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How do I say this ... my sex drive is uh, in high gear, since the surgery. Did this happen to anyone else? The only word for it is ... horny, or randy, or whatever slang you can come up with to indicate the desire to get some RIGHT NOW!! My environment doesn't lend itself toward fixing this er, problem. I work with soldiers and they are rather single minded and NOT in the way that helps me, lol! I have several months before I can be back in the States and this could get tense!!:001_tongue:

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HI, and welcome to estrogen overload. Our fat cells store estrogen, when we lose fat so fast, it all releases into our system. YAY for sex drive, BOO for location and situational constraints on getting it on! ! !

It doesn't let up for several months. When John came home from Afghanistan (you know that lovely transitional stage due to time zone changes, work hours, etc etc), he told me "this is more exhausting than being in the desert". Grant it, I went 6 months with NO humping. I was making up for lost time, and the surge in sex drive was a lethal combo for my poor husband ha ha ha.

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LOL, whatever is causing it, try and enjoy it, even in your situation. I know mine had been lost for years. So glad I found it again!

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HI, and welcome to estrogen overload. Our fat cells store estrogen, when we lose fat so fast, it all releases into our system. YAY for sex drive, BOO for location and situational constraints on getting it on! ! !

It doesn't let up for several months. When John came home from Afghanistan (you know that lovely transitional stage due to time zone changes, work hours, etc etc), he told me "this is more exhausting than being in the desert". Grant it, I went 6 months with NO humping. I was making up for lost time, and the surge in sex drive was a lethal combo for my poor husband ha ha ha.

My (soldier) BF was here with me and redeployed while I was on vacation so now I am here without him when I .... NEED HIM MOST!!!!:thumbup::drool5::scared0: I may have to join a harlequin romance novel of the month club!

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LMAO Thanks for the umm... heads up..(no punt intended:) he he Now I'm going to be prepared, !! thanks again..

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LMAO Thanks for the umm... heads up..(no punt intended:) he he Now I'm going to be prepared, !! thanks again..

STOP IT STOP IT:lol0: My staples hurt when I laugh to hard.

Deb

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My (soldier) BF was here with me and redeployed while I was on vacation so now I am here without him when I .... NEED HIM MOST!!!!:001_rolleyes::thumbup::001_unsure: I may have to join a harlequin romance novel of the month club!

Get a massaging showerhead ! ! ! I told everyone that I had a better relationship with my showerhead than I did with my husband during his deployment. :wink1:

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Sadly, the army showerheads here are standard showerheads ... toys are an option, but there aren't good options for keeping them properly cleaned. Soldiers can get in huge trouble if caught gettin' down, so it looks like I will be watching a lot of Russell Crowe movies, sucking on sugar free lollipops, and visiting the shooting range.:)

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Sadly, the army showerheads here are standard showerheads ... toys are an option, but there aren't good options for keeping them properly cleaned. Soldiers can get in huge trouble if caught gettin' down, so it looks like I will be watching a lot of Russell Crowe movies, sucking on sugar free lollipops, and visiting the shooting range.:mad0:

Bahahhahahaha! Amazing thought process! Love it!

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Russell Crowe???? Surely not? Now that lovely Daniel Wroughton Craig would be a different kettle of fish, I took a fancy to him when I saw Layer Cake, do try and see it if you can.

Jane x

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Russell Crowe???? Surely not? Now that lovely Daniel Wroughton Craig would be a different kettle of fish, I took a fancy to him when I saw Layer Cake, do try and see it if you can.

Jane x

Oh... I love Russell Crowe in Gladiator. So strong so.... well let's not go there. Jane, Daniel Wroughton Craig are we talking about the actor who plays Bond, James Bond? Yes.... he's a hottie too. :mad0:

Deb

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You won't get in trouble. I think thats just something they tell you. My husband and all the rest of the guys he knew had a stack of porn in Iraq they shared. He was there for 18mo. so he had to do something!! They buy them boot leg. But good luck with that...lol:tongue_smilie:

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Russell Crowe???? Surely not? Now that lovely Daniel Wroughton Craig would be a different kettle of fish, I took a fancy to him when I saw Layer Cake, do try and see it if you can.

Jane x

Now Jane, that was just cruel! I had forgotten about Daniel Craig. .. oh god.... Rupert Friend .... Orlando Bloom .... Brandon Routh ... Kevin Zegers ... Ray Stevenson from the Rome series ... James Purefoy .... Thanks a lot Jane!! :crying::mad0::crying:

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