feeling like a failure already

[Msluv83 53]

I been banded 1 month and 19 days and I feel like a failure already. Receiving my second fill March 13th and I'm embarrassed to see my doctor because I haven't made any progress. Every time I think about it I get overwhelmed to the point where I want to cry. I also noticed that my urine has a strange smell so now im panicking about that :'-(

[PJ Geeser 108]

youre not drinking enuf liquid if your urine smells stronger.

You are early in...dont worry about it yet...still healing. I havent lost an ounce all month and I have been doing everything correctly. You will have times like that I am told. I know I am doing well so hoping some will come off soon again.

[DELETE THIS ACCOUNT! 12,703]

You're very early in your journey and likely haven't even been back on solid foods for more than a month. It's a big adjustment and there's a lot to learn. Be patient with yourself.

Never, ever avoid your doctor either. Patient compliance is critical to success with the band and that includes regular visits. Plus, there's nothing to be embarrassed about it. It's his job to help you.

How many calories a day are you eating?

[Sai 785]

I been banded 1 month and 19 days and I feel like a failure already. Receiving my second fill March 13th and I'm embarrassed to see my doctor because I haven't made any progress. Every time I think about it I get overwhelmed to the point where I want to cry. I also noticed that my urine has a strange smell so now im panicking about that :'-(

No reason to feel like you've let yourself or your doctor down, it's all part of the normal beginnings of the lap band if you have a conservative doctor. I had a very conservative doctor who sloooowly added to my band's volume (i.e. small fill per month), and it isn't till you get around your sweet spot does the weight start coming off. Some people don't need fills, they are lucky, but I was different in that I needed multiple fills before I received the band benefits. I think I didn't start feeling it till a few months later.

Hang in there, and don't be so hard on yourself. I'm sure your doctor knows this more than any of us so don't feel embarrassed to go in. Most important part is communication with your doctor, when you go in, don't forget to tell him approximately how many cups you eat at a meal and how long it takes before you get hungry again. That way, he'll be able to determine how much he should add to your band on this visit. ((hugs))

[destynee1 417]

I agree with all of them. I was told not to worrk about weight loss the first month or so. It's the healing process and your body is goin this way and that way and needs time to get back to normal and adjust. Do you track your food on something like myfitnesspal? if not, do so! it truly makes a HUGE difference and helps to keep you on track. Hey, another tool to help you.. can't hurt !

and your next fill is my bday so... Good luck!! it will all come together soon. Oh, and also.. I didn't feel a difference till my 3rd fill with a total of 6cc.

[kll724 3,055]

After surgery, I think it was a good 2 months before I started losing any weight. I ahd lost about 25 lbs on my 6 month diet, and lost only 6 lbs on liquids diet. But after surgery, it stopped, I was also embarrassed. soon, I was my surgeon's super-star and lost 100 lbs in 1 1/2 years. hang in there! Best wishes, Karen

[☠carolinagirl☠ 18,722]

I been banded 1 month and 19 days and I feel like a failure already. Receiving my second fill March 13th and I'm embarrassed to see my doctor because I haven't made any progress. Every time I think about it I get overwhelmed to the point where I want to cry. I also noticed that my urine has a strange smell so now im panicking about that :'-(

def need to be drinking (alot) or as much as you can...need to stay hydrated so please try.....and this nonsense about not wanting to see the doctor...woman please??? did your doctor know what you weighed at surgery? did he put a lap band in you? if he did, then he knows who you are and what you look like....he will be your best ally is this whole thing...keep him on your side.

now if the scale is not moving to your satisfaction, it DOES not mean this whole thing is not working...are your clothes looser? are they too big?? do you feel better (physically)? if you said yes, then that right there is a success in my book regardless of what the scale does or does not say

to fail means to give up. are you giving up?

if you answer no, then you are NOT a failure.

[Banjo257 920]

Please know you are not alone with these feelings.

I gained two pounds and they have stayed for several days so I feel your frustration. I guess just because we have a band, it diesn't mean we aren't going to have hills and valleys. Good luck, please wish me the same.

[Pana'sNewStart 68]

Give the lapband time to its thing! You are so not a failure! The weight will come off and like carolinagirl said, I bet your clothes are looser and bigger on you. I'm sure there are NSV's (non-scale victories) all around you! Look for them. In a few months time, when you're down all those pounds, it won't matter how slowly the weight came off, only that it did

Chin up, sunshine, you're doing great!!