I am such a failure!!!

[SarahS 13]

I was doing so well with eating and only eating stuff I am "allowed". Well, last night, I ate 1 resses cup. Then, I made cupcakes for a friend who just lost her baby (11 weeks pregnant). I ate a cupcake this morning!!! I was feeling awful, mentally, that I ate this "bad" stuff! It didn't hurt my stomach or make me sick. Well, then tonight, I ate ANOTHER resse's cup. I took the rest of the cupcakes to my moms so I don't eat anymore. I ate the junk in place of my meals, so its not like I ate it on top of everything else, but I feel like such a HUGE failure! I hate it! And I hate I am beating myself up so much about this. I would just eat cupcakes all day and no other food and I would be fine. I was hoping I DID NOT like this stuff, but I still LOVE it and crave it. I don't know what to do!!! I want to be able to enjoy it from time to time and not beat myself up, but I just want it all the time! UGH!!! I lost 17 pounds the first week post op, and 6-7 pounds every week after that. I don't think I am going to lose that much this week :(

[danitay 2]

whats done is done.. dont beat yourself up about it!! just focus on whats ahead and learn from your mistakes.. right i got sleeved on Monday and I want SOO much food that I cant have im tired of liquids!!! id kill for a bag of chips!!!

[SarahS 13]

whats done is done.. dont beat yourself up about it!! just focus on whats ahead and learn from your mistakes.. right i got sleeved on Monday and I want SOO much food that I cant have im tired of liquids!!! id kill for a bag of chips!!!

liquids was the hardest phase for me! I craved sooo many things too! But I didn't eat it because it would have hurt. Now I think I am all healed up and nothing really hurts or makes me sick now!

[Furry 0]

Agreed... it is the past, there is nothing you can do about it. Look to now....and what you can do right now!, not what happened, not to tomorrow....butr right now. You can do it!

[SouthernSleever 236]

Like you said before you would eat cupcakes all day. You had 1 and 2 pb cups. It isn't the end of the world and being hard on yourself doesn't make you thinner or do better if that was the case we would have been thin w/o surgery.

[cocoapod 0]

relax and stop beating yourself. Now you are aware. do not make cupcakes for anyone anymore. Just buy it from the bakery and deliver them asap.

I have the tendency also but I just keep away. When I take one piece of chocolate, I can eat the whole bar. So I try to stay away from it. I also write down

my treats in advance so that I will not do more than I need to. I suggest you write down what you will allow yourself for the week. then that will allow you to

stay in check.

goodluck

Annette

I was doing so well with eating and only eating stuff I am "allowed". Well, last night, I ate 1 resses cup. Then, I made cupcakes for a friend who just lost her baby (11 weeks pregnant). I ate a cupcake this morning!!! I was feeling awful, mentally, that I ate this "bad" stuff! It didn't hurt my stomach or make me sick. Well, then tonight, I ate ANOTHER resse's cup. I took the rest of the cupcakes to my moms so I don't eat anymore. I ate the junk in place of my meals, so its not like I ate it on top of everything else, but I feel like such a HUGE failure! I hate it! And I hate I am beating myself up so much about this. I would just eat cupcakes all day and no other food and I would be fine. I was hoping I DID NOT like this stuff, but I still LOVE it and crave it. I don't know what to do!!! I want to be able to enjoy it from time to time and not beat myself up, but I just want it all the time! UGH!!! I lost 17 pounds the first week post op, and 6-7 pounds every week after that. I don't think I am going to lose that much this week :(

[cbchebert 3]

whats done is done.. dont beat yourself up about it!! just focus on whats ahead and learn from your mistakes.. right i got sleeved on Monday and I want SOO much food that I cant have im tired of liquids!!! id kill for a bag of chips!!!

You and me both. I was also sleeved on Monday and I haven't even thought about food until last night. My stomach started growling (or maybe it was gas - not sure) and I immediately wanted some chips and dip. Too scared to even try.

[juliarh 35]

I agree with everyone -- you can't keep focusing on what happened or you'll send yourself into a nosedive -- you should use this as a learning experience -- some of us have no desire for sweets and others of us do -- and now you know that you need to seriously think about what and why you're eating. This is not something that your sleeve can take care of -- you'll need to "strengthen" your mind. Right now, I'm reading "Eat it Up!" by Connie Stapleton who writes about what we as WLS people need to think about post-op. I really recommend it.

So, please, don't continue to beat yourself up -- use this as a learning experience -- we've all burned our hand on the stove, and now we avoid doing it to avoid the pain. Right now you're in pain (mental pain, that is) because of what you ate -- ok, so now use it as your "stove top" experience, ok??? (Plus, you're not a failure -- you're human! Everyone flubs up )

Hugs!

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,282]

Sarah, take a deep breath... now exhale.

I've been there too. Yes, already. You really didn't go overboard. You know what? I didn't either. Sometimes our guilty conscience that we've been carrying along with us all these years, along with all the extra weight can become such a terrible burden for us. When we allow the negativity in, we also allow the Demon in. Don't do it!! Do not let the Demon win this battle!

Set him straight. Get right, and you have already taken steps toward that. You've removed the cupcakes from the house. Now for the next 5 days, eat super low carb. The cravings should subside by then, and try your very best to stay away from sugar for as long as you can. Not forever, no... but during the weight loss phase it's best to not indulge in it. It can and it WILL slow down the weight loss!

You will have all the time in the world for the fun times once you hit goal. The sleeve will be there as a safety net for those times. We will be able to catch our minor gains early and attack before it starts to feel like a mountain to climb.

But for now, pull up your bootstraps lady, and take on that task!!

Keep coming here for support - I believe hands down we are the very best at it!

[MINI-Me 196]

Sarah -

I am at goal & got there in less than 9 months. Want to know something? I cheated BIG time in April (2+ months from my surgery date) - the Easter candy was just too much temptation. I too felt like a failure. The worst was that I snuck around and ate it so no one would know I had already failed WLS.

I came out here and confessed (a.k.a. begged for help). Got lots of support & "bootstrap" talk. Then, I told my husband. He was concerned that I felt the need to sneak & offered me any support I needed. I bawled like a baby & admitted I was stressed out and afraid to fail. Just being able to admit it out loud and knowing I had a tool that kept me from eating the whole basket was a HUGE eye opener for me.

Having surgery didn't make us "perfect". BUT, it did give me a tool to manage my food intake. I've had times where I haven't made the best choices (Halloween was another slip up - I really do think they should outlaw Reese Cups)... but I don't have to throw in the towel just because I made one bad choice. The next meal can get me back on track.

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! I KNOW YOU CAN!!!