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I swear I'm not a band Nazi - I totally understand the need to have something good to eat - but I just don't understand it when people go through having this surgery and then don't follow their doctor's orders AT LEAST UNTIL THEIR BODIES HAVE HEALED COMPLETELY. After that, bad choices can usually be overcome by making better choices the next meal or the next day.

Would you press on your port wound a week after surgery just to see if it will still bleed? I don't think so, but by eating the wrong food so early in the game that's exactly what you're doing to your stomach where the band has been stitched - you're pressing on it and straining the stitches. Just because you can't feel it, that doesn't mean it's not causing damage.

I kind of feel like this eating solid or even semi-solid food before your body has healed is a little like driving drunk. You may have gotten away with it today but the odds are that if you do it again and again, you're going to get caught and possibly hurt someone. In this case the person you hurt is yourself. Why would you do that?

I don't understand.

Please don't flame me for this post. I just don't understand and I don't think any amount of explanation will convince me that 'following your instincts' and 'listening to your body' is a good idea IN THIS SITUATION. You don't have nerve endings in your organs. Your body has nothing to 'say' that you'll be able to 'hear'. Besides, with regard to obesity, listening to what your body tells you to do has gotten you . . . where? Hasn't following your own advise up to this point caused you harm? Isn't that likely to continue? This band changed the configuration of your stomach, not your brain.

Having said all that, I do make poor choices on occasion - I'm not perfect and I don't know anyone who is. I just wish you'd all give yourself a chance to heal before testing the waters.

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You dont need to "understand it" if you are doing fine with your own diet. As for myself and others we are not purposely trying to sabatoge our bands. I'm a week out now and approved for full liquids and mushies. According to some lap band doctors you only need to be on Clear Liquids for one day after you've left the hospital. So it's not that you cant eat full liquids in mushies you just have to be careful not to over do it. And yes, listening to your body IS important. Not everyone here is in their situation because of band choices they've made and it's not entirely their fault for being over weight. So if you say something like "hasn't following your own advice up to this point caused you harm?", you may be only talking about yourself and not everyone else since you only know YOUR experiences and YOUR choices. It's been our advice and our choices thats gotten us to realize we need help and to get the band. It's our band-less mind that will continue to help us make the right choices. Whats right for you is not whats always right for others. So whether or not you "understand it" now, thats the explaination.

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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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