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I've been overweight my entire life, so now that I've lost 29 pounds since my preop about two months ago and my sleeve on July 7, I feel in denial, like I keep questioning myself if I really lost 29 pounds after struggling for years to lose on my own. I'm sure this is normal but I feel like I'm doubting myself and sometimes wonder if I'm going to be fat my whole life. Does this make any sense ? Then I feel like a slow loser, I'm happy I'm losing and I know everyone loses at different paces but I always wonder. I know my SW was 250 which may be lower than some, but I still wonder and would love opinions so I can feel better.

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Think your doing great!! If you follow the program you will lose your weight just like your supposed to. We all have to go at our own bodies pace. Your doing GREAT!! It's only natural to have some self doubt. You have just started on what may be the hardest jorney of your life. Everyone of us has our fears, I know I surly have mine. You can do this!! Looking forward to following along with you on our journey. :rolleyes:

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Think your doing great!! If you follow the program you will lose your weight just like your supposed to. We all have to go at our own bodies pace. Your doing GREAT!! It's only natural to have some self doubt. You have just started on what may be the hardest jorney of your life. Everyone of us has our fears' date=' I know I surly have mine. You can do this!! Looking forward to following along with you on our journey. :rolleyes:[/quote']

Thanks, trying to keep my head high, really like hearing opinions, I feel so alone ;(

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Sorry I promise your not!! I go from great, to scared in a minute!! I feel like I'm on roller coaster ride. Somtimes I just want to get off. When your feeling alone just put up a post and someone on here will give you hand up.

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Susie!!!! *hugs*

You're not alone! And your doing great on your weight loss!! If you ever need to talk, send me a message! I'm here for ya! :)

I was sleeved may 15th and my weight loss is 50 lbs..you were sleeved in July! See how good your doing? :) you got this :)

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Believe it sister, you are really losing weight and YOU WILL GET TO GOAL!! If you have lost 29 pounds since your surgery, you are losing almost 15 lbs a month! Considering most people stall at three to four weeks and then start back up again, I would say that is pretty darn awesome! Just think, if you had been able to do that when dieting alone, you would have been doing a happy dance! That being said, I have that same little voice of doubt once in a while. I think many of us do. I know I have seen a lot of posts on the forum of someone thinking that they are the only ones who will not be successful at this. It's not surprising, since most of us were unsuccessful at dieting on our own, or worse yet...were successful at losing and then put it all back on again and then some! But this is different! Yes, you still have to make the right choices, BUT those choices are so much easier to make when you are not hungry! You will get there. You have made an amazing, life changing choice and it will pay off for you! :)

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Believe it sister' date=' you are really losing weight and YOU WILL GET TO GOAL!! If you have lost 29 pounds since your surgery, you are losing almost 15 lbs a month! Considering most people stall at three to four weeks and then start back up again, I would say that is pretty darn awesome! Just think, if you had been able to do that when dieting alone, you would have been doing a happy dance! That being said, I have that same little voice of doubt once in a while. I think many of us do. I know I have seen a lot of posts on the forum of someone thinking that they are the only ones who will not be successful at this. It's not surprising, since most of us were unsuccessful at dieting on our own, or worse yet...were successful at losing and then put it all back on again and then some! But this is different! Yes, you still have to make the right choices, BUT those choices are so much easier to make when you are not hungry! You will get there. You have made an amazing, life changing choice and it will pay off for you! :)[/quote']

Thanks Tracey! U always give me great advice and it's so meaningful! U all made me feel so much better and now I can sleep in peace, lol. Seriously though. U all have sweet dreams! Thanks again!

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I've been overweight my entire life' date=' so now that I've lost 29 pounds since my preop about two months ago and my sleeve on July 7, I feel in denial, like I keep questioning myself if I really lost 29 pounds after struggling for years to lose on my own. I'm sure this is normal but I feel like I'm doubting myself and sometimes wonder if I'm going to be fat my whole life. Does this make any sense ? Then I feel like a slow loser, I'm happy I'm losing and I know everyone loses at different paces but I always wonder. I know my SW was 250 which may be lower than some, but I still wonder and would love opinions so I can feel better.[/quote']

Hi Susie, ur a great inspiration n very knowledgeable on this process which I know since u were one of my first contacts in regards to this process. I myself haven't gone thru with d surgery not bc I dont want to but bc of financial reasons. Hang in there I think it's amazing what ur doing, stay positive n message me or post whenever u need someone. This forum is awesome, full of information n virtual friends :) have a good night, rest n tomorrow will be another great n blessed day.

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Thanks Tracey! U always give me great advice and it's so meaningful! U all made me feel so much better and now I can sleep in peace, lol. Seriously though. U all have sweet dreams! Thanks again!

Susie, you always give great advice too...I am just paying it back! Glad you can sleep peacefully now...sweet dreams to you too!

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This is something I have done on the occasions where I have felt a bit down about my current stall. I have gone to my supermarket and looked at things that weigh the amount I have lost. I just look and I marvel at what I see. It cheers me up no end to look at three 10 kilo sacks of potatoes and know I have lost that much. I look at the kilo bags of frozen fries in the freezers and chuckle as I imagine 30 of them - because that is what I have lost.

I know it is silly, but it does wonders for my mood and state of mind!

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I love that idea, Louise!!

:)

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I love that idea' date=' Louise!!

:)[/quote']

Thank you, funny because I felt very embarrassed sharing it! I am sure I look like a crazy person standing in front of the freezers, giggling and looking smug!

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This is something I have done on the occasions where I have felt a bit down about my current stall. I have gone to my supermarket and looked at things that weigh the amount I have lost. I just look and I marvel at what I see. It cheers me up no end to look at three 10 kilo sacks of potatoes and know I have lost that much. I look at the kilo bags of frozen fries in the freezers and chuckle as I imagine 30 of them - because that is what I have lost.

I know it is silly' date=' but it does wonders for my mood and state of mind![/quote']

That's a creative way of looking at it ;)

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