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I have lost 75 lbs and can tell it with the clothes I am wearing. But when I see pictures of myself- I think oh goodness you have such a long way to go!! How come everyone else notices it but when I look in the mirror I still see the fat image of myself?

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Probably cause you're still in the fat girl mentality...I think it's a mental thing.

Don't have any solutions though other than to maybe do comparison pictures...before to now and I'm sure you'll notice a big difference.

And of course we are always our harshest critics!

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I think many of us see that same person in the mirror. It's going to take time to "re-see" ourselvs.

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I wonder why the mentality is such. I have the same issue. I want to genuinely say "thank you" when people compliment me, however I just feel guilty like "uggh; I wish it was so much more!"

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Shifting our identity is no easy feat!!! It happens moving both ways on the scale. I know that when I was gaining weight I was quite large before it dawned on me that I was a fat chic now. My self image was still a of a thin person even though my clothing size and my reflection were clearly saying I was no longer thin. It takes time for our brain to catch up sometimes.

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Shifting our identity is no easy feat!!! It happens moving both ways on the scale. I know that when I was gaining weight I was quite large before it dawned on me that I was a fat chic now. My self image was still a of a thin person even though my clothing size and my reflection were clearly saying I was no longer thin. It takes time for our brain to catch up sometimes.

I agree. I had to remind myself that I wasn't that slender chick anymore! LOL And it was always very hard to tell what I really looked like. I would ask very close friends what size jeans they were wearing so I could get some idea of how big my butt was.

It is a work in process but it certainly helps as people notice and make comments. The first 20 pounds didn't have much affect on me but I am really feeling the next 20.

congrats attitudefree! you are doing amazing!

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i have learned to trust other people and believe them when they tell me i have lost lots of weight and that i look really nice. so i convince myself when i look at the mirror and try to see what others are seeing. but i feel the best when i actually get to buy clothes 2 sizes smaller, i smile and i say i am doing something right!!!

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