SUPER PISSED!!! I told my husband in the beginning of my final decision that I DID NOT want his family to know about my weight loss surgery I'm going to have. I feel like I haven't been accepted at my worst, then they don't deserve me at my best. Anyway...we were just talking about the subject again, and I reiterated to him I DID NOT WANT THEM TO KNOW. IT'S NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS AND NOT HIS PLACE TO TELL THEM! He already did...two weeks ago! M A DDD!!

Wow, your hubby is a total ****! He's not supportive of your decision to have surgery? He sounds like he's hasn't fallen very far from the apple tree. This would be a great time to seek marriage counseling so that he can be a better support to you and not sabotage your efforts to loss this excess weight. Just thoughts and recommendations for future successes in your life!

He won't go to counseling because theres nothing wrong with him (his words).

I'm going to play devils advocate because....well I always do lol

I made my partner swear to secrecy as well - for a long time. I let her tell her family when I decided it was time. The truth? She needed them.

I wrapped my life up into having surgery. Every free day was spent at doctors appointments, making sure insurance was doing things properly, and I was completely consumed. I made life about me....and therefore I made my partners life about me too. WE focused on getting me healthy.

I didn't realize until after surgery how scared she was - How worried she was for my health and how our children would react to it. She needed people like her family to turn to in her difficult moments.

I am not saying what he did was right - because I would have been angry as well. I'm just speaking from my experiences.

Stacey, if he was caring I would give that a possibility, but his family has never accepted me (22 years) and it just adds fuel to the conversation about how much they dislike me fire! Not to mention I walked out last night because I needed to calm down, and never came home. He's not even called to check on me. So yeah, he doesn't care!

Perhaps this is a sign please do not take it the wrong way but basically you will have a new life after this surgery, you will be thin and looking quite sexy, this makes a boost to the confidence U may even decide to change your appearance when this happens others will look this will go one or two ways. He will either be jealous and start overly caring or perhaps someone else will be doing all the caring. Either way I wish you luck in your surgery everything will be ok one way or the other.

So my husband did the same thing and got a very similar response from me as you and yours. Now that I've lost so much weight he is singing a different tune. I think this has put some stuff into perspective for him. I hope the same thing for your husband

Ur husband says there's nothing wrong with h? This is a time to take care of u. Like someone else has said here, u are going to make a great change in ur life and will be experiencing a shift I'm what u want and how u let him treat u. ;$

Thanks all of you for your loving and caring support. It has really helped. This IS about me, for once. And no matter where it takes me or who comes along for the ride, it's MY time, Bd I'm going to enjoy the ride!!

I feel you. I told my mom not to tell anyone. Next thing u know my aunt calls me.. so how do u feel. How much have u lost.. she has always been supportive n all but a secret is a secret.. n then I get in the car n my moms friend ask me r u feeling well. Like wthell mom seriously who else knows... uugh so I feel u on that! If I was next to ur husband I would pull his ears off.. so u can do it for me .. lol.. anywho cheer up wats done is done now its time for success!!

I feel you. I told my mom not to tell anyone. Next thing u know my aunt calls me.. so how do u feel. How much have u lost.. she has always been supportive n all but a secret is a secret.. n then I get in the car n my moms friend ask me r u feeling well. Like wthell mom seriously who else knows... uugh so I feel u on that! If I was next to ur husband I would pull his ears off.. so u can do it for me .. lol.. anywho cheer up wats done is done now its time for success!!

Sry this app thing posted it twice

This is about you and your health. As you can see by each of us that have responded to your posts, you are important. The more weight you lose, the more wonderful you will feel. I wouldn't worry about your spouse's family. This is time to focus on you and get healthy, an option would be to go to counseling without him.

I forgot who said it in someone elses post about how their friend was being unsupportive and rude, but in not so much reference to that; you're losing the pounds so why not lose the people/situations that aren't supporting that positive thing in your life?

Not suggesting you should get a divorce, but LET HIM KNOW that his unsupportive behavior is not cool and that he should try to be more understanding of where you are coming from instead of being such a jerk about the whole situation. Tell him you don't have room for all that negativity!

I haven't had surgery yet. It's scheduled for August 23rd. So no pounds coming off yet. But yes, while I'm changing, either his attitude can or his address can!

Oh wow. I am so sorry your husband did that to you. My husband have gone round and round about him wanting to tell his parents. I have decided that I dont want them to know, only because i am new to the family and I worry his mom will tell everyone. She is a medical gossip tells everyone about everyone elses medical issues ect. (Shes a nurse). I just dont know the rest of the family well enough to not feel uncomfortable. I dont even know most of them by name yet. Lol.

I really wish you the best of luck.