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I'm not sure if this is considered a success story or not... I have a friend who continually has to add in little put downs about my weight. She will say something like, "God I am getting so huge... I mean I am nowhere near your size, but you know what I mean." or she will tell me that she can't tell that I've lost any weight at all (I've lost 80 pounds and have strangers coming up to me at my job commenting on it now) and other mean things along those lines. Yesterday, she tells me that she has been 'a little competitive' with me in trying to lose weight because she doesn't want me to weigh less than her. (This is no shock. Ever since I started losing weight she has been trying like mad to keep up with me) Is it terrible that I took such joy in informing her that I already weighed less than her? I had been looking forward to being able to say that for months. Her BMI is still less than mine (but not for long) because she is 5 inches taller. On the one hand, I feel like a jerk for being so happy to finally be able to tell her that she is the heavier one. On the other hand, I feel like she deserves it because she has been so mean about my weight.

I know many of you will tell me to dump her as a friend... It's impossible as she is my boss as well. I also think she is one of these people that doesn't think about what she is saying... she told her sister who is dealing with hair loss that it was looking like she was starting to go bald.

Anyway, I needed to gloat/vent about it a bit.

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Hmmmm ... being as it is your boss, you may want to tred carefully here.

But, it seems like she doesn't have a problem stating her thoughts. You should be allowed the same courtesy.

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I would let her know just once that you now weigh less than her, or are smaller than her, and then take the high road.

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It's normal to want to put someone in their place who may always be saying mean things... The difference between you and her is that you feel bad for doing it afterwards; you have a conscience. ;-) Always take the high road. She sounds very insecure and clueless. Don't stoop to her level; just know in your heart that you are the better person for being the nicer person :)

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it's ok to feel good about it. You've earned that comment.. I just hope she doesn't treat you more poorly when you weigh significantly less than her. Good luck.

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You did good.

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She sounds like such an insecure person. How sad for her.

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Take the high road right after you tell her to kiss your skinny $&&. Sorry I couldn't resist. I don't care much for mean people. You go girl.

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You might want to start looking for another job just in case she cannot handle you being slimmer than her, don't want to worry you but....

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Thank you all for letting me vent. Usually, I'm a little more understanding about other people's insecurities... and I know very well that this person has plenty of them. I like to think that normally I would rise above the little comments, but I'd really had enough of her saying how terrible it would be if I weighed less than her. At least now I won't have hear anymore of that. Of course, I'm sure that she will find something else to comment on. I'm using the negativity to motivate me to succeed... which is the opposite effect I think she wants it to have.

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I would just say "oh, did i tell you that i weigh blah, blah, blah now" and leave it at that! She will be so envious knowing that you are smaller and it will eat her up!!

I can't stand people like that. Why does everything have to be a competition??? UGGG!

Kelly :angry:

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I'd be careful what I said, not because she doesn't deserve a good bashing, but because she is your boss. However, there is no shame in secretly gloating about it on a daily basis!!!biggrin.gif It's only going to get better and better, too!!!

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I have a friend who is similar... perhaps not as curt, but the undertones are the same... fortunately she isn't my boss.

She asked me how much weight I had recently lost, this usually leads into her telling me about how much she has lost, blablabla... but I knew what was coming. I simply replied 'Oh, nothing! I've stopped weighing and measuring now... To be honest, I don't know if I want to lose anymore!' She was gutted! I purposefully said that to stop the competition that I felt she had put on us. I don't like competition of this nature, so as far as she is concerned... I am at goal!!

It was the only way I could get back in control... dunno if it would work for you?

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