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phillygirl8133

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StormWarning    194

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I think every doctor is different. I have asked my doctor and he also has a youtube video about it, but he says as soon as we feel comfortable in doing so. But again I know all doctors are different.

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Downtown Pony    7

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How long do u have to wait to get some lol my husband is going nuts n it's only been a wk since we last had sex I forgot to ask my doctor so I figured I ask here lol

Two days after surgery.

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PdxMan    4,292

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4 days here. No problems. Just no acrobatics and you'll be fine.

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Dooter    1,457

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How long do u have to wait to get some lol my husband is going nuts n it's only been a wk since we last had sex I forgot to ask my doctor so I figured I ask here lol

My doc said two weeks, and only if you're comfortable. The guys here that have said a smaller amount of time have to remember, they are "top," (ok, typically..) and therefore not as much pressure on the belly! ;)

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StormWarning    194

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I kinda disagree about the guys part. I would imagine a guy would feel worse pain/discomfort/pinching compared to a woman. After all the guys are the ones who have to use abdominal muscles constantly for the thrusting. Prob too vague on the picture, but isn't that the truth? I think depending on who is having the surgery male/female you work around positions.

However despite how successful you are on finding a position that will work for both parties, a woman may feel some discomfort during an orgasm as her abdominal muscles may contract. Again not anything that would prevent having sex, but is why they say "When you feel comfortable in doing so"

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PdxMan    4,292

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My doc said two weeks, and only if you're comfortable. The guys here that have said a smaller amount of time have to remember, they are "top," (ok, typically..) and therefore not as much pressure on the belly! ;)

Who's doing most of the moving? My belly was moving ... for sure.

Ever hear of scissors? Yup ...

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Star1221    270

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2 days here. I initiated. Just held my stomach to stop the jiggle lol. Now in the moment when your stomach tenses, you can't stop that. But it Just feels like you were sore from working out. After a few times it wasn't as bad. If you feel ready, start slow and enjoy

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phillygirl8133    74

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Good to know lol I jut didn't want him to mess up my stitches so I guess I'll try it I know he will be happy and il make sure I take my pain medicine cause my incision is hurtin with movements

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petite-size-me!    70

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Lucky partners! I'm 3 weeks out and not on the radar! If not for the hernia repairs maybe, but I feel like after my caesarean!

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StormWarning    194

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Not trying to sound degrading here but there are tons if positions available but after all the previous abdominal surgeries I found that hands and knees with a pillow propped under tummy helps. Able to control tummy movements better than laying on back and on top positions can be stressful cause you forget about having surgery and eventually your hips move with motions which pulls on abdominal muscles.

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phillygirl8133    74

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Not trying to sound degrading here but there are tons if positions available but after all the previous abdominal surgeries I found that hands and knees with a pillow propped under tummy helps. Able to control tummy movements better than laying on back and on top positions can be stressful cause you forget about having surgery and eventually your hips move with motions which pulls on abdominal muscles.

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Lmao just what I had in mind ha ha

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melbelinc    33

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My surgeon actually brought this up at my one week. He said whenever just be careful doing anything that uses your abs. He said to 'try a different position if you need to". So go ahead and do it. Just listen to your body.

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