Feeling Guilty!

[DDFinn 118]

I made the decision to keep my sleeve a secret from everyone but my husband and sister (who was sleeved at the same time). I have been doing really well and feeling so good these past 2 months, I feel really guilty when I see overweight friends or friends of friends. It's like I discovered the cure for cancer and I'm keeping it to myself! I went to MX because I had a low BMI & no co-morbidities,so insurance was not an option. Maybe one day when I reach my goal I will feel comfortable sharing the truth.

[NancyJerry 139]

I know what you mean, DD. The "truth" is I'm losing weight because I eat very little and exercising more. But I couldn't eat so little if it hadn't been for my sleeve. So it's tough sometimes. Good luck to you and your sister!

[bringinsexyback:) 1]

I also have kept mine a secret between my husband ( who is deployed to Afghanistan ) and my sister who came to help me recovery. I was sleeved may 10th and my reason for not telling I just don't want to deal with people talking about me and saying I took the easy way out or I'm cheating. I lost 100 lbs on my own when I was in my twentys .. Had two more pregnancies regained the weight and at 34 could not drop the weight as I did ten years ago. This journey up until this far has not been easy what so ever, infancy in my opinion my regular dieting and exercise in the past was much easier. The pre op and post op have been so restrictive .. I just chose not to deal with the negativity.. I want to stay focused on my diet plan and my goals and not have to have drama.

[Miriam 50]

I know how you feel. I've also told only a few people that I'm very close to, and I'm constantly getting admiring comments about my weight loss (it's quite noticeable). Just today someone told me that she found it hard to lose just 10 lbs. and asked me if I had done anything drastic to lose so much weight. Well, I know many consider weight loss surgery drastic, but to me it was the absolutely only solution to my weight issues and therefore sensible, not drasatic. I was able to honestly answer that no, I didn't do anything drastic... but felt guilty nonetheless.

[bringinsexyback:) 1]

I know how you feel. I've also told only a few people that I'm very close to' date=' and I'm constantly getting admiring comments about my weight loss (it's quite noticeable). Just today someone told me that she found it hard to lose just 10 lbs. and asked me if I had done anything drastic to lose so much weight. Well, I know many consider weight loss surgery drastic, but to me it was the absolutely only solution to my weight issues and therefore sensible, not drasatic. I was able to honestly answer that no, I didn't do anything drastic... but felt guilty nonetheless.[/quote']

I understand. It's your choice and you shouldn't feel guilty. We made the choice because we felt like it was the only hope. I don't feel like we are obligated to broadcast this. Everyone is different and I would rather not tell just every one inquiring. And really the answer is change in diet and exercise. They have no idea what it's like where as the ones close that we have told and have been there for us have an idea of what it took to get a surgery date.. All the steps involved and every thing to come post surgery.