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Feeling a little guilty...just rambling



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I went in today for my 2 month check up with the surgeon. All seems well, I am down 50 lbs from the beginning of my pre-op diet.

Tonight I went to jazzercise and before class the instructor complemented me and asked how much I had lost. I was pretty excited to share with her because I've always been very open about my surgery and my weight (even before I started looking into wls surgery). Well, as we were sitting for an ab routine she asked if she could share my news. It took a moment for me to figure out what she was asking, but I eventually said sure and she announced the weight loss to the group. People clapped and I felt okay because most knew that I had the help of my sleeve tool.

She then must have remembered that another lady in the class had been losing weight and congratulated her too on her loss. The lady offered up that she was also down 50 lbs. I had never met this lady before (I just started back to class last month after a year absence). She was probably a little bigger than I was before I started losing this weight. I don't know why, but I just felt a little guilty. I smiled and clapped for her, but really felt like going up to her after class and sharing about my surgery. Not that I was thinking she should look into it or anything, I just thought she should know. I guess I kind of felt guilty for some reason.

Don't get me wrong, I do not think this is the "easy way out" necessarily, I've been very committed to changing my lifestyle and that takes a lot of work, but this has been much easier than any other time I have attempted to lose weight for a variety of reasons. Maybe it's just because both my brother in law and a good friend this week have mentioned how they are doing it "on their own." (My bil said this to my husband and my loving, wonderful husband had a few facts to share with him about my commitment, diet research statistics, and my new lifestyle.)

Anyway, not really much point for this post, I guess I wanted to get this off my chest.

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I rarely tell anyone. I exercise daily for a couple hours at the gym so I don't feel guilty when people ask me how I keep my weight down.

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Don't feel guilty, almost anybody can have WLS now, because it is so cheap in MX. WTG Dee Dee, CONGRATS!!!!

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"both my brother in law and a good friend this week have mentioned how they are doing it "on their own." THAT would have ticked me off...but you know what, I cannot count how many times in my 62 years I "tried to do it on my own" and could not...so I need this sleeve if I am to live 20 more (happy active) years instead of 10 more (miserable) ones. don't look back!

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Thanks for the great thoughts. I'm over my guilt now. Since I've been so open about my wls it was just unexpected that I would be in a situation like this. It's not that I'm obnoxious about announcing it, but like everything in my life, I pretty much share it all.

As for the comments, they really don't bother me at all (I teach middle school, it takes a lot to upset me:biggrin0:). I know I am not doing it on my own. I have this wonderful tool to help me. I also understand that each person has different life experiences that lead them to think and feel certain things. I actually think my bil and good friend can be successful doing the things they are doing due to their unique circumstances and will be there to support them however they need it.

Thanks again for reading and the feedback!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
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      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

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