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Okay, okay, I know I'll get a whole lot of "size doesn't matter" responses to this, and it's embarrassing to even ask. However...

To us guys, our "endowment" is intimately tied to our self-esteem. Now, on that front, I'm doing okay genetically speaking, but, well, I'm fat. Obese. The result of that is that I have a big gut hiding... things from me, and a fat pad above the pubic area that also makes stuff look smaller than it really is.

Any guys (or gals for that matter) know if losing the weight will make the, um, package area more prominent?

I know, I know, it's silly and shallow, but then again -- isn't all concern over our appearance silly and shallow? I'm not counting on a dramatic change in this area, but it would be nice to have that uh... little REMINDER that "hey, I'm a man after all!"

Anyone?

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I haven't seen guys talk about it here, or at OH, but on a RNY board I used to frequent, it was a regular occurrence for guys to post how nice and surprised they were when they had the "Oh hey, there you are!" moment when they suddenly realized that Mr. Happy was coming out of hiding. :o

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Dude. You had to go there. Psst...there are ladies on this board and they seem to frequent the man room. Topic best avoided IMO. You'll find out for yourself soon enough. :o

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I've read plenty of statements from men over on OH especially on the Sex before and after WLS board discuss this very topic.

I can tell you that my lady parts have shrunk, and I had the fat pad as well but it has since shrunk substantially.

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A guy friend of mine has lost 40 pounds or so, all of which he carried in his mid section. May seem like a strange conversation to some - but yes, he did tell me that certain body parts seemed to be larger when the stomach shrank.

I think alot of it is also self confidence - which probably most of us experience as we lose weight and feel better about ourselves.

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I'm sure when the fat pad you mention shrinks back, you'll be pleasantly surprised.

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yes i have to ditto that. my husband had the rny surgery in december. he had diabetes and blood pressure issues so i am not sure which one help. weight loss or coming off some meds he was on, but he said oh my i can't believe i am going here but here goes. that he is getting the morning well you guys know b____r....

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Interesting topic :001_huh: I am looking forward to seeing down below too. Would help with maintenance issues like waxing etc. I guess we have different things we are worried about! Now as for LONGHORN I am curious about your username!

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yes i have to ditto that. my husband had the rny surgery in december. he had diabetes and blood pressure issues so i am not sure which one help. weight loss or coming off some meds he was on, but he said oh my i can't believe i am going here but here goes. that he is getting the morning well you guys know b____r....

I actually haven't had that in years. It would be nice!

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Interesting topic :001_huh: I am looking forward to seeing down below too. Would help with maintenance issues like waxing etc. I guess we have different things we are worried about! Now as for LONGHORN I am curious about your username!

Well, you know. I don't want to brag or nuthin', but......:biggrin2:

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I used to have a very nice package. When I got heavy it seemed to shrinks inside my abdomen. I thought it was going to be forever like that, you know just getting older. But after the weight loss, it has come back just like before, and i get the morning woody's again. So i guess this was an extra plus that I hadn't even planned on.

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Found this article that addresses this very thing - Will Weight Loss and Exercise Make Your Penis Bigger? | Fitness, Weight Loss, and Diet Blog by Better Body Journal

I've always heard that cardio exercise like jogging or running can help things a lot too and is the only truly natural way to improve things, because it increases blood flow and sends oxygen everywhere, including "there". On top of that (no pun intended) it helps you build up stamina and improves your performance overall.

Don't ever tell him I said this on here, but my husband was a track guy and even though he's put on a few lbs and I'm noticing a bit of a fat pad, he still definitely has very sturdy and impressive erections and good stamina to boot. O_o Actually, I have been encouraging him to pick up the Couch to 5k program... maybe my subconsciousness is in the gutter. :thumbup:

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