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I'm 12 days post op...I've been doing pretty good as far as eating...until last night ! I'm on creamies and mushies...so I've been doing Soups and pudding and mashed potatoes and grits...I was visiting my sister last night and they were eating the one thing I've been saying I wanted so bad...pizza ! Somehow in my brain I figured I can maybe eat just the cheese and pepperoni..I was thinking cheese is mushy when it's melted right ? Well the first two swallows went down and I was thinking yay..then the third got stuck ! Terrible feeling...I drank some Water and could actually feel it going around what was stuck but thank goodness it went down....LESSON LEARNED...I know my stomach is still healing and I know I wasn't ready...I will not waiver from my planned diet during the healing process again...I laid in bed last night thinking there are really going to be certain foods I may never eat again...I woke up very sad...and I've been crying ever since...I feel ashamed and embarrassed that I'm crying over food...food is everywhere and everyone is just eating and taking big bites and swallowing with no problem...eating whatever they want and how much they want...excuse the pity party...food has been the way I cope for so long...I'm an emotional eater and a binge eater.....the healing process in my head is going to take way longer than my body ! I choose this...I do not regret it..it's gonna be a process and not an easy one...I'm just glad that I can post on here and get it out and not feel judged because I know you guys have been there and some may feel the same. Lord give me strength !

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I'm 12 days post op...I've been doing pretty good as far as eating...until last night ! I'm on creamies and mushies...so I've been doing Soups and pudding and mashed potatoes and grits...I was visiting my sister last night and they were eating the one thing I've been saying I wanted so bad...pizza ! Somehow in my brain I figured I can maybe eat just the cheese and pepperoni..I was thinking cheese is mushy when it's melted right ? Well the first two swallows went down and I was thinking yay..then the third got stuck ! Terrible feeling...I drank some Water and could actually feel it going around what was stuck but thank goodness it went down....LESSON LEARNED...I know my stomach is still healing and I know I wasn't ready...I will not waiver from my planned diet during the healing process again...I laid in bed last night thinking there are really going to be certain foods I may never eat again...I woke up very sad...and I've been crying ever since...I feel ashamed and embarrassed that I'm crying over food...food is everywhere and everyone is just eating and taking big bites and swallowing with no problem...eating whatever they want and how much they want...excuse the pity party...food has been the way I cope for so long...I'm an emotional eater and a binge eater.....the healing process in my head is going to take way longer than my body ! I choose this...I do not regret it..it's gonna be a process and not an easy one...I'm just glad that I can post on here and get it out and not feel judged because I know you guys have been there and some may feel the same. Lord give me strength !

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I went through that mourning phase as well but im happy to say I can pretty much have everything and anything with the exception of tuna fish.... Actually, I CAN have it, I just have to be a little more careful when I do. I thought I wasn't gonna be able to have my favorite red meats (steak & ribs) and I can as long as I eat slowly, take small bites and chew the hell out of them. So, just because you can't have it right now, doesn't mean you will NEVER be able to. In the meantime, yes, follow the plan to a T

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I went through that mourning phase as well but im happy to say I can pretty much have everything and anything with the exception of tuna fish.... Actually, I CAN have it, I just have to be a little more careful when I do. I thought I wasn't gonna be able to have my favorite red meats (steak & ribs) and I can as long as I eat slowly, take small bites and chew the hell out of them. So, just because you can't have it right now, doesn't mean you will NEVER be able to. In the meantime, yes, follow the plan to a T

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I most deff will ! :-)

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i think it isnt the food you are missing or that i was, but the amounts of food i ate..

i ate when ever, what ever...that is what i started missing, not the food.

you can eat whatever you want...after you heal, including pizza...i had some on wednesday..try not to dwell too much, allow yourself to heal, and you will be eating again...boils down to choices, better choices and splurges every now and again....no dieting anymore

ps, for best results, always follow what the dr advised you to

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i think it isnt the food you are missing or that i was, but the amounts of food i ate..

i ate when ever, what ever...that is what i started missing, not the food.

you can eat whatever you want...after you heal, including pizza...i had some on wednesday..try not to dwell too much, allow yourself to heal, and you will be eating again...boils down to choices, better choices and splurges every now and again....no dieting anymore

ps, for best results, always follow what the dr advised you to

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I'm 12 days post op...I've been doing pretty good as far as eating...until last night ! I'm on creamies and mushies...so I've been doing Soups and pudding and mashed potatoes and grits...I was visiting my sister last night and they were eating the one thing I've been saying I wanted so bad...pizza ! Somehow in my brain I figured I can maybe eat just the cheese and pepperoni..I was thinking cheese is mushy when it's melted right ? Well the first two swallows went down and I was thinking yay..then the third got stuck ! Terrible feeling...I drank some Water and could actually feel it going around what was stuck but thank goodness it went down....LESSON LEARNED...I know my stomach is still healing and I know I wasn't ready...I will not waiver from my planned diet during the healing process again...I laid in bed last night thinking there are really going to be certain foods I may never eat again...I woke up very sad...and I've been crying ever since...I feel ashamed and embarrassed that I'm crying over food...food is everywhere and everyone is just eating and taking big bites and swallowing with no problem...eating whatever they want and how much they want...excuse the pity party...food has been the way I cope for so long...I'm an emotional eater and a binge eater.....the healing process in my head is going to take way longer than my body ! I choose this...I do not regret it..it's gonna be a process and not an easy one...I'm just glad that I can post on here and get it out and not feel judged because I know you guys have been there and some may feel the same. Lord give me strength !

