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When asked how she lost all the weight she had gained to play Brigdet Jones in that movie, Renee Zellweger said that she went hiking for a weekend in the hills near her Beverly Hills home. Laughable to us, yes, but I'm sure people believed it.

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Carrie, I think I added you as a friend.?! LOL I had to get on my laptop to do that. The first few days were pretty hard just like everyone here, I am sure. The VSG left me pretty bruised across the middle and I had some pain a few inches above the staple site. Over all... I feel good. I never felt sick, got sick or wanted to die. However, I still want to kill my husband every time he walks in the house with food! I am down 16 lbs as of this morning and in 11 days... that never happend on a regular diet. How are you feeling about all this?

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I heard the Paleo diet is really fast weightloss. I think I'm going to say that! I just read about it last night. It's simple carb restrictions and focuses on food that is naturally available. Made sense to me! I'm also going to say the gallbladder thing too. And they actually found that I have a complete right sided heart block so I'm goin to say the doctor told me I had to lose weight bc I'm prediabetic. I'm not really prediabetic but it runs on both sides of my family so probably eventually I would have gotten it. But this is a great thread. Me and my mom have been trying to figure out what to say. I haven't seen my coworkers in a long time. I was 232 when I last saw them. It will bet very noticeable when I get back in two weeks because now I'm 213.6. My surgery date was 8/1.

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I know this is off subject, but can anyone tell me how to post my own thing on here? I am sorry.... I am new and have no idea what I am doing.

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I heard the Paleo diet is really fast weightloss. I think I'm going to say that! I just read about it last night. It's simple carb restrictions and focuses on food that is naturally available. Made sense to me! I'm also going to say the gallbladder thing too. And they actually found that I have a complete right sided heart block so I'm goin to say the doctor told me I had to lose weight bc I'm prediabetic. I'm not really prediabetic but it runs on both sides of my family so probably eventually I would have gotten it. But this is a great thread. Me and my mom have been trying to figure out what to say. I haven't seen my coworkers in a long time. I was 232 when I last saw them. It will bet very noticeable when I get back in two weeks because now I'm 213.6. My surgery date was 8/1.

That's a great idea! I just read about that diet too. Hmmm. I did have a hiatal hernia so I might add that I had that repaired too. Now I'm feeling a littl less anxious. :)

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Carrie' date=' I think I added you as a friend.?! LOL I had to get on my laptop to do that. The first few days were pretty hard just like everyone here, I am sure. The VSG left me pretty bruised across the middle and I had some pain a few inches above the staple site. Over all... I feel good. I never felt sick, got sick or wanted to die. However, I still want to kill my husband every time he walks in the house with food! I am down 16 lbs as of this morning and in 11 days... that never happend on a regular diet. How are you feeling about all this?[/quote']

That's awesome! I'm feeling great now! It never was horrible but now it's nothing. I have bruising still but the glue came off so my belly button finally feels good. The hard glue was hurting. I'm at 12 lbs with a total of maybe 65 lbs to lose. I also want to kill my husband! He deep fried some crap the other night and I mentioned how I'd like some (didn't of course), and he looked at his plate and said, "I'm an *******, huh?" lol so now he's going to start dieting on Monday.

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It's funny that you say that. As I am lying in the hospital bed all drugged up, my husband decides to go to the caf to get some lunch. Does he eat his lunch down in the caf? NO! He brings it back up to the room. Do you know what he brought in my room after I have just had all but a teeny tiny bit of my stomack removed.... FRIED CHICKEN! I am southern Carrie, and this is a staple for southern people. ALSO... IT IS ONE OF MY GREATEST WEAKNESSES! If I could have shot him, I would have.

That being said, I do have the most wonderful husband whom is so very supportive. I guess he just lost his brain while I was losing my stomack. LOL

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Here's what I do, and it avoids a lot of things.

I've been telling people most of the truth. 1) that my dr told me that if I didn't get under control, I would be diabetic in 2 years and dead within 10. (2) my doctor referred me to a nutritionist and I have been working closely with her. And (3) I keep myself under 1500 calories a day, and offer them the www.Emilybites.com recipe website and tell them my whole family loves the food and they should try it.

All of these things are true, and more importantly, this way I'm not giving out false info about fad diets that won't work for others. The way I figure it, if I tell them 'I'm using atkins' or some other diet, then they see my success and try it themselves and continue that cycle. This way, the worst they can do by following me, is make an appointment with a NUT and start eating healthy.

Also, I actually DID have a hernia that my dr fixed during my sleeve surgery, so I was able to honestly tell them I had to get a hernia fixed.

Good luck with your journey

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I have only told my husband, mother, and sister-they are my support team. I tell others that I have been re-educated about eating healthy. I have a nutritionist, trainer, and have gone through psychological testing to learn how to eat healthy! Everything I said is true, I just leave out the surgery part because it's nobodys business. Also many wouldn't understand!

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It's funny that you say that. As I am lying in the hospital bed all drugged up' date=' my husband decides to go to the caf to get some lunch. Does he eat his lunch down in the caf? NO! He brings it back up to the room. Do you know what he brought in my room after I have just had all but a teeny tiny bit of my stomack removed.... FRIED CHICKEN! I am southern Carrie, and this is a staple for southern people. ALSO... IT IS ONE OF MY GREATEST WEAKNESSES! If I could have shot him, I would have.

That being said, I do have the most wonderful husband whom is so very supportive. I guess he just lost his brain while I was losing my stomack. LOL[/quote']

Ha! How mean! I don't even think they realize how hard they make it sometimes. He's trying to be better but I think I'm just going to have to exercise a lot more self-control than I used to. The nice thing is that I only have so much room now...so if I cheat, it'll be like 2 bites of something.

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I usually tell people that I'm following a high Protein, meat and veggies diet with limited carbs....

But now if someone comes out and ask me if I had the sleeve done, I tell the truth and say yes I did....otherwise if they dont ask I won't tell....

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I am honest. I don't want to say oh I just watch what I eat because these are some of the same people who may benefit from the surgery themselves and knowing that they can ask questions is important. I recently started attending weight watchers meetings (I am a lifetime member now back at my lifetime weight so it is free). I want this for support on a weekly basis as well as accountability. I told my leader straight up. I had 2 ladies ask (one I knew personally and can't imagine she didn't know) this week what I had been doing. They want to know how long it took - well I think the 18 months it has taken me shows them it isn't a "quick fix!" With the exception of the first few months post op, my losses are equivalent to what I lost on weight watchers on a monthly basis.

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I'm 10 days out and have told the people who matter. I go back to work in a couple weeks and I'm just waiting for the comments..."Carrie' date=' you look great! What are you doing??" which will be nice comments to hear, but I'm just not ready for the whole school (I work at a high school) to talk about me. I know...I need to figure out how to stop caring so much about what people think.

I was thinking of saying gallbladder surgery , which prompted a new diet (low fat) and once I started losing and feeling better I continued... I don't know. It's probably easier to tell the truth but I feel ashamed in a way. The nice thing is that I'm a lower BMI (started at 32), so I know the weight loss will come off slower. So maybe it won't be so obvious...

What did/do you guys say?[/quote']

Say nothing. You don't have to tell them. If you think you have to say something, just say you been working out and eating right. Tell them how you portion size your foods. Tell them how you dont eat after 6pm. You can say you eat those smart one dinners made by weight watchers. I just had my gallbladder removed Thursday. I would not use that story.

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