Feel like i cant go out.

[hayley_94 13]

Hi

Im just short of a moth since I was banded. But ever since I feel like I can't go out. I go to work fine but I work in an office on my own!

Just the thought of going out makes me feel sick and start to panic, I get shaky, feel like I'm going to be sick, and I start to cry.

Iv been invited out to a lot of events that are coming up, one is this Saturday.

I don't know what to do, how to stop feelin like this. Before my op I didn't have any problems like this going out wouldn't normally bother me. Iv started my own business in adult toys and I would have been quite happy to go into someone else's house and talk sex all night. But now just the thought of going anywhere sends me funny.

It's really hard for me to explain how I feel. Iv tried to talk to my boyfriend but he doesn't understand, i have also got a friend who I talk to quite a lot and she is telling me to go to the doctors but I'm scared of doing that.

U feel like everyone is looking at me and talking about me. And it sounds stupid I know that but I can't stop it

Is or has anyone felt the same?

[kll724 3,055]

Sending you (((hugs))). I agree with your friend, talk to a doctor. Its sounds like you are getting agoraphobia. The longer you let it fester, the worse it will become. Please seek help! You are strong, best wishes! Karen :wub:

[bambam31 168]

Anxiety is normal but it will pass. Progress breeds confidence and new confidence continues to raise the bar... I remember being scared to death to be seen without a shirt and now I have days that I'm allergic to shirts... :-) If you surpassed the anxiety of marketing products you'll whip this no problem!

Brad

[Veronica68 81]

I agree- I would talk to somebody, a counselor could help you sort out your anxiety. Good luck! Hope you feel better soon!

[lisamase 52]

Anxiety. I understand how you feel and wonder if I am going thru the same. I work from home so I only leave to take my son to and from daycare and go to gym. Plus I think we're anxious being faced with temptation at parties. Remember others don't know how you feel or what ur thinking so "fake it till you make it" and so don't be afraid to ask ur dr for something. Good luck.

[Adrienne21 106]

You shouldn't be scared to talk to your doctors. They are there to help you. I've always felt like people were always looking and talking about me because I was almost 400lbs. I get it from strangers, family(which hurts the most), so called friends. You made the choice to change your life by getting the band. Once you start shedding those pounds you will feel better health wise and in confidence. People will start noticing the changes in you. its hard to say ignore what others say and think but its true. its about how you feel. be young and beautiful ,a lot of people are on your side.

[PrettyThick1 1,860]

Hi

Im just short of a moth since I was banded. But ever since I feel like I can't go out. I go to work fine but I work in an office on my own!

Just the thought of going out makes me feel sick and start to panic, I get shaky, feel like I'm going to be sick, and I start to cry.

Iv been invited out to a lot of events that are coming up, one is this Saturday.

I don't know what to do, how to stop feelin like this. Before my op I didn't have any problems like this going out wouldn't normally bother me. Iv started my own business in adult toys and I would have been quite happy to go into someone else's house and talk sex all night. But now just the thought of going anywhere sends me funny.

It's really hard for me to explain how I feel. Iv tried to talk to my boyfriend but he doesn't understand, i have also got a friend who I talk to quite a lot and she is telling me to go to the doctors but I'm scared of doing that.

U feel like everyone is looking at me and talking about me. And it sounds stupid I know that but I can't stop it

Is or has anyone felt the same?

Please talk to your doctor or a counselor, what you are experiencing is not normal and I don't believe it's related to the band. Please keep us posted.

[LadyDreadHead 90]

Anxiety issues aren't logical. All of a sudden the things that you've been doing for years can cause you to feel like you are choking, or your heart may feel like it's beating too fast. Or as in your case, you may feel sick to the stomach. Anxiety can manifest in many ways.

I was a therapist for years. I've also, had an anxiety disorder for years. In addition, I've dealt with having agoraphobia. While I'm doing a lot better now, there are still times when I have anxiety issues.

Talking with your doctor, or a therapist, can help you get a handle on things. It may be that the anxiety you are experiencing is a temporary emotional reaction to learning to live with your band. Or, it may be an anxiety disorder. The only way to know for sure what it is and how to deal with it is to consult a professional. If it is an anxiety disorder, your symptoms may worsen without help. You sound like a very strong, independent woman. Just remember, even strong women need help from time to time.

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[BeachBish 123]

Whoooaaa! I CAN RELATE!

Our choices are forced to be different! Life is different! Our mind set is different!

I too feel as if those who know are constantly looking me up AND down...comparing...wondering...asking. Someone asked after 12 days ... "So since you are feeling better, would you have this again" OHHH MYYYYY...doesn;t it take like a year to be able to answer THAT question???

I think it takes a bit to shed all of the anesthesia out of your system therefore making you batSH&%cray cray for a bit!!

Hold your head high take a gulp and GO FOR IT!!! :wub: WE GOT THIS!! This morning was my first trip back to the gym in about 6 months...and even that took some gumption!

[lisacaron 5,075]

You have just made a major change to your life. You underwent major surgery and you are not the same as you were before. You are better then you were before, because you took control of your life, and made changes to it for the better. That is where you are right now, you are at a cross roads where fear and anxiety are taking control over you and your life. You don't have to accept that. I agree with everyone here when they say speak to someone, and you are reaching out and we are responding to you, and we are all here to support you.

Sometimes it takes a little more, and a councelor, therepist, or even your doctor family or friend can be there to hold your hand and help you make the next steps.

Don't lock yourself in. Not in your house, or in your mind or anywhere else. Take back your control so that you can take the steps you need to feel secure and safe again.

Get out there and shake a tail feather, let the world see how strong you are and it's great for weightloss too!

[Cwalband 215]

I see where you are coming from, Anxiety can be a nasty thing. Can hinder a lot, so I would say the same as others... maybe set an apt with the Doc and see if that helps. I'm sorry you are going through this, just added stress! Hope you start feeling better soon and get back to your normal self soon! Best Wishes! Let us know how you are doing!!!!!

[Miss Katie* 13]

Hayley-

I completely understand where your coming from. Pre-band I always had some anxiety but nothing major. @ my two-week post-op visit I just completely broke down on my doctor (who also is a close friend, so not your typical doctor-patient relationship). She started me on 50mg of Zoloft a day, after a week or so of taking it I felt great. I know some people can deal with anxiety without medication and I think that is amazing, but unfortunately I am not one of those people. I recommend talking to your doctor. Don't let this keep you in, your going to loose plenty of weight and you gotta get out there girl to show it off!

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

i found the larger i was, the more inward i became

totally disrupting people's view of the fat people being jolly huh...i agree with all the posts/comments, maybe talking to someone could help..i say if you can why now.......but i i also found, the more i lose, the more i am out and about..its like here i am world........its fun to hear hub tell me to slow down or he's tired....

hang in there...i know i didnt offer nothing spectacular but sending you big hugs from NC

[hayley_94 13]

Thank you all for your replays and advise.

I thought I was going ok until last night I went to a family BBQ and I was fine for a few hours until more people turned up and I can only describe what happened as a voice in my head telling me what people where thinking about me. Making me more and more nervous and wanting the ground to swallow me up.

I didn't last too long after that before I had to go inside where I broke down crying.

Safe to say I'm going the doctors on Monday!! I can't cope like this and I can't let it get any worse. X

[dawalsh 919]

(((Hugs)))