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i had gone today wiz my friends

i had a very happy day

but now im so depressed bcz i start to count what i had ate today i feel its too too too much

many calories and i feek as i gain all weight ihad lost

ihad have( 1 toast, 1 mortadella, 4 spoons of icecream, 1 cup of orange juice wiz 1 tea spoon of sugar, alittle ones of popcorn)

its too much and its not afood of a sleeve pateint

ihate me

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Child, BREATHE! Relax...it's okay.

First...DON'T HATE YOU! God created you and he don't make no junk!

Second... Think about before you were sleeved...if that's what you ate in one day, you'd be like "Dang, I hardly ate today!" It's okay. Nobody expects you to be perfectly strict with yourself to where your living like an obsessed maniac (and the repetitive negative self speak and inner monologue is our red flag). So now, just stop and breathe and remember;

1- your NOT on a diet- you are living a healthy lifestyle complete with healthy eating choices and a realistic and healthy self image.

2- you are making progress and growing. Anything that's not growing is dead. Your fully alive, which means sometimes your going to put things in your mouth you may regret later...and that's okay! You will continue to do your best to do #1.

3- The sleeve is only a tool. You also have exercise, prayer and meditation, supportive community (VST!), and mostly ENOUGH LOVE FOR YOUR LIFE THAT YOU DID SOMETHING SO THAT YOU COULD LIVE IT IN A QUALITY MANNER...

So no more hating out of you, young lady!

:wub:

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Very well said, Mrs! :wub:

Child, BREATHE! Relax...it's okay.

First...DON'T HATE YOU! God created you and he don't make no junk!

Second... Think about before you were sleeved...if that's what you ate in one day, you'd be like "Dang, I hardly ate today!" It's okay. Nobody expects you to be perfectly strict with yourself to where your living like an obsessed maniac (and the repetitive negative self speak and inner monologue is our red flag). So now, just stop and breathe and remember;

1- your NOT on a diet- you are living a healthy lifestyle complete with healthy eating choices and a realistic and healthy self image.

2- you are making progress and growing. Anything that's not growing is dead. Your fully alive, which means sometimes your going to put things in your mouth you may regret later...and that's okay! You will continue to do your best to do #1.

3- The sleeve is only a tool. You also have exercise, prayer and meditation, supportive community (VST!), and mostly ENOUGH LOVE FOR YOUR LIFE THAT YOU DID SOMETHING SO THAT YOU COULD LIVE IT IN A QUALITY MANNER...

So no more hating out of you, young lady!

:wub:

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thanks alot for your words ilove them so much

God help us all

its enough to be fat girl

really enough

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Sweetheart, this is journey... full of ups, downs, and everything in between.. Make a better decision next time.. It's okay!!!!

Amen!!!.Prisses!!

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Dont be so hard on your self.. Today was a bad day so the next day will be much better.. I am not going to lie i have had my days when i just feel like i need a bit of ice cream and you know what i had it. there is now way in life we are going to be able to not have a nice treat once in a while. Keep your head up and dont be so hard on your self

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i had gone today wiz my friends

i had a very happy day

but now im so depressed bcz i start to count what i had ate today i feel its too too too much

many calories and i feek as i gain all weight ihad lost

ihad have( 1 toast, 1 mortadella, 4 spoons of icecream, 1 cup of orange juice wiz 1 tea spoon of sugar, alittle ones of popcorn)

its too much and its not afood of a sleeve pateint

ihate me

i had gone today wiz my friends

i had a very happy day

but now im so depressed bcz i start to count what i had ate today i feel its too too too much

many calories and i feek as i gain all weight ihad lost

ihad have( 1 toast, 1 mortadella, 4 spoons of icecream, 1 cup of orange juice wiz 1 tea spoon of sugar, alittle ones of popcorn)

its too much and its not afood of a sleeve pateint

ihate me

This makes me so sad! You don't deserve this. There will be days when we have bad judgement and then we recognize it an move on. Tomorrows a new day. The only thing that could really do much damage would be the high sugar in the ice cream and the Orange juice. And it wasn't that much. NO MORE BEATING YOUR SELF UP! Just recognize different choices you can make. You are doing really great! :rolleyes:

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We all have off days sweetie, please be kind to yourself and realize you are only human. For the most part we stick to plan, but very few of us can say we haven't on occasion made a not so great food choice. It's going to be OK. Love yourself no matter what you do!

:)

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thanks people ikove you all

and love your words and encouragment

we will be together helping each other till reaching our goals

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Hang in there. Tomorrow will be better.

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Forgive yourself and move on. We all will have bad days. This is a lifetime journey, it can't be undone in one bad day. Tomorrow is a new day! Breathe! Exhale! Move forward knowing that we are all here to offer you support and ask for it in return. And most of all, love yourself and your sleeve...cause it's here for a lifetime! :)

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As everyone self has said, don't let this ruin your day, much less anything else! This is a journey and we are all walking it while trying to change our past behaviors. Get back on track tomorrow, but you should realize there are no "bad" or "good" foods. It's JUST food. Tomorrow, commit to eating 70 grams of Protein and drinking 64 oz of Water. Then do it.

Don't beat yourself up. We all have days where we feel like we could eat everything in sight. The beauty of being sleeved is that we CAN'T eat everything in sight. (((Hugs)))

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Throw away the ice cream! And do a better job tomorrow. But I love what Mrs. Prisses said GOD dont make junk ! We are here for you tomorrow or next week when ever you have a down day.

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thanks people ikove you all

and love your words and encouragment

we will be together helping each other till reaching our goals

That's right!

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Child, BREATHE! Relax...it's okay.

First...DON'T HATE YOU! God created you and he don't make no junk!

Second... Think about before you were sleeved...if that's what you ate in one day, you'd be like "Dang, I hardly ate today!" It's okay. Nobody expects you to be perfectly strict with yourself to where your living like an obsessed maniac (and the repetitive negative self speak and inner monologue is our red flag). So now, just stop and breathe and remember;

1- your NOT on a diet- you are living a healthy lifestyle complete with healthy eating choices and a realistic and healthy self image.

2- you are making progress and growing. Anything that's not growing is dead. Your fully alive, which means sometimes your going to put things in your mouth you may regret later...and that's okay! You will continue to do your best to do #1.

3- The sleeve is only a tool. You also have exercise, prayer and meditation, supportive community (VST!), and mostly ENOUGH LOVE FOR YOUR LIFE THAT YOU DID SOMETHING SO THAT YOU COULD LIVE IT IN A QUALITY MANNER...

So no more hating out of you, young lady!

:wub:

Amen, I'll say it again!!!

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