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My husband says it looks like things are really slowing down at work and he's afraid we might not be able to pay the monthly payments on the self-pay surgery like we'd planned, so I have to call tomorrow and cancel my appt w/ dr aceves. I'm going to look further into the insurance route. Maybe anyway- my bmi is 39.9 and as far as I know, I dont' have an co morbidities other than depression. Surely 39.9 is close enough to 40!

I'm so heartbroken. I was just heading out to get my passports when he came in the door from work and told me that. I had to go for a drive and just cry. After I scheduled that appt, I've been in SUCH a good mood, so happy because there was a light at the end of the tunnel. Now it;s just gone.

He says that next spring (tax time) we can do it with cash, which is great, but that's such a long time away. :(

I am going to call about insurance tomorrow.

well on teh bright side, I get to keep my iphone 4s that I was going to stop paying to help w/ the cost of the surgery paymetns. lol (must make light of it)

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I am sorry that you have to cancel the surgery. That really sucks. I hope that you guys are able to figure something out so that you can get it sooner than next year. Maybe the insurance research will pan out for you... {{{HUGS}}}

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I'm sorry to hear that. I'm kinda in the same situation because the loan I got approved for doesn't fund loans outside the US anymore. I'm hoping I get good news tomorrow because there's still a possibility. Best wishes to you

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I am sorry to hear that! that does suck. I am glad you are looking in the bright side of things. I am having my surgery May 10th with dr. Ponce de leon in Tijuana, he is also very good, and has been a surgeon for many many years. He is much cheaper than Dr. Aceves ($5500) so that might be a little more doable if at all. You are very close to 40, only a few pounds, drink a lot of Water before going to the doctor LOL. I am sure everything will eventually workout. Good luck and keep the good attitude :-)

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lol another friend suggested that i drink a lot of Water and not pee when i go, hahaha. i know kathy griffen used to have a show and when she was married, her husband wore ankle weights to be weighed, because they had told him at his last appt that he wasn't heavy enough. HAHA. so bad!

i will talk to my dr about dr Ponce. i think he'll still say CASH. bah!

I'm calling ins companies today to see what other criteria i have to meet.

thank you girls for the kind words and sweetsusie- i hope you get great news tomorrow!!!

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also- i may see if dh will go for Dr. Ponce, garcia or kelly.

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also- i may see if dh will go for Dr. Ponce, garcia or kelly.

if who?

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My BMI was lower than that but I had high blood pressure and type II diabetes which qualified me with the insurance company. Do you have any problems which may qualify you?

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DH-Dear husband, usually. When I use that abbreviation, it's short for Richard Cranium. ;)

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I know this is bad, but my bmi was on the edge as well...39.7 . I waited to scedule my first visit till my time of month when i retain more Water and wore heavier clothing and shoes. That put my bmi at 41 :)

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if who?

dh = dear husband :) i want to ask him if he will go for a cheaper bill.

My BMI was lower than that but I had high blood pressure and type II diabetes which qualified me with the insurance company. Do you have any problems which may qualify you?

nothing serious enough to probably count. but it wouldn't be hard to gain a few lbs. im a pro, afterall!!!

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I love that you are able to look on the bright side of things. Hang in there. You'll get it done.

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Well ladies I have had to remember so many abbreviations in the last two weeks HBsAG, HBeAG.......................... That my brain feels like is about to explode if I see another one LOL (and I have so many more still to memorize!).... Thanks for the translation LOL

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Every time I read about people's insurance not covering the procedure...I realize how blessed I am. Don't give up & pray. I believe GOD has the last say on everything.

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Have you had a sleep study done? Sleep apnea is considered a co-morbidity. I know that helped to push me to get insurance coverage even though I have a much higher BMI.

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