4 days Post Op and Having a Moment

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

It's hitting me now that my life has changed . I have been snappy and emotional and hungry ! I'm sipping 2 oz every 15 mins and its a lot. My husband is being an ******* and doesn't understand . This is rough right now and I love my mom and I'm recovering here at her house and I don't need anyone coming in every 20 mins. I need quiet , absolute quiet !

hey GF

congrats on your surgery and bless your heart for wanting some peace and quiet...i think its sweet mom is checking on you every so often even though i feel like you, leave me alone ......i was grumpy......aka let me say i was downright bit*chy....it will pass...you are just out of major surgery, its hurting a smidge, somewhat uncomfortable, your hungry, thirsty, trying to do whats right, sore to move, gassy, heck yeah you need to vent and then chill....it will pass...each day it does get easier.....and in no time you will back to your wonderful happy and beautiful self. ......keep sipping and then sip some more...and then keep on......hang in there GF

[PrettyThick1 1,860]

I'm right there with you! Dang this is hard!! I'm thinking what the heck did i do..

I think we all felt that way. It gets better, hang in there.

[amy alexander 9]

I think we all felt that way. It gets better' date=' hang in there.[/quote']

Thank you!

[Alivami@12 46]

One step at a time and breathe. My daughter was angry at me for the wls but now that she sees that I'm loosing weight and happy, she's coming along. Maybe hubby (men can act like kids) is just worried. When I feel I'm loosing it, I rush to lapband talk for comfort. Keep up good work.

[txsonicguy 262]

One step at a time and breathe. My daughter was angry at me for the wls but now that she sees that I'm loosing weight and happy' date=' she's coming along. Maybe hubby (men can act like kids) is just worried. When I feel I'm loosing it, I rush to lapband talk for comfort. Keep up good work.[/quote']

Why was your daughter angry?

[txsonicguy 262]

One step at a time and breathe. My daughter was angry at me for the wls but now that she sees that I'm loosing weight and happy' date=' she's coming along. Maybe hubby (men can act like kids) is just worried. When I feel I'm loosing it, I rush to lapband talk for comfort. Keep up good work.[/quote']

Why was your daughter angry?

[GixxerGirl77 7]

I about cried just reading this thread. I was banded july 23rd....and not only have I been crazy emotional since I got home from the hospital....but my mother, kids, AND my husband have been insensitive and even downright MEAN. In 6 yrs of marriage my husband calls me every night from work on his break at 11....without fail. Our fight tonight was so bad that he didnt call...for the first time ever...and left the house without saying I love u.....which he also never does...even when he's mad. I vented to 1 friend on the phone......I sucked the cheese off cheetos (I hope im not the only one whose ever done that). At my 1 week post appt (that I had to have the fri after surgery due to schedule issues) I lost 5 lbs since my 2 week liquid diet and surgery. In 2 1/2 weeks of eating hardly anything.....I lost 5 lbs. Thats the least of my worries though. My mother made a huge feast of pancakes for my daughter today-which she never does. My back neck and shoulders are still killing me. Right now im so disappointed in the ppl who are supposed to love me unconditionally....and imso depressed that I would b ok with a meteor or a sinkhole st this point.......

[Alivami@12 46]

@txsonicguy, yes she was angry but more scared. Now she's planning meals with me

[Halimah05 2]

I can definitely understand the lack of family support. As maybe my husband too is going through depression over losing his eating partner or just a chance to kick me when I'm down. I haven't figured it out yet so I understand everyones pain. I just hang in there and do what I can do. I got banded July 18

Halimah

[RwSample 17]

I am so sorry everyone's support system is falling to bits! I wish for you that you could step back and look at the situation from the outside. It would be so fantastic to have a loving, lapband educated home support system.... but if you do not....... you have resources! You have yourself to begin with. You are strong! You must be! You made this scarey decision and have embarked on a HUGE adventure. It your family members are not interested or are unable to make the trip along side you, you still do not have to be alone. I noticed a mentor section on this website, and i also would love to be a lapband buddy. I am going to need one too! I am scheduled tentatively for September 6 surgery. My son and daughter-in-law and their two little ones, live with my husband and I. my Daughter-in-law loves to bake. On the day of my first appointment with True results, I came home to find she had baked a pie. My husband says he would rather invest in a patio than a band. Then he says he is sorry, get the band, then the patio cost more than we thought it would and he wants me to wait..... I told him I NEED the band, and I'm getting it. I guess I will just have to be super strong even at home with all the sweets coming in to the house. I'm doing this for me, and it would be great to have them help me, but i guess it is really my own problem. I'm not going to be bitter toward them, I just consider them a big ignorant of my needs, and disrespectful, and human. PS I have donated my winter clothes already because i DO NOT want to be that size come winter I hope I am not dumb! lol. One more thing! if you are not eating much and not losing much have your thyroid tested again. Make sure you are getting your exercise and enough Water. Let me know if today is a better day! I'm in Houston. Where are you? Robin.

[fearfefe 23]

@Rwsample - I'm in Houston also..i understand just what you are going through...the ones i thought would be supported was not (just a few of them). my daughter is my number one supporter and my mother. lol my daughter just want me to get to her size so she can borrow my clothes... everyone else feel that since i lost 15lbs in 2wks on the pre op diet i can do it without the band.....like i tell them all easy said than done. the band is just a tool it don't hold calories.

[dawalsh 919]

You are worth it! Not just because you'll be losing weight but you'll be healthier in the process! Now your hubby can't grieve because you'll be healthier can he? Hang in there and it's for you, not anyone else but you! Sometimes we have to be a little selfish if it's for the improvement of our health! Here's to healthy living!

[akwright68 114]

No matter what, you did this for your health - we all did. My hubby has good days and bad, but it is really up to us to be strong in our resolve. I was banded in February and each day brings a new challenge, but I am successfully beating every one. WE CAN do this.

[fashionstylist 458]

I can definitely understand the lack of family support. As maybe my husband too is going through depression over losing his eating partner or just a chance to kick me when I'm down. I haven't figured it out yet so I understand everyones pain. I just hang in there and do what I can do. I got banded July 18

Halimah

I understand that eating buddy thing ' !

[fashionstylist 458]

Ladies I am in Houston as well!. Things are better. Now that he's seeing my results I getting lots of support. I am currently 30 lbs down as of today and I am stoked . I know I couldn't have some this on my own. I'm loving working out and I am able to get back in clothes I ha met been able to wear in over a year . Rock on ladies ' ! U can do it !