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Dr. Phil had a couple on the show where the wife doesnt want to be intimate because she has gained weight and feels like a failure!!!. Unattractive and less of a woman. :)

This is exactly how my relationship is.. my hubby always tried to help me on all of my diets.. but when i failed and failed and failed.. i felt like such a failure and it took such a toll on our relationship!!.. i feel so bad for her... but when i see her i think to myself, im so glad that will never be me again.. anybody else in that boat with me?

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Its hard to want to be intimate if you don't feel sexy. I am not married, but I didn't even date anyone for about 10 years (yes... 10 years without it... till last night hehehe).

I was "only" 50lbs overweight and I'm tall so I carried it pretty well....I was persued by some men who where definately great guys... but I just couldn't do it. I was just too disgusted with myself.

I started dating someone recently.... fantastic guy and I feel so sexy now. I know he's looking at me and thinking I look good. There is no better feeling. I just can't do it if I feel like a bumpy lump.

stacey

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yup... Im there.... I just feel fat and fat lol as the weight increased, the boyfriend suffered :)

It was and is a total lack of feeling attractive for me too

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fortunately my husband never said anything, he was more worried about my health, so when i had the sleeve, he was really really happy.....the thing here is low self esteem....and that is an issue i think all of us have as well.

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How weird I am watching that episode on tivo right now. (Okay this will sound awful, but I thought the husband was a bit of a d-bag.) Not very insightful or helpful to the topic, but just interesting that I watched it and wanted to vent and here was the option! Now back to your regularly scheduled programming.

Anna

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*giggle @stcyt* you go girl! :)

i know what you are all saying. i feel anything but appealing when i am carrying around a little "extra" hehe. it is hard to be intimate when u feel imperfect. i know i feel that way. someone particular told me, when i mentioned my surgery, i was already pretty. and asked if i really thought i needed to do this. :) for the first time in my adult life, someone suggested that i was attractive. and i almost backed out. its good to have those ppl in our lives, that still believe in us, and will still like/love us, no matter what. :blush:

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Sorry to hijack. Wanted to tell Stcyt that I have her beat....19 years. I want this drought overwith! Hope I will have a happy ending like you, Stcyt.

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Guys too.

I've only lost 1/2 my weight and already I`ve started dating again. Its much better than World of warcraft!

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Just cking my ticker

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i cant seem to get the ticker on my profile I have tried ticker factory and I just cant seem to figure out how to get it, I have been trying for a hour now

help!

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Guys too.

I've only lost 1/2 my weight and already I`ve started dating again. Its much better than World of warcraft!

That game alone will help you gain a ton of weight!

Plus it is probably a lot more satisfying for you to date in real life then to have your undead mage dating a hotty tauren hunter in game huh? LOL

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