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chyna86    17

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I decided not to tell too many people. Only a couple of close friends and my grandmother. Tomorrow is my fathers bday and the whole family will be going to Celebrate at a buffet. grrrreeeeaaattttttttttttt (sarcasm)

I cant not attend my own fathers dinner yso i have to go but it will be tough smelling and watching everyone eat plate after plate of delicious foods that I cant have :-( Im only 9 days out and still on liquids and Jello. How do you post opers do it?!? And what can I say to stop all the snickering and speculation from family? I have cramps? stomach ache? virus?

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Phoenix Rising    5

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I haven't told people either, so I am planning on saying that I am on a liquid diet that is really working for me and don't want to break it. It's only for another couple of weeks and will be so worth it in the end. I have been surrounded by family eating all sorts of things but it really hasn't bothered me too much as I know I just can't risk eating these things now as my sleeve is too new. Go to the party, chat all the time, and most people won't even notice. Good Luck.

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Lilee84    648

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I decided not to tell too many people. Only a couple of close friends and my grandmother. Tomorrow is my fathers bday and the whole family will be going to Celebrate at a buffet. grrrreeeeaaattttttttttttt (sarcasm)

I cant not attend my own fathers dinner yso i have to go but it will be tough smelling and watching everyone eat plate after plate of delicious foods that I cant have :-( Im only 9 days out and still on liquids and Jello. How do you post opers do it?!? And what can I say to stop all the snickering and speculation from family? I have cramps? stomach ache? virus?

Tell them the truth... You're not hungry. And you won't be either - just make sure you take your pepcid before hand because at that stage any hunger you experience is actually reflux rearing it's ugly head.

Welcome to the losers bench!

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Amanda 3.0    140

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If it were me, I would definitely have Soup if it is an option (and take a long time eating it), and then just get some tiny portions of food from the buffet. Push it around a bit and maybe make a pile and then put the plate aside after a few bites. Hopefully people are paying more attention to their own dinner than yours, but we all know that some people are just way nosy!

And, you can always say you are not very hungry, because that is probably not a lie. Good luck, and I hope you have a fun time with the family!

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2bsmallagain    156

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If it were me, I would definitely have Soup if it is an option (and take a long time eating it), and then just get some tiny portions of food from the buffet. Push it around a bit and maybe make a pile and then put the plate aside after a few bites. Hopefully people are paying more attention to their own dinner than yours, but we all know that some people are just way nosy!

And, you can always say you are not very hungry, because that is probably not a lie. Good luck, and I hope you have a fun time with the family!

I like this idea. Just chat and move the food around the plate like you are having the time of your life. Get some Jello for dessert and eat really slowly. They probably won't even notice if you are acting normal and talking to them. Have fun!

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gmanbat    5,889

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If you don't act like your frugal eating is a big thing they will lose interest. A person's worth is not measured by their ability to consume vast quantities, unless they are from Remulac. :D

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Enerfina    50

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i would stay with the same plate for a while n then switch it over with a Soup, move it around lay back oooh i am soo full.. then end dinner with some Jello ..

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BlackBerryJuice    349

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You can always slide some food down your sleeves when no one's looking! LOL

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massindex    346

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You know if you keep chatting and being bubbly, people will just assume that you are in a talkative mood and too busy to eat also...

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Amanda 3.0    140

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Too bad each surgery doesn't come with a purse dog and a purse, so we can slip our restaurant food to the dog instead of explaining our eating habits!

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chyna86    17

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Too bad each surgery doesn't come with a purse dog and a purse, so we can slip our restaurant food to the dog instead of explaining our eating habits!

Haaaaa My parents keep making me Breakfast and that what I do with it. My dogs are getting some good eats off of my sleeve!

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chyna86    17

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If it were me, I would definitely have Soup if it is an option (and take a long time eating it), and then just get some tiny portions of food from the buffet. Push it around a bit and maybe make a pile and then put the plate aside after a few bites. Hopefully people are paying more attention to their own dinner than yours, but we all know that some people are just way nosy!

And, you can always say you are not very hungry, because that is probably not a lie. Good luck, and I hope you have a fun time with the family!

Yes good idea Ill just nurse one plate of something and try to move around alot!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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