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The doctor's office called yesterday and I was approved. I knew I would be but now this is so real exciting and scary.... I know the band is a great tool. I tried for the past 28 years to lose weight I have been on a diet since I was 10 . Sigh.... I'm excited and nervous. It seems like life will resume as normal after I make it to solids again. I already eat pretty healthy and I feel with the band I won't be hungry as often. I have been doing the research and know what my part is to make the band work for me. Now why am I so scared??? I m afraid of the unknown as this is new to me..... I told my best friend yesterday and she was hesitant and supportive I think she reacted like I did the first time the doctor suggested this.... Then my ex decided we should try again... I'm not sure if I want to I am focusing on me but we do love each other and have a lot of history but I am afraid to tell him. He loves me as is fat and all when I lose the 150 pounds I plan on losing then what ...and what about the excess skin 150lbs has a lot of skin involved I'm sure. I walk 3x a week and spin 2-3 a week with some sculpting classes. After the surgery I plan on stepping it up once I receive medical clearance. I have a trainer in mind and all. So I have a plan did the research and am ready so why am I happy but full of anxiety? How do you all feel after being banded ? Did anyone have these fears? Any input will help I read the threads to get a sense of this unknown new life style. Btw I also have a tremendous support system from my family n select friends I told...

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My surgery is June 26 and I too am nervous! My husband is supportive although there are quite a few who aren't. My husband has loved me at my smallest AND my largest. I'm very sure he won't mind the extra skin. Especially if I'm healthier, happier and more confident.

Keep working out and drink LOTS of Water. I've read that those things help with toning skin. And don't rush it! These things take time! Congrats and good luck!!!!

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stick focus on yourself and don't add the stress of a relationship for once put yourself first its is hard to do that part but you need to at this point. I think we confuse excitement as fear sometimes you will be fine and very successful with this final piece of the weight loss puzzle.

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I agree to keep focus on yourself. I can't tell you what is right for you, but I would hold off on picking things up with your ex. Seems like your still friends, which is great. He will be there when your ready.

You seem to have a great attitude! I think any feelings around WLS are legitimate for sure. People react differently. I was mostly just really excited. I was self pay so the money I spent deffinately motivated me to be successful.

Yes, extra skin will be an issue. But like you said, you will be a healthier you.

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You have to focus on yourself and your health, not some guy and not your friends. You have to do what is best for you regardless of what they like or agree with. This is especially true of your ex. Let's face it, he's been your ex multiple times for a reason. Obviously there's some real issues there and if he can't accept you at a healthy weight then there's yet another sign it's time to let him go. But please, don't make the mistake of sacrificing your health for an "ex".

As far as skin, yes chances are good you'll have some. Some people are lucky and don't but really it all boils to you. Genetics, skin elasticity, how long you've carried the weight, age, and whether not you smoke. All these things play a role in excess skin.

Speaking from personal experience: I've lost over 200 pounds and I have a lot of excess skin. But, I'll take the skin over the fat any day. I can easily hide the excess skin and still look great. There is absolutely no hiding 200 pounds of fat.

Best wishes on whatever you decide.

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The doctor's office called yesterday and I was approved. I knew I would be but now this is so real exciting and scary.... I know the band is a great tool. I tried for the past 28 years to lose weight I have been on a diet since I was 10 . Sigh.... I'm excited and nervous. It seems like life will resume as normal after I make it to solids again. I already eat pretty healthy and I feel with the band I won't be hungry as often. I have been doing the research and know what my part is to make the band work for me. Now why am I so scared??? I m afraid of the unknown as this is new to me..... I told my best friend yesterday and she was hesitant and supportive I think she reacted like I did the first time the doctor suggested this.... Then my ex decided we should try again... I'm not sure if I want to I am focusing on me but we do love each other and have a lot of history but I am afraid to tell him. He loves me as is fat and all when I lose the 150 pounds I plan on losing then what ...and what about the excess skin 150lbs has a lot of skin involved I'm sure. I walk 3x a week and spin 2-3 a week with some sculpting classes. After the surgery I plan on stepping it up once I receive medical clearance. I have a trainer in mind and all. So I have a plan did the research and am ready so why am I happy but full of anxiety? How do you all feel after being banded ? Did anyone have these fears? Any input will help I read the threads to get a sense of this unknown new life style. Btw I also have a tremendous support system from my family n select friends I told...

