Who Did You Tell?

[terrriho 0]

You guys are great! I haven't been banded yet, still working on it. But as usual, you have given my some good ideas. I told my husband at the outset that I did not want to tell anyone for the reasons a lot of you have outlined already. But also, as obese people we are judged and categorized because of our weight and this is stupid. I just want to be known for who I really am not just for what I weigh. Don't get me wrong, I know my weight is a big part of who I am and has colored many of my life's choices but that is nobody's business but mine and that is the way I want to keep it. Not sure who said it but it goes something like this, obesity is a very public vice. I am looking forward to being anonymous.

[amandakl 0]

I told everyone. I was so excited that I had gotten the lapband. Everyone was such a big support in my weight loss.

[jude048 0]

For what it's worth,

I told my sister and my grown son who lives with me and one friend sworn to secrecy. I didn't tell my grown daughter!

I didn't even tell my mother (also lives with me)- who has terminal cancer and has Alzheimer's - partly because I didn't want to worry her and partly because she could tell the mail man if she happens to see him in front of the house - she can't be held responsible for anything she says - but things do play on her mind and she does tend to obsess about things.

She did realize that something was going on after I came home on friday and she was curious - and she has noticed that I have lost weight and that I am not eating much - even though I sit at the table with whatever I am having - so today I told her I had gall bladder surgery (just a small white lie - to protect her) and that I had a sore tummy and that I hadn't told her because I didn't want to worry her. She was worried I was getting too weak from not eating enough - I told her this surgery would affect everything I eat for the rest of my life (the truth) and that it will be a try and see kind of thing - to determine what I can and can not have! That explanation seems to have satisfied her and now she won't be telling her friend in timbucktoo - that her daughter had her stomach stapled!!!

So - when I am ready to share I will - until then - I am just on a very strict regimen diet - testing my limits!

jude

[lianna 3]

I love these statistics!!!! So far only 35 of 105 people chose to tell EVERYONE!!! I feel much better!

[pplqueen 0]

I have told lots of people. my mom said since i was little I could not keep a secret LOL~ I am a public speaker. I talk in front of people all day long. No shyness here. Just wait until I get the weight off....... watch out!

[Dancing Queen 0]

I am having surgery June 27th and have told almost everyone. I have two sons that are age 7 & 9. They are momma's boys BIG TIME and I don't want them to worry. My husband an I are going to Mexico for the surgery right after our anniversary so we have told them Mommy and Daddy are going away for some time alone.

I might end up telling them as they would probably get mad if they find out what really happened. It will be hard to keep it quiet when I come home with gas pains and don't eat food for a couple of weeks.

[biker grammy 0]

I know what you mean. I told my girls ( 25 & 28 ) only after my surgery only bc it was m grandson b-day party that I had had herina surgery. I had to tell them something as to why I could not pick up my babys. There are 4 of them. 4 & 3 years, and 5 & 6 mon. They were very upset that I had not told them I had any surgery. I was not thinking about his b-day being 2 days after my surgery. We are going out to eat for the first time with my brother & his wife. I am worry about being able to eat. I am thinking about trying chicken. And salad. I will be starting my 4th week. What do you guys think? :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help:

[biker grammy 0]

I am not real smart when it comes to my pc. Can someone tell me step by step how to put the scales at the bottom of my message. I just love them and would love to see it for myself. And how do you change it. again. :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: :help: Thanks All.

[klynn 0]

I did not want anyone to know about it but my mom who had it with me shouts it to the roof tops and I did not have a choice, IT is hard I have people asking me all the time have you lost weight and yes I was really heavy but give me a break! It's like walking up to someone and saying are you pregnant?? I just think that it is so rude... or they say how much have you lost( it pisses me off especially skinny people) I always say 10 pounds and then if I am with my mom she blurts out NO 50 lbs but I do not mind sharing with some people but please I do not want to loose 100 lbs and have people asking if I have lost any weight or have then saying well she must have weighed @$#^&*^#&@% that is so shocking or whatever!

[klynn 0]

I told my boys they are 2.5 and 4.5 and I told them why and that when I came home it would be sore and I would eat funny, But after ahile mom would be able to play outside more and go swimming with them next summer and play and just be a better mom for them and my 4.5 year old is great he always says you getting Unfatter hah mom , I say yes he loves telling me I am doing good...It has been great for my family learning to eat better also..Just a thought.

[mslynn 0]

These are interesting stats. The majority tend to either tell everyone or tell a select few, with the rest falling in between. I love polls where you can get real data! Thanks to everyone who answered/answers this.

Mslynn

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[juliegeraci 7]

I told my family and my close friends. I'm losing quickly though so it will be easy to tell I am doing something!

[Angels 0]

Husband and necessary medical staff.

[Mystyblu 0]

I have chosen not to tell anyone except my husband about my up comming surger. There have been several other woman at work that have gotten the band or have had RNY and I have seen them asked the daily questions about how much weight they have lost. I have also heard all the other talk that goes on behide their backs. There are a lot of "face fiendly" people at work and I just refuse to contribute to it.

[Murphles 0]

I told only my husband. My daughter, 15, figured it out-left my computer sceen open. My colleagues at work-two asked me outright (from the Protein shake). I lied-one I told-"none of your business", the other-"fibroids".

I am lower bmi. I did not want to argue with people. I also have seen people's struggles here-there is no magic wand or band. Therefore, if it does not work for me-it is my private issue-with the support of this forum. I don't want to discuss it with the hoi polloi.

Having said that-if I am fabulously successful and a fat person asks me genuinely-how did you do it? -I may just tell them-success is to be shared with people looking for real solutions.