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gonnabethin

By gonnabethin, in LAP-BAND Surgery Forums

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gonnabethin    10

gonnabethin
Posted

Thank you Mr. Alex for you patience, kindness and generosity!!

I need this board for support!!!

Experienced bandsters may need to walk away for a few days and the newbies will continue to chat & scan in the same naive manner we do daily! I am 2 weeks from banding and dont want the "grumpy old bandsters" to ruin this for all the new people! This board has been a Godsend!!

Thank you for a forum that connects new people to information, knowledge, and comradery.

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DrewsLou    3

DrewsLou
Posted

Welcome gonnabethin and stacey!

I'm sorry you had to walk into us at a time like this, this really is a great place for support and friends.

Stay awhile!

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babsintx3    0

babsintx3
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Hi ,

I guess I must have missed something. I am not a newbie (3 years post op). Did someone who is an oldie start some trouble? LOL

Babs in TX

334/180 ish

Am I not welcome????

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lisah25    3

lisah25
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I’ve been here since about mid-June, since I had my consultations and all. I LOVE it here, I’ve learned a lot and have gotten great support and answers.

Seeing the drama does make me wonder if I want to keep posting. I had my fill of forum drama a few years ago. Was in the middle of a nasty forum war, and learned no one ever wins. I also learned to see the patterns such things take, and this one seems to be following them.

<O:pAnytime you get a group like this on a forum, people make friends for real. And anytime there is a large group of people, some just don’t get along. I would like it if people just avoided those that they clash with, instead of clashing over and over and over and telling everyone how and why they clash. No moderation policy can please everyone all the time. My bottom line is that a forum is like being invited into someone’s living room for a chat. If you don’t behave, they have a right to toss you out. And they don’t have to justify every little decision. We as guests have the right to decide a given place isn’t what we want and leave of course

So, I have to wonder if I want to stay or not. I hate to lose a resource like this has been, but I don’t really need to read re-hashes of things, even if I wasn’t around for the original hashing. I guess it will come down to the balance of support vs. this stuff.<O:p

I certainly don’t expect anyone to change what they are doing to suit me. Just thought another newbie should be heard from.<O:p</O:p

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Telly    4

Telly
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This forum is a cool place, I agree. I need it for motivation purposes. Most info I needed was already given to me by my doctor. It's the people that bring me back, time and time again.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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