tomorrow and I think it'll be tri tip. I can probably eat that, but I'll be full in 2 bites. I had half of a sausage link this morning and was stuffed. Solid, dense Protein isnt easy right now. Soup's a good idea, but it's going to be hot so that would be weird to bring...

Any ideas for something I can bring that I can have more than a couple bites of?

I'm just preparing to say something about dieting, low carb, etc but people are going to start thinking I'm anorexic! Lol I can't even have salad. I'm realizing that the social stuff is the hardest part of this whole thing. Hopefully it gets easier...

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LouiseC    1,031

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I find people are less interested in what I am eating anymore interested in what they are eating. Put food on your plate and move it around, you don't have to eat it! The world according to egg face has some great ideas for things to bring to social situations. Have a look there for ideas.

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Cookeeeeez    269

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Yep, I agree with Louise :) as long as you put something on your plate then move it around you should be fine, actually take a doggy bag fill up your plate and start emptying it surreptitiously into the bag for later! You can feed yourself for a week for FREE!!!! Jk! It's none of their business what your eating :)

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Cookeeeeez    269

Cookeeeeez
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Oh and can anyone say gazpacho?!

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notime    340

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Some type of bean salad.< /p>

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smallvegan    36

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You'd be surprised how little people pay attention to what others are eating. I had a friend who was on a medically supervised liquid diet. She could eat NO solid food. She didn't want people to know. She went to a BBQ with family members and she just put stuff on her plate and moved it around. Not one single person noticed. She did finally tell her in-laws later and they said they had honestly not noticed that she never actually ate anything. I say just eat what you know you should and in the amounts you are able and enjoy the party! :)

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Amandazee13    57

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Buy i can inderstand because I feel like everytime i go to a bbq people are always like " did you eat? Do you want something? Have something!" it is so annoying

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