I'm 12 days post op...I've been doing pretty good as far as eating...until last night ! I'm on creamies and mushies...so I've been doing soups and pudding and mashed potatoes and grits...I was visiting my sister last night and they were eating the one thing I've been saying I wanted so bad...pizza ! Somehow in my brain I figured I can maybe eat just the cheese and pepperoni..I was thinking cheese is mushy when it's melted right ? Well the first two swallows went down and I was thinking yay..then the third got stuck ! Terrible feeling...I drank some Water and could actually feel it going around what was stuck but thank goodness it went down....LESSON LEARNED...I know my stomach is still healing and I know I wasn't ready...I will not waiver from my planned diet during the healing process again...I laid in bed last night thinking there are really going to be certain foods I may never eat again...I woke up very sad...and I've been crying ever since...I feel ashamed and embarrassed that I'm crying over food...food is everywhere and everyone is just eating and taking big bites and swallowing with no problem...eating whatever they want and how much they want...excuse the pity party...food has been the way I cope for so long...I'm an emotional eater and a binge eater.....the healing process in my head is going to take way longer than my body ! I choose this...I do not regret it..it's gonna be a process and not an easy one...I'm just glad that I can post on here and get it out and not feel judged because I know you guys have been there and some may feel the same. Lord give me strength !

You are absolutely correct to identify your feelings as mourning. For obese people, food is often turn to food to cope with stress, boredom, and other situations. For the weight loss journey to be successful, it is necessary to identify and put intoractoce alternative ways to cope with our feelings and life stress, and change our relationship with food. We must learn to eat to live, not live to eat.

While it is correct that there will be some foods which you may never be able to eat again, over time I have been able to eat just about anything I did before my band is placed. Favorites such as broccoli cooked the way I like it, asparagus, and fresh pineapple are no longer tolerated. But very thin crust pizza is ok ( I've had 2 pieces in 18 months), among other questionable food choices.

We usually can eat just about anything post band, but just because we can eat something does not mean that we should. I understand the temptations all around us. Sometimes we just have to be content with a bite instead of an entire piece of pizza.

My post is from the perspective of someone who has been banded for awhile, and not just post op. At present, it is essential that you adhere closely to the post op stages recommended by your surgeon.

The future with food choices is not totally bleak, but you must understand your trigger foods and avoid them if you cannot be satisfied with a bite.

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I'm 12 days post op...I've been doing pretty good as far as eating...until last night ! I'm on creamies and mushies...so I've been doing Soups and pudding and mashed potatoes and grits...I was visiting my sister last night and they were eating the one thing I've been saying I wanted so bad...pizza ! Somehow in my brain I figured I can maybe eat just the cheese and pepperoni..I was thinking cheese is mushy when it's melted right ? Well the first two swallows went down and I was thinking yay..then the third got stuck ! Terrible feeling...I drank some Water and could actually feel it going around what was stuck but thank goodness it went down....LESSON LEARNED...I know my stomach is still healing and I know I wasn't ready...I will not waiver from my planned diet during the healing process again...I laid in bed last night thinking there are really going to be certain foods I may never eat again...I woke up very sad...and I've been crying ever since...I feel ashamed and embarrassed that I'm crying over food...food is everywhere and everyone is just eating and taking big bites and swallowing with no problem...eating whatever they want and how much they want...excuse the pity party...food has been the way I cope for so long...I'm an emotional eater and a binge eater.....the healing process in my head is going to take way longer than my body ! I choose this...I do not regret it..it's gonna be a process and not an easy one...I'm just glad that I can post on here and get it out and not feel judged because I know you guys have been there and some may feel the same. Lord give me strength !

I'm 12 days post op...I've been doing pretty good as far as eating...until last night ! I'm on creamies and mushies...so I've been doing soups and pudding and mashed potatoes and grits...I was visiting my sister last night and they were eating the one thing I've been saying I wanted so bad...pizza ! Somehow in my brain I figured I can maybe eat just the cheese and pepperoni..I was thinking cheese is mushy when it's melted right ? Well the first two swallows went down and I was thinking yay..then the third got stuck ! Terrible feeling...I drank some Water and could actually feel it going around what was stuck but thank goodness it went down....LESSON LEARNED...I know my stomach is still healing and I know I wasn't ready...I will not waiver from my planned diet during the healing process again...I laid in bed last night thinking there are really going to be certain foods I may never eat again...I woke up very sad...and I've been crying ever since...I feel ashamed and embarrassed that I'm crying over food...food is everywhere and everyone is just eating and taking big bites and swallowing with no problem...eating whatever they want and how much they want...excuse the pity party...food has been the way I cope for so long...I'm an emotional eater and a binge eater.....the healing process in my head is going to take way longer than my body ! I choose this...I do not regret it..it's gonna be a process and not an easy one...I'm just glad that I can post on here and get it out and not feel judged because I know you guys have been there and some may feel the same. Lord give me strength !

You are absolutely correct to identify your feelings as mourning. For obese people, food is often turn to food to cope with stress, boredom, and other situations. For the weight loss journey to be successful, it is necessary to identify and put intoractoce alternative ways to cope with our feelings and life stress, and change our relationship with food. We must learn to eat to live, not live to eat.

While it is correct that there will be some foods which you may never be able to eat again, over time I have been able to eat just about anything I did before my band is placed. Favorites such as broccoli cooked the way I like it, asparagus, and fresh pineapple are no longer tolerated. But very thin crust pizza is ok ( I've had 2 pieces in 18 months), among other questionable food choices.

We usually can eat just about anything post band, but just because we can eat something does not mean that we should. I understand the temptations all around us. Sometimes we just have to be content with a bite instead of an entire piece of pizza.

My post is from the perspective of someone who has been banded for awhile, and not just post op. At present, it is essential that you adhere closely to the post op stages recommended by your surgeon.

The future with food choices is not totally bleak, but you must understand your trigger foods and avoid them if you cannot be satisfied with a bite.

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