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In my experience, people who do the whole "I'm sorry but I had to tell them in this situation" thing are only making an excuse for the fact that they enjoyed spreading the gossip immensely.

Exactly!

Normally I'm against telling other people's secrets, but not telling them she had the lap band and letting them use her success with WLS as a weapon against you is really, really, really wrong and I think it's time the truth came out.

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Lol, that is exactly what I'd do. In my experience, people who do the whole "I'm sorry but I had to tell them in this situation" thing are only making an excuse for the fact that they enjoyed spreading the gossip immensely.

If she were so worried, she could have told you so and encouraged YOU to tell them. She wanted to tell them and she did, mother or not.

Two wrongs dont make a right but I would be exceedingly tempted to do the same thing back.

Two wrongs don't always make a right but sometimes it does add up to revenge. ;o)

Perhaps with the step sisters bring it up the OP could say that she wanted to do as well with her sleeve as Mom is doing with her band.

And Jacqui... I totally agree with you that mom just wanted to tell, not that there was any valid reason for her to do so.

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Yeah, I go with let her squirm, its like not lowering yourself to do the same thing that she did but the effect will sure do the same.

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Yeah, I go with let her squirm, its like not lowering yourself to do the same thing that she did but the effect will sure do the same.

Better yet... the OP could approach Mom, explain that it is known that bands carry so much risk and potential for problems so out of concern for Mom she told the step sisters that Mom is banded so when she has problems they can be there for help.

Flat out tell Mom you already told the step sisters but don't tell the step sisters. Then she will either wonder why they are being so quiet about it or she'll tell them herself. Heh...

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Better yet... the OP could approach Mom, explain that it is known that bands carry so much risk and potential for problems so out of concern for Mom she told the step sisters that Mom is banded so when she has problems they can be there for help.

Flat out tell Mom you already told the step sisters but don't tell the step sisters. Then she will either wonder why they are being so quiet about it or she'll tell them herself. Heh...

Oh yeah -- I LIKE that idea ALOT

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