i went to the doctor for back pain i have never in my life felt to judged and hurt ive lost 85 pounds and after takings meds doing therapy back injections he looks at me feels my back sits down and say well i cant do surgery youre to fat !!! my jaw dropped he was the dr saying this i was fat after knowing i had the band and looked at me and made a gesture with his hands and put them around him and said theres just to much fat i cant my instruments wont reach he didnt say it nice or like a doctor would explaine it to you i went out of the office crying the way he handled it was uncalled for and hurtful his words were so hurtful im sharing this bc a doc has not right to treat a patient how ever they want based apond weight its like he didnt want to deal with me bc of my weight

I have had back trouble for years. It is one of the reasons I had LapBand surgery. Several doctors told me if I lost weight it would help my back. 75 lbs lost and I still have back trouble. My family doctor is a great doctor but his bedside manner sucks. He tells it straight and doesn't care if it hurts your feelings.

Find a new doctor. Find one who will understand how hard you are working to lose weight. Find one who is willing to help you not degrade you. Keep your head up and keep up the good work.

thanks since then hes not my doc

The truth is that if your BMI is high, you're not a good candidate for surgery. Spine doctors can be brutally honest and have the bedside manner of Atilla the Hun. Mine told me the same thing, lose weight, one way or the other, just get it done and then come back. He wanted my BMI <30. Just the risk of surgery and anesthesia makes us poor surgical candidates and even if the surgery was possible, the outcome might be compromised by our obesity. These doctors have huge egos and rely on good stats for their professional reputation. It wasn't personal, but like you, when my back doctor told me I was too fat, it hurt.

yeah it did u would think in med school they would learn manners but i understand all the terms of having to be safe but i wish he would have explained it the way you explained it that wouldnt of degraded me or made me feel like someone just emotionally raped me i just hope i can loose enough to fix my back issuse

I had my 1st (of 4) back surgeries in 2000, weighing over 220. My dr never said a word to me about my weight. Maybe its cuz they were so surprised to see a 35 yr old female in the VA hospital. (Injured on active duty). More recntly however, my dr did blame my hypertension on my fatness. And once I lost over 100 lbs, that stopped also.

Most drs skip the part in mecial school where they learn bedside manner and handwriting skills. Ur doing well with ur loss. Forget what he says. U know ur doing well. Keep it up.

Marci

thanks:) that makes me feel better i for sure keep up the good work !