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What Was Your Final "straw That Broke The Camels Back"



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@ liztex! I think fear of being alone is a valid one! I had bullies (including my older sister) who always told me no man would want me because if my weight! That's been proven untrue on multiple occasions ;) but I was more worried no man would want me coz I'm a nutcase! Lol

At twenty five myself I am worried I will never be able to have children with my partner! I'm hoping this surgery will help with that! But for me it's not really going to begin until mid next year- so im being patient :)

Be patient too, we have made the decision not to die young- so now in every sense of it we have our whole lives ahead!!!

Good luck!!!

Good to know!! :) Best of luck on the baby-makin' !

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For me, it was a couple of things...First, I have been dieting since I was 9...I have run the gamut from too-skinny to where I am today...WAY too big. I now have asthma and plantar fascitis, so movement has become difficult/painful... 2 of my friends at work had VSG, and are looking and feeling fabulous! They have been very encouraging and supportive.

Second, I am an old first-time mom. I adopted my daughter a few months before my 40th birthday...She is now 3, and the joy of my life. But, being a single mom takes a lot of energy, which can be a struggle. I've always been active and enjoy exercise, and I want to model healthy living for my daughter, PLUS enjoy her childhood. I don't want to be the mom on the bench, unable to run around or play with my girl. My daughter deserves to have a healthy parent who will be alive to raise her...the thought of orphaning her (for the 2nd time in her life) is very scary.

My insurance required a 6-month class, which I finished the end of July...I am starting the labs and etc, and SHOULD be having surgery 11/14. :-) I am SO excited about this...but I dread leaving my kiddo for 2 nights in the hospital. I have only been away from her overnight twice; once for gall bladder surgery, and once for 12 hrs for a bday party. My mom is coming to stay for 2 weeks, and that should help...my daughter LOVES Grandma!! :-)

I love this site, and the exchange of info, and support/advice given here. :-)

Can't wait to join y'all on the loser's bench!!! YEAH!!

Bonnie

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I had been over 200 pounds since my husband died 14 years ago. I didn't really care untill my second colonoscopy came back with dysplastic (on it's way to becoming malignant) polyps. Add to that 2 weeks later my PCP put me on 2 MORE meds for high triglycerides for a total of 8 prescription meds. I will be 60 next year & I decided I wasn't going to finish my time on earth as a morbidly obese woman.

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Having a miscarriage...

I'm so sorry :( I can't imagine :( all I can say is my mum had three miscarriages and then a month after her third found out she was with me!!! Good luck with your future pregnancies!!!

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I'm so sorry :( I can't imagine :( all I can say is my mum had three miscarriages and then a month after her third found out she was with me!!! Good luck with your future pregnancies!!!

Thank you, I appreciate that! I am 5 months and 3 weeks out of surgery - and 73.4 lbs down - I went from 271.2 lbs to 197.8 lbs today... I'm pretty darn excited and ready to healthy enough to extend our family! <3

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I have many more reasons that what I can post, but the main one? Seeing myself in pictures in November (which is on my profile as my "before") and going to my gyno in Dec for my annual. All 9 months of my pregnancy, even ballooning at the end, he never said a single solitary word about my being too heavy. Not once.. and at the end, I ballllooooooned (to me I feel like I did).

Since my parents both died (one of a heart attack, the other of cancer .. then another grandmother with a massive heart attack) and I saw him in Dec, he told me ... you are playing with fire with your health history, it's time to take control of your life, essentially.

There were many other things, but that was the 'final' one.

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There wasn’t any single moment, I just got tired:

I got tired of feeling like I had to apologize for the way I looked.

I got tired of feeling uncomfortable in my own skin.

I got tired of wearing clothes I didn’t like or fit.

I got tired of fighting my own biology.

I got tired of being a walking scale.

I got tired of being preached at.

I got tired of being labeled.

So on to the next phase of my life. I should have my surgery by February (2013). The bad news, I’m self-pay. The good news I don’t have to jump through insurance company hoops. Just one more doctor appointment and I’ll get my surgery date.

Already making an effort to loose weight, down about 14lbs. Just less to loose later.

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Greetings All,

Boy there have been many straws that have been stacking up on that poor camel's back.

1. Went to see the show. I could not fit comfortably in my seat. My hubby and I stood in the back.

2. I had a nice gelding that I ended up selling because I could not ride anymore. I had him for 12 years and it broke my heart.

3. I love to travel but I wont because I am embarassed to deal with the seating.

4. Went recently to a horse training thing to be certified as an equine facilitated learning equine specialist. One of the participants asked me if I was comfortable around horses. They assumed that because I was heavy I wasn't a horseperson.

5. I am embarassed because I take the elevator up at work. I walk down but huff and puff going up so I rarely do. I pass much older folk taking the stairs up to get to the elevator.

6. Seat belts!

7. My son realizing I am heavier than many other adults.

8. I want to go riding with my horse friends. They go to sweet camping trips and trail rides that I cannot do anymore.

9. Clothes!

10. chaffing!

11. aching ankles and knees.

and the list goes on!!!

Looking forward to starting my processes!

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I just got tired of being tired all the time....

Plus it was starting to get scary how comfortable i was with my obesity....i blamed it for everything that ever went wrong...

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This little girl right here....

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This picture is a powerful reason bro.

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Attempting to get on a flight and the obviously very scared attendant alluding to me needing an additional seat and having to call for a supervisor to approve. They were considering a less full flight which would have created another slew of inconveniences in my schedule. Im 13days out til surgery and dying with the liquid diet but I have a flight to catch in November and Im ready to latch that seat belt.without an extender.

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It wasn't the final straw, but I was always a big fan of John candy. When he died at 44, that was scary. And it got scarier as I approached 44. I'm 43 now, and I kinda feel like I'm averting that tragedy for myself.

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