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Am I Insane???? I have surgery on Tues with Dr Kelly and am starting to FREAK....



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. I'm starting to FREAK out. Is this normal?

VERY Normal! We all have the doubts and anxiety before hand!

What if I die?

You have a greater risk of dieing just driving your car.

End up in ICU?

With the simplest surgery something could go wrong, chances are it wont! This is really a very straight forward short procedure.

End up not wanting to eat ever again?

Trust me you will want to eat! The body tells you when it is hungry. It just feels different and you have total control that you did not have before. Freedom from food!

I need to stop freaking out..... Did any of you go through this?

YES YES YES

And what is WRONG with me that I'm not normal and thin like my friends... I used to be... Had a baby...

In a word, hormones.

Things went to heck in handbasket, body-wise. I need to calm down. BTW, I'm a single mom. If I die, my three yr old is left with his just his dad. Any advice would be so loved! This board is awsome btw.

You will be FINE!

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Hi.. I just got back from surgery with Dr. Ramos Kelly. I worried a lot too, but I am back at home and doing well. I have an 18 month old daughter so I understand your fears if you die. I also was pretty normal until I had my child, then gained a lot of weight and was unable to get it off. We are very similar in those respects :)

You just have to trust your gut feelings. Don't confuse extreme fear or desperation to be thin with your gut feeling. Hope this helps :)

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You guys ROCK! I'm a lot calmer today. Albeit, hungry from the yucky liquid diet. Thank you all SO much. Scorch- you DO sound like me. I'll give you a full rundown of everything with pictures and all. I'll keep you posted and will add you as a friend. Thanks everyone. So nice of you all to take the time to care and reply!

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That's my whole reasoning. As a single mom, this is an extremely difficult decision to make and an even more ballsy thing to do. My surgery is on Wed. and I'm going thru the whole spectrum of emotions. We are starting a new life and a huge change like this is anxiety prevoking. I'm calling it the "REINVENTING OF ME".

I can't say much more than anyone else here already has. I'm trying to keep busy and reading, posting and absorbing all the info I can about post-op life. Pretty much what I've been doing the past year! Good luck and see you on the other side.

im scared to death and mine is in the us. i have 3 kids that i have to be here for. the only thing that keeps me going through this is that i want to be there for them when they grow up and get married and have kids of their own. i dont see me in the picture in the future without this surgery, thats why i need to do this now, to be healthy for them, and myself in the future instead of in the ground.

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That's my whole reasoning. As a single mom, this is an extremely difficult decision to make and an even more ballsy thing to do. My surgery is on Wed. and I'm going thru the whole spectrum of emotions. We are starting a new life and a huge change like this is anxiety prevoking. I'm calling it the "REINVENTING OF ME".

I can't say much more than anyone else here already has. I'm trying to keep busy and reading, posting and absorbing all the info I can about post-op life. Pretty much what I've been doing the past year! Good luck and see you on the other side.

My surgery is Wednesday too! I thought I was alone! Yay, sleeve sister!!

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