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I iike "plumbing issues" LOL!! I just said "abdominal surgery" that I needed to have done. I think people figured it out though, because my husband (who works at the same school) has had some people come up to him and discuss how great it is I'm getting weight loss surgery...??? Pretty bold, I think. He didn't know how to respond, poor guy!

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I iike "plumbing issues" LOL!! I just said "abdominal surgery" that I needed to have done. I think people figured it out though, because my husband (who works at the same school) has had some people come up to him and discuss how great it is I'm getting weight loss surgery...??? Pretty bold, I think. He didn't know how to respond, poor guy!

lol the nerve of some people

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I iike "plumbing issues" LOL!! I just said "abdominal surgery" that I needed to have done. I think people figured it out though, because my husband (who works at the same school) has had some people come up to him and discuss how great it is I'm getting weight loss surgery...??? Pretty bold, I think. He didn't know how to respond, poor guy!

At least its positive support! :) Maybe at some point they or someone very close to them had wls and they understand :)

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If he's a guy just tell him it's a female thing and then he'll go on lock down. Nothing ever gets a man to shut up so fast as when you talk about girl stuff, LOL. I did this once and my boss tripped all over himself. It was the funniest thing I've ever seen. BUT on the serious, just say "thank you for your conceren but I'd rather keep it a private matter." If your boss knows the rules (HIPPA) and HR he'll leave it alone. Good luck.

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Hi,

I worked in Health Care for a number of years, and NO you do not have to tell him what kind of surgery you are having. There are what they call HIPA rules and he does NOT have the right to ask you. You have a right to privacy when it comes to your Health Care.

Just tell him you are having surgery and that is all you need to tell him. If he asked tell him that under HIPA rules you are not required to tell him. That should keep him quite.

Hope that helps,

Suzanne

Suzanne is technically correct, but the gossip mill being what it is, you will only stimulate everybody's curiosity by being secretive. When that happens, you are leaving the door wide open to let someone's imagination come up with a big juicy reason why you are undergoing such a secret procedure. That someone who feeds the gossip mill for you will also probably be somebody who is not your best friend and who does not have your best interests at heart. I'd give them a simple answer of some sort and let the matter drop. JMHO By the way, best of luck!

Ted

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I told the person I use his office space and he was really happy. He says this will be the best thing I have ever done. And he's always telling me how he didn't recognize me from behind. LOL He is always telling me how good I'm looking. I just say yep, thank you very much.

I love my new body, and it's coming a long really great!

I actually talk openly about my surgery. If people want to be judgemental then let them, I love the choice I made and if they think I took the easy way out, i tell them how wrong they are and smile. <_<

Hi,

I was like you. I always told people what I had done. I thought it was my opportunity to educate them if they wanted to know. Congrat to you.

Hugs,

Suzanne

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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