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I'm only slightly kidding! My surgery is May 30 and I'm finding things to worry about I guess! Do you cook food for your family that you know you can't eat, or does your family have to suck it up and eat what you can it (only a bigger portion). I can't imagine what it will be like to not feel hunger!

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If your kid is used to being fed regularly, s/he will let you know when it's time to feed them! LOL It's definitely an adventure! :)

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At first you will be on a different diet. You will fix different foods for your kids but it will be no big deal. Later on you can eat what they eat but in smaller quanities. This is probable a great time to start making healthier meals for the whole family so that they can learn healthier eating habits now. That will make it a lot easier for you also. You will do fine. No worries. ;)

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LMAO... I forgot to feed my daughter once 3 days post op. My sweet husband had assumed that I had our 5 y.o. meals planned out so when he got home and got her ready for bed, he thought that mommy had taken care of that without asking me. Thank God our lil one is very vocal because after he read her bedtime story she said, "You're really a baddy daddy! You are making your only daughter go to bed without food like I am in jail or something. That's not nice!" Needless to say, she got fed and that never happened again.

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I make a menu for the week. I make dinners much more healthier now than before. Menus really help you plan what to make. Especially when I had the surgery so it was easy for my family to fix. My kids never miss a meal. LOL I do cook differently now. I make sure they have the 1 right portion instead of 2. Dessert is fruit. I think we all will benifit in my home from my journey.

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I'm only slightly kidding! My surgery is May 30 and I'm finding things to worry about I guess! Do you cook food for your family that you know you can't eat, or does your family have to suck it up and eat what you can it (only a bigger portion). I can't imagine what it will be like to not feel hunger!

I cook for my family exactly as I did pre-op. I love to cook, and not being able to eat it (yet) hasn't bothered me at all. A few times (maybe 2 or 3) I've had some leftover stomach yuckiness and just not felt like cooking, or doing much of anything else other than laying down and waiting for it to pass, but that has been the only exception. I still aet out with them too, even if I just get a drink and enjoy the company.

What I worry about is DD starting to show a lot of curiosity in what I (don't) eat. I keep telling her it's because "My owies from the doctor make me not want to eat very much so I can feel better and be healthier." (She was quite concerned about my "owies"/incisions.) So far she's still eating like her normal self, but the other day she said something about "I Just want 1 food, like mommy has"... have this nagging concern in the back of my head that seeing how I eat is going to effect her healthy eating habots, or give her a complex about eating a regular meal.

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Your DD is going to learn from you how to eat healthy and have healthier portion sizes. People these days eat way too much food! She will adjust and adapt more healthier eating habits by the choices that you make. I am in the process of giving my family less portion sizes with healthier food choices. I believe that it is time to be more conscious of chloresteral and the effects it has on our bodies. What better way to teach our children then by role modeling for them. ;)

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Don't intend to be a wet blanket, but I find that the "no hunger" thing doesn't apply to me! I still get physically hungry!! And have from the first day post-op. I'm not speaking of cravings and head hunger - I mean stomach-is-empty-and-demands-food hunger!

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So weird how much it varies. I get a little hungry, sometimes. Maybe once a week, in the late afternoon. It's easily ignorable, and doesn't seem to have any impact on how much I can eat. Alternately, when I had my lapband I was never hungry. I could easily count on one hand the number of times I felt hunger during those 6 years. So even though I'm still rarely hungry, it seem like I always am, relatively. :)

We'll see with DD. I'm definitely watching for signs, and doing my best to make sure she has as neurosis-free of a perspective on food as I can possibly help her develop. But it's really a bit more complicated. Look how many fat parents have fat kids. That's partially nature, yes -- parents cook unhealthy food so kids eat unhealthy food -- but there's also a huge nurture aspect. Nothing is just one, or the other. She eats healthy. She has her entire life. But there's still an aspect of her schema for things like portion, healthy eating, etc. that is going to be connected to the quantity of food she sees mommy eating. It's unavoidable. At the end of the day we're all a little neurotic, and it's usually because of our mothers. ;)

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I don't get hungry like the family does (my husband and child) so yes, I've been guilty of running around on the weekends, forgetting to eat. They remind me though lol....

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My son is 3 and he'll forget if I forget. He'll start to ask for Snacks if I don't sit him down for a regular meal.

My experience has been that I'm on a pretty regular schedule to feed myself something (liquids, Vitamins, prescriptions, food) so it's pretty usual that I'm doing something for both of us. I don't always eat the same thing I feed him. It depends on what I've made for him.

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