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Today is my 5th day out. I woke up in the morning with pain all over my stitches completely weak and my whole body was shacking. My whole recovery has been really hard. I had to call my husband to come and get me because I'm not only feeling weak physically but emotionally since I never thought that the recovery part could be so hard. I got sleeved to get better but sometimes it makes me sad to think what I have done to my body. I was sooooo excited to get my sleeve and everyday my thoughts were strongly positive that I never thought that something could go wrong. Am I alone in this? I'm very scared that this was way more than I could handle it. I'm such a vibrant and positive person that I'm surprised of this outcome

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I am sorry you are having such a hard time. Are you getting your fluids in okay? Dehydration is serious business and will make you feel horrible.

The stitches will itch and be somewhat painful for the first week and sometimes longer. Are you taking your pain meds?

I am hoping and praying that you have called your surgeon and will update us soon.

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Every change brings a type of grief process. I wondered, "WTFoof have I done?" I felt weak, and awful, and in pain. I hated depending on others to help me. I hated the post-op diet. I went through Christmas without being able to eat. I had no energy.

BUT: About the 8th or 9th week, something clicked. I couldn't believe the changes I saw in the mirror. My energy started coming back.

Hang in there. You will get healthy. You will get better. You've undergone MAJOR surgery, a shock to the body, and your body has to find its balance again. I would do it all over again, with no regrets. Do what your doc says, heal, and what you are going through now will be but a distant memory. Truly.

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I was told before getting sleeved that a person may experience some VERY strong emotions after surgery. I'm almost 4 wks post op and I will admit that I've had those "what have I done" feelings. A lot of yours may be associated with having such a rough recovery. Once you physically start to feel better you'll emotionally feel better as well. I know it may not seem like it but every day does get better and better. Hang in there!!!!

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I am sorry you are having such a hard time. Are you getting your fluids in okay? Dehydration is serious business and will make you feel horrible.

The stitches will itch and be somewhat painful for the first week and sometimes longer. Are you taking your pain meds?

I am hoping and praying that you have called your surgeon and will update us soon.

Hi thanks I did call him but he's not the most helpfull person. I do think I've been lacking on hydration. I'm trying harder but I don't want to fill up my sleeve too much and following the rule of stop drinking 1/2 hour before and after food. Thanks so much for taking the time to answer I appreciate it

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Every change brings a type of grief process. I wondered' date=' "WTFoof have I done?" I felt weak, and awful, and in pain. I hated depending on others to help me. I hated the post-op diet. I went through Christmas without being able to eat. I had no energy.

BUT: About the 8th or 9th week, something clicked. I couldn't believe the changes I saw in the mirror. My energy started coming back.

Hang in there. You will get healthy. You will get better. You've undergone MAJOR surgery, a shock to the body, and your body has to find its balance again. I would do it all over again, with no regrets. Do what your doc says, heal, and what you are going through now will be but a distant memory. Truly.[/quote']

Thanks so much for making me see that I'm not alone in this journey

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Thanks so much for making me see that I'm not alone in this journey

That's the beauty of this board. We are not alone. :)

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I was told before getting sleeved that a person may experience some VERY strong emotions after surgery. I'm almost 4 wks post op and I will admit that I've had those "what have I done" feelings. A lot of yours may be associated with having such a rough recovery. Once you physically start to feel better you'll emotionally feel better as well. I know it may not seem like it but every day does get better and better. Hang in there!!!!

Yeah you're right. Before my sleeve I thought the day couldn't come earlier but I need to be brave now there's not going back. Thanks!!!!

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Today is my 5th day out. I woke up in the morning with pain all over my stitches completely weak and my whole body was shacking. My whole recovery has been really hard. I had to call my husband to come and get me because I'm not only feeling weak physically but emotionally since I never thought that the recovery part could be so hard. I got sleeved to get better but sometimes it makes me sad to think what I have done to my body. I was sooooo excited to get my sleeve and everyday my thoughts were strongly positive that I never thought that something could go wrong. Am I alone in this? I'm very scared that this was way more than I could handle it. I'm such a vibrant and positive person that I'm surprised of this outcome

I'm so sorry you are having a hard time. The amazing thing about this recovery is that, God willing, one day pretty soon, you will just wake up and feel so much better. Keep your chin up and be happy that you are on the way to taking control of your weight!

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What is your post op diet? I'm also 5 days out and only allowed liquids. You say you're trying to follow the 1/2 hr no drinking before meal rule. Right now the most important thing u can do is drink drink drink. Im so sorry your not feeling well. Keep drinking and walking when u can. Hang in there.

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I finally decided to go ahead with this surgery in June. My husband had the lapband and kept on eating as usual , as expected he is not supporting me with this decision. Others tell me I should try other ways to loose weight. I am so mad and I am afraid that I will feel the way are feeling. I question my self , I know this is my choice and my health. I have seen all the great outcomes and I am scared and excited. I keep thinking that it is such a short face, compare to the lifetime of rewards. It is worth it! ????

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At about week 3 I was furious...I actually blamed my husband and felt like he pushed me to have the surgery. I was really moodyand regreted my decision. But I spoke to a friend and got on VST and found out that my hormones were all wacked up because of the dump of estrogen from fat burning happening in my almost starving body. Once I had an answer I was able to deal and just move on. And a week later I apolozied to my husband and he forgave me! Things will get better:) Hang in there.

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Those first couple of weeks are hard. Some people have a harder time than others. Just remember there is light at the end of the tunnel and you will slowly start to feel better.

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I was wondering what your diet is you say your tryinnot to drink to close to eating i'm 15 days out and still on liquids and Protein drinks was not allowed to have protein drinks till day 10 No soft food for me till day 22. Before you know it thangs will get easier.

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Nope I was sleeved Tuesday and feel the same. Recovery has hard and even stayed an extra day in hopital. I am weak from no food and I am forcing myself to drink Water.

The hard part is the spare time I now have since my life is no longer planned around food. It leaves me to think about me and food will never be the same again, but this is what I wanted right?

I am not giving up. You can't either.

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