I also have kept mine a secret between my husband ( who is deployed to Afghanistan ) and my sister who came to help me recovery. I was sleeved may 10th and my reason for not telling I just don't want to deal with people talking about me and saying I took the easy way out or I'm cheating. I lost 100 lbs on my own when I was in my twentys .. Had two more pregnancies regained the weight and at 34 could not drop the weight as I did ten years ago. This journey up until this far has not been easy what so ever, infancy in my opinion my regular dieting and exercise in the past was much easier. The pre op and post op have been so restrictive .. I just chose not to deal with the negativity.. I want to stay focused on my diet plan and my goals and not have to have drama.