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Hey all,

I just got back from the courthouse. I am officially divorced as of 10:30 this morning.

It feels weird. Good but weird.

I got a little choked up when the judge was announcing to the court that

"evidence shows that this marriage is herby absolved and shall from this

moment on Leenerbups "Cowbell" (using fake name of course) be known as Leenerbups "Pirate".

I'm glad this happened during the Spring. Ressurrection, Renewal and rebirth, and all.

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Sad but happy for you all at the same time. I wish you newness, happiness and triumph as it is happening with every waking breath you take :(

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Thank you all.

It is bittersweet.

My husband and I were best friends, but he was a very selfish man and it was getting worse as the years went on, not better. He made $87k a year and let me file for bankruptcy when I fell ill with chronic fatigue. (I only was 5k in debt.If I needed a few stamps I had to give him money for it. His wife.

Now he is living in Russia with a woman he met on the Internet.

But I'm now with a very unselfish man who also happens to be in his 20's. GO ME!! :-p

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20's??? HELL YEAH STELLA GOT HER GROOVE BACK!!!

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Leener, I completely understand that feeling having gone through it twice myself. *hugs*

Oh, and about your man in his 20s? You go girl! My man is 16 years younger than me. He tells me that "You're only as old as the man you feel"! w00t!!

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Giiirl, this is about rebirth and renewal! It's ok for it to be about grieving too.....about letting go of something that once mattered a whole lot.

Allow the grief to happen.....get those tears out...years of backed up gunk...let it flow and imagine it like washing you clean...baptizing you anew.

I have a good feeling about the next steps! And you have a wonderful man to be your cheering section!!

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Thanks Karen. Thank you for the confirmation. Funny how one can feel that invisable shift on a day like today.

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Man in is 20's? Sixteen years younger????

Whoa! You guys are TRULY INSPIRING! Gives me hope!!

'Course, I think I'd better stay out of the 20's brackett. Having a 22-year-old son makes it just a little too weird.

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Kare you'd have NO problems getting yourself a younger man!

Hell, if I weren't married...

Oops. Hope my wife doesn't go on here.

heh heh heh (evil laugh)

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Congrats on your new life leenerbups!

Stingy Controlling Men are not worth two tears in a bucket!

You deserve only the best, so never never never settle for anything less!

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Acknowledge the change but don't waste another tear on that guy. Made you pay him back for stamps? How selfish can one man be? Maybe he used to have wonderful qualities that made you feel he was your best friend, but whoever THAT guy was, he's long gone. And suspect he won't be found in Russia.

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