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Hi everyone! I'm 5 days post op an I have a 10mnth old that wants his mommy!! I feel soo bad cause he crys at my feet. I know how very important it is not to lift. My boyfriend has been the best at helping with baby! I was jus wondering if anyone knows when I can lift him, he's like 25lbs.

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I would suggest you wait until cleared by your doctor. My doctor cleared me for lifting that much weight at four weeks. What if you lie on the bed and have your boyfriend lift baby up to snuggle up with you? Or sit in a chair?

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I'm absolutely feeling you! I have a 3 yr old whos 27lbs. I was told that I couldnt lift more than 10 lbs until I was 6 weeks out. That lasted about 2 weeks. My mom was a big help because my son and I went to stay with her and my dad for weeks 2-4 but I still lifted him sometimes. I went back home at 4 weeks and was home with him all day while my husband was at work and lifted him all the time. I know we have to be careful, but they're your baby. At least my son is old enough he could climb on the couch with me by himself. I think you should do your best, but its too hard when they want you

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I feel ya! I've got a cuddler too! She was 2 when I had my band surgery. I'd put my little pillow on my tummy and she would climb up and snuggle. She is 6 now and really good about being careful w/me but we still snuggle!

Is your little guy much of a climber? Can you get down a little closer to his level. A kinda meet in the middle thing? Are there some large pillows/cushions that you can put on the ground and build up so he can climb up to you? Might have to steady him some while he does it until he gets the hang of it. What about building a ramp of some sort that he can use to crawl up to the couch? I'm just thinking of the ramp DH built for me so I could get in and out of our living room after my foot surgery.

I'm not sure I'm helping. Just throwing ideas out there. Maybe some one else can expand on them or gets a better idea. I know it's hard but you REALLY don't want to hurt yourself right now. That will just make the healing take longer.

Hope you can come up with something!

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Thanks 4 your response! I know it's soo hard! Ima stick it out an try my best not to lift him, I'm healing well an don't wanna jinx it! Thanks guys!!

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I went 2 weeks max... maybe a week and a half before liftin.g him. But 8it was limited. At 4 weeks out I was back at my normal all day pick up.

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Hi, I'm 2 1/2 weeks out and have. 10 month old that weighs 23 lbs I only lasted two weeks w/out lifting her (couldn't take it she needed/wanted her mommy). That being said I only carried her wouldn't walk with her. Now at almost 3 weeks I'm slowly walking w/her but just like from crib to my bed and we are both happy :)

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My daughter was 14 months and she was 27 pounds... My Doc said one week. But if I felt anything, then put her down and wait a day. One week was all I could take..

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Thanks for everyone's input. I'm still trying not to lift him but I have pulled him up on the couch with me an no problems, thankfully. I know all us mommys LOVE our babies an cant resist when they want us.... Feels soo good to b loved! :)

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