I've mentioned my evil step-sisters on here a couple of times, and I am so livid right now. My mom called today to check on me, and she told me that she had to tell my step-sisters about my surgery. She said they had to know because the step-sisters needed to know that my parents were leaving town when I fell into critical condition after the leak repair. My heart just sank, and I am so upset. She said Caysen(my son) accidentally mentioned my "tummy leak" so my mother felt it necessary to explain my complete medical history to one of my step-sisters. Grant it, she told the one who I've gotten a bit closer with, but I know she ran off and told the other one who is seriously evil.

My mother had LapBand in 2007, and she hasn't told them. She's lost close to 80lbs, and they think she's done with diet and exercise only. We've all been sworn to secrecy to never tell anyone, especially any of the "step" family. Now, at Christmas time, are there going to be expectations, are they going to watch me eat, are they going to gossip? I just feel like crying, and I've done so good not to cry for the last 3 days.

I don't want to answer their questions, I don't want to hear their whispers. I've dealt with them for years for being fat, and now I have to deal with them on WLS.

Lol, that is exactly what I'd do. In my experience, people who do the whole "I'm sorry but I had to tell them in this situation" thing are only making an excuse for the fact that they enjoyed spreading the gossip immensely.

If she were so worried, she could have told you so and encouraged YOU to tell them. She wanted to tell them and she did, mother or not.

Two wrongs dont make a right but I would be exceedingly tempted to do the same thing back.

Two wrongs don't always make a right but sometimes it does add up to revenge. ;o)

Perhaps with the step sisters bring it up the OP could say that she wanted to do as well with her sleeve as Mom is doing with her band.

And Jacqui... I totally agree with you that mom just wanted to tell, not that there was any valid reason for her to do so.

Yeah, I go with let her squirm, its like not lowering yourself to do the same thing that she did but the effect will sure do the same.

Yeah, I go with let her squirm, its like not lowering yourself to do the same thing that she did but the effect will sure do the same.

Better yet... the OP could approach Mom, explain that it is known that bands carry so much risk and potential for problems so out of concern for Mom she told the step sisters that Mom is banded so when she has problems they can be there for help.

Flat out tell Mom you already told the step sisters but don't tell the step sisters. Then she will either wonder why they are being so quiet about it or she'll tell them herself. Heh...

Better yet... the OP could approach Mom, explain that it is known that bands carry so much risk and potential for problems so out of concern for Mom she told the step sisters that Mom is banded so when she has problems they can be there for help.

Flat out tell Mom you already told the step sisters but don't tell the step sisters. Then she will either wonder why they are being so quiet about it or she'll tell them herself. Heh...

Oh yeah -- I LIKE that idea ALOT