Yes these are totally normal emotions. I was banded on may 30 and remember making a similar post regarding being anxiously nervous. You will do great! It sounds like you have a positive outlook and support and thats key. **** luck!

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I was nervous last week too. Has surgery last Monday. I have a 1 yr old and broke up with his dad 6 mths ago. He is trying to come back but I'm going to focus on me and my son only. When we feel better about us, we might change and not want that same guy. Take time for you. If its meant to be, he will b there no matter what

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I am having the same emotions so I think that it's normal and quite understandable! Hang in there, you aren't alone!

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The doctor's office called yesterday and I was approved. I knew I would be but now this is so real exciting and scary.... I know the band is a great tool. I tried for the past 28 years to lose weight I have been on a diet since I was 10 . Sigh.... I'm excited and nervous. It seems like life will resume as normal after I make it to solids again. I already eat pretty healthy and I feel with the band I won't be hungry as often. I have been doing the research and know what my part is to make the band work for me. Now why am I so scared??? I m afraid of the unknown as this is new to me..... I told my best friend yesterday and she was hesitant and supportive I think she reacted like I did the first time the doctor suggested this.... Then my ex decided we should try again... I'm not sure if I want to I am focusing on me but we do love each other and have a lot of history but I am afraid to tell him. He loves me as is fat and all when I lose the 150 pounds I plan on losing then what ...and what about the excess skin 150lbs has a lot of skin involved I'm sure. I walk 3x a week and spin 2-3 a week with some sculpting classes. After the surgery I plan on stepping it up once I receive medical clearance. I have a trainer in mind and all. So I have a plan did the research and am ready so why am I happy but full of anxiety? How do you all feel after being banded ? Did anyone have these fears? Any input will help I read the threads to get a sense of this unknown new life style. Btw I also have a tremendous support system from my family n select friends I told...

Congratulations on your approval!!! I was banded on May 30th. Being nervous, excited, and anxious all at the same time somedays is normal. This is a big step and not one taken lightly. I must say as for your romance concerns I recently started dating my friend of 6 years right before I chose to have surgery. He likes heavier girls so I was scared to tell him. I would test him and say things like I heard about this LB and he would reply about people he knew that looked weird afterwards and that scared me. One day I put my big girl panties on and just said this is what I'm gonna do are you with me or should we go back to friend status? I mentioned the fear of saggy skin and a stretchy belly. His response was are you gonna change your attitude? Of course I said no and then he said then I don't care how u change ur body. I was stressing for nothing. I say all this to simply say that the right man will be happy that you're happy and show you support. Good luck to you!!

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Thank you everyone ... I feel like I'm on a emotionally roller coaster ... My fears and anxiety are mine n I keep saying I know this is a right decision. And I need to put my health first in so xcited I'm hoping the surgeon calls me back Monday with a date. It's crazy this is happening around my birthday n it's truly one of the greatest gifts I have received next to my nephew who shares my birthday ... I guess I'm just nervous cause its new :)

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I was a nervous wreck!! I am 3 days post op, and I can honestly say I am in pain, but that's from the gas and the incisions are sore but thats normal. Otherwise it's amazing how just a little bit of Water, Jello, broth, etc fills me up and I'm not walking around starving to death.

Ya wanna know the one thing that scared the poop outta me? The whole idea that there was some foreign object that is in my body. I just could not get my mind wrapped around that, now that its here I don't even think about it. It's like an extra appendage I'm so use to I'm not aware of it anymore. Well until I cough or pass gas. Then the incisions hurt. But otherwise the worst part of the entire surgery is the gas.

Dont stress yourself out! It's all good :)

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Thanks :) scared n all I'm going through it